The mate selection standards of modern women are probably inseparable from a "rich and handsome". In the words of the past, it is called "climbing a high branch".
What's so bad about climbing a tall branch?
There is a way is "the old nest is a mud swallow, flying up the branches to become a phoenix", this identity transformation, the improvement of quality of life, is not just a simple step or two.
Who wouldn't want to?
Therefore, don't talk about modern women, this matter is put on ancient women, in fact, they are also happy!
For example, Qin Keqing in "Dream of the Red Chamber".
Speaking of this Qin Keqing, he was originally an abandoned baby and was adopted in the YangshengTang.
At that time, although Qin Ye had been married for many years, he and his wife had never been able to come out. What to do? So he went to the health hall to adopt a man and a woman. Later, the baby boy died prematurely, and there was only one baby girl left, that is, Qin Keqing.
When Qin Ye was in his 50s, his wife actually bore him a son, named Qin Zhong.
Although Qin Keqing was an adopted daughter, Qin Ye had always regarded her as his own, and he had always concealed her origins very well. In addition, Qin Keqing was born beautiful, and when he grew up, he was even more alive to get rid of a beautiful embryo, and he also had a flowing personality.
Therefore, he married into the Ningguo Mansion and became Jia Rong's wife.
Li Yanzhai's evaluation of this is:
"Poor women have to live in the rich room."
Why does Li Yanzhai say this? It turned out that this Qin Ye was just a camp lang, that is, responsible for the repair and repair of the royal palace garden, and at best the head of a mason. And Ning Guo Mansion is the home of the patriarch of the generations.
Moreover, Qin Keqing was still only Qin Ye's adopted daughter.
Therefore, Qin Keqing was able to marry into the Ningguo Mansion and become Jia Rong's legitimate wife, but it was not like a house bird that flew up the branches and became a phoenix.
This is indeed what most women dream of.
However, specific to Qin Keqing, it was precisely the greatest misfortune and sorrow in her life.
Why?
This can be seen from the fact that after Qin Keqing married into Jia Province, the whole house was full of praise.
The first is Jia Mu, who praised her as "the first proud person among the granddaughters-in-law". Mother-in-law Youshi is no exception, and she is protecting her everywhere. Even Wang Xifeng, the demon king of the Mixed World, was like a girlfriend to her.
These plots, we can clearly see from "Dream of the Red Chamber".
However, it is for this reason that everyone has ever thought of such a question: Why does Qin Keqing have such a good popularity in Jia Province?
In fact, on this point, Cao Xueqin, through Jia Mu, has long said very clearly:
"Jia Musu knows that Qin Shi is a very appropriate person."
When it comes to talking and doing things "extremely properly," Wang Xifeng is also unyielding. However, Wang Xifeng's "extremely appropriate" always gives people a feeling of arrogance and domineering, while Qin Keqing is cautious in words and deeds, and is cautious everywhere.
It is reasonable to say that two people are about the same age, but the difference in how to do things is so big?
In fact, to put it bluntly, it is not because of Wang Xifeng's mother's family, but the Jinling Wang family is not worse than the Jia family. Her uncle was Prince Teng, a powerful figure, and she and Lady Wang were still aunts and nephews.
Is this Qin Keqing, the daughter of a small camp of Qilang, comparable?
Besides, it is not biological.
This is the problem that some women, after climbing the tall branches, have to face. There is no foundation in his mother's family, if he meets a husband like Jia Rong again, it is really not an easy task to gain a foothold in such a big family.
Qin Keqing was young, why did he die?
In addition to her "personality" and doing things that should not be done, this is also a big reason. Or, in other words, why she shouldn't do something she shouldn't, has nothing to do with it.
In this way, the matter of flying up the branches and becoming a phoenix has fascinated many women. But in fact, even if you fly up the branches, you may not be able to become a phoenix; even if you become a phoenix, it is not necessarily a great blessing.
Admittedly, there is no need to be like a swallow to build a nest in the mud.
How much sacrifice and at what cost can this be made? This is not something that any woman can do if she wants to.
Therefore, ordinary people still live the life of ordinary people.
That's how life will be better.