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Too concerned about gains and losses
Wang Yangming once said: "My generation has worked hard, only seeking to decrease day by day, not to increase by day." To reduce one point of human desire is to regain a point of heavenly reason, how brisk and free, how simple! ”
The so-called subtraction is to remove the blindness of material desires; to reduce human desires, to restore the essence of conscience.
Reduce your desires and don't care too much about gains and losses.
In this world, fame and fortune are things outside the body, and life does not bring them, and death does not bring them.
It is difficult to predict these external things, easy to get, easy to lose, and what is the use of caring.
People run around all day for external things, suffer from gain and loss, and eventually lose their inner peace, and become prisoners of desire.
Accompanying wives and children, filial piety to parents, and being close to nature, these ordinary lives that do not require too many materials are the true meaning of happiness in life.
Don't take gains and losses too seriously, just go with the flow and keep your peace of mind.
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Too concerned about other people's gossip
Wang Yangming once said: "No matter whether people laugh or not, no matter whether people slander or insult, no matter whether people are honored or humiliated, let him make progress and retreat in kung fu." ”
Leave the gossip alone, do your own thing steadily, sooner or later there will be gains.
In this world, no matter what you do, there is no shortage of gossip, don't let other people's eyes or words block your pace of progress, go your own way, let others say go.
After Wang Yangming founded "Xinxue", because of the conflict with Cheng Zhu Lixue, many people were dissatisfied, so many people began to attack Wang Yangming and maintain the orthodox status of Cheng Zhu Lixue.
They denounced "psychology" as "pseudoscience" and "heresy" and wrote to impeach Wang Yangming one after another.
Wang Yangming's reaction to this was not to respond, and there was no justification for slander.
The ancients said, "Silently, without saying." ”
In the face of those gossip, there is no need to justify anything, as long as you do it in a down-to-earth manner and get it done, those gossip will naturally disappear.
If you care too much about others, you will lose yourself in the eyes of others. As long as you look for the right direction to go, today's slander and ridicule will surely become the applause of the coming day.
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Often make decisions when you're angry
People often say one word, out of anger. At this time, the blood is rushing, and man is an uncontrolled beast.
At this time, the decision made at this time will either hurt others or hurt themselves, and it is easy to cause irreparable consequences. Therefore, controlling one's emotions and relieving one's anger is a kind of cultivation and wisdom.
In the fourteenth year of Zhengde, Wang Yangming captured Queen Ning, causing resentment among the treacherous people. After the Jingbian officers led by Zhang Zhong and Xu Tai entered Nanchang, they made all kinds of insults to Wang Yangming or deliberately provoked trouble, but Wang Yangming was unmoved.
He said, "How can there be no biased emotions such as anger in people's hearts?" It just shouldn't be. When ordinary people are angry, they can't control their feelings, and they will be too angry, and they will not be the essence of the Grand Duke. ”
To control emotions, on the one hand, we must pay attention to the tempering of small things, so that we can no longer look at the problem, maintain a neutral and peaceful stance, not biased, not angry. Over time, people themselves will have a peaceful and quiet temperament.
Usually pay attention not to accumulate emotions, anger is accumulated in bit by bit, to communicate from time to time, do not stuff things in the heart.
You can also stop communicating when you are angry and leave the scene quickly. Wait for the emotions to calm down, and then make plans.
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Often look down on others
Wang Yangming said that there is nothing outside the world. Everything is a projection of the human heart.
There is a story in the "Records of Transmission and Practice" that when Wang Yangming was visiting Nanzhen, his students pointed to the flower tree in the rock and asked him: "There is no heart outside the world, such a flower tree, which opens and falls in the deep mountains, what is the relevance of my heart?" ”
Wang Yangming replied, "When you do not look at this flower, this flower and your heart return to silence, and when you come to see this flower, the color of this flower will be understood for a while." Then you know that this flower is not outside your heart. ”
What you have in your heart, what you see is what you see.
When Su Shi and The Buddha Seal were practicing meditation together, he said to the Buddha Seal, What do you think I am like? The Seal of the Buddha said, "I see you like a Buddha." Su Dongpo said: I see you like. Su Dongpo left happily, and when he got home, he told his sister what had happened. Su Xiaomei laughed loudly, brother, you have lost again... There is a Buddha in the heart of the Buddha seal, everything in the eyes is a Buddha, Su Dongpo is not quiet in his heart, then his eyes are not pure. What is in the heart is what is seen, and what is manifested is what the self is.
Later, Su Shi went through the depreciation and drifted half of his life, he said: "I can match the Jade Emperor with the Jade Emperor, and I can accompany the Beggars of the TianYuan, and I see that there is no bad person in the world." ”
Wang Yangming once said: "I see that the streets are full of saints." ”
If a person is quiet in his heart, and abandons the worldly troubles and ugliness, and believes in the existence of the good, then everything he sees is naturally beautiful.
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Often immersed in regret
Tagore had a saying: "If you cry for missing the sun, you will also lose the stars and the moon." ”
We often regret it, and in hindsight we often think "if only it had been", but there is no regret medicine in this world to sell, immersed in regret, losing both the present and the future.
Because of his outstanding military ability, Wang Yangming was repeatedly recruited by the court to solicit thieves, and became the weapon of the court, quelling rebellion and killing people everywhere.
Lao Tzu once said: Soldiers, weapons, saints have to use them.
After each counter-rebellion, seeing the casualties on the battlefield, Wang Yangming's heart was not a taste, and remorse often appeared.
But he knew that in order to avoid more people being hurt, he must harden his heart and quickly calm the war, and instead of struggling with regret, it was better to restore post-war order.
Wang Yangming's disciple once asked him how to clear the weeds in his heart. Wang Yangming replied: "If the grass is in the way, it is advisable to go, and it is only necessary to go; even if it is not gone, it is not tired." If there is a sense of meaning, that is, the mind and body are tired, there are many places of movement. ”
Weeds are harmful, of course, to be cleaned up, but if you do not clean up occasionally, do not pay attention to the heart, the more you care, the more chaotic the heart will be, the heart staring at the unheeded weed, then the heart will be full of distractions.
Life is not satisfactory, nine times out of ten, everyone has pain and entanglement, but in the face of these "regrets", you must know how to put it down, the more you care, the more chaotic your heart is, and the whole person is controlled by emotions.
Those who go are not to be advised, but those who come can be traced. Don't be immersed in remorse, let go of the past, in order to embrace the future.
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