I think most families have yelled at their children, but often adults don't know how much this yelling hurts their children!
It seems that in the process of raising children is difficult to keep calm, often there are mothers and friends around to say that in the process of feeling children, they are a powder keg, in the face of the child's naughtiness, the carelessness of writing homework, often can't help but lose their temper, at any time may be blown up beyond recognition!
Even if you can maintain a calm attitude at the beginning, but as the number of mistakes the child makes more and more mistakes, the patience will become worse and worse, and at this time, it will not be paid attention to at all, what is the reason for the child's mistakes, and will only use a mandatory tantrum to regulate the child's behavior, but this way of yelling will only leave an indelible psychological shadow on the child, and will not bring him a good impact!
Children often hear during these yells: "Shut up! "It can't be written, what use are you!" "Get out if you don't write!" "How can you be so stupid!" "If you don't obey, you won't be wanted!" "How could I give birth to a child like you?" Wait a minute!
These words are not very familiar, is not often used! But you know how terrible these yellings are for kids!
1. The more you yell and scold, the more stupid the child behaves
Often verbal violence by parents will affect the development of the child's brain, which will hurt the child's language expression ability! It will also affect the child's memory and reflexes, which will really make the child stupid!
2. The more you yell and scold, the more inferior your child becomes
When the child is a child, it is in the stage of establishing a personality, if they are often yelled at by their parents, they will have the idea of what they are doing wrong, and they will feel that their parents do not love themselves, lack of security, over time, children will lose confidence in many things, become more and more inferior, and when doing things, they will not be recognized by their parents, which is simply a vicious circle
3. Children also learn to yell and scold to express emotions, resulting in a violent personality
Parents are the child's first teacher, from the beginning of the teeth and teeth to learn language, every growth of the child has the shadow of the parents in it, what the parents are like, the child is what they are, because in his cognition, all the parents' practices are right!
When you yell when you express emotions, they will also feel that this practice is correct, so that the child's future communication with others, including the parents' communication process is also grumpy, which will bring a very bad negative impact to the child!
4. The more you yell and scold, the more serious the child's rebellious psychology will be
In fact, many times children do wrong, they do not know that they are wrong, often need you to communicate and understand, you directly yell at the child, will only make them feel aggrieved and angry, this kind of thing often happens, for a long time will only make them have a serious rebellious psychology!
The more you yell, the more silent the children will behave, and in your yelling, the children will wrap themselves up like a shell against you in order to protect themselves. As the saying goes, do not erupt in silence, just die in silence, this negative emotion is suppressed for a long time, sooner or later there is an outbreak of moments, by this time the harm to the child has been caused, seriously affecting the child's life!
How to improve your bad mood:
Self-reflection on your own bad emotions, when you realize that your bad emotions are coming, first of all, you must divert your attention, stop the idea of yelling and scolding in time, and when you really can't stop, you can leave the place at that time and soothe your mood!
At the same time, you can also try to look in the mirror to see how terrible it is when you are angry, feel that your child is yelled at to be afraid of emotions, relieve your mood, and then communicate with your child, it will be much better!
Communicate with children equally, listen to what children say, and let them express their ideas more, so that they can have better parent-child communication!