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Reading people is an ability that makes it easier for you to identify a gentleman or a villain than ordinary people, better avoid annoyances, and more calmly deal with the calculations of others.
Reading people is a kind of wisdom, under the complex social form of people's minds, it can allow the wise to do a good job of self-protection without harming others. This ability, this wisdom, is beyond the envy of many people.
However, people only know that reading people has the art to "prevent trouble", but they ignore another skill that is more protective of themselves and easier to master than the reading of people, that is, to have a number of themselves.
"Have a number of yourself", this can also be regarded as a skill?
The answer is yes: of course.
The so-called "those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are wise." "Man is self-aware, that's what it means. If a person's understanding of himself is too shallow and impetuous, and he cannot make a correct assessment of his ability, it is easy to put himself in an embarrassing and embarrassing situation.
I've seen a short story like this:
Saying that a man had been arrested for stealing a bag of onions from someone else, the judge proposed three punishment schemes for him to choose from.
The first: eat all the onions at once;
The second type: being whipped a hundred times;
The third type: pay a fine.
The onion stealer, without hesitation, chose the first one: to eat all the onions at once. However, after only two or three of them, his eyes were "spicy" and his mouth was as uncomfortable as if it had been roasted by fire.
"I can't take a bite, so you whip me." He re-opted for a punishment that seemed "cost-effective".
However, when he was whipped fifty times, he could no longer bear the pain of flesh and skin. Again asking for a change in the punishment, he cried and shouted, "I can't fight anymore, I'm willing to pay, I'm going to pay." ”
After that, the incident began to be spread by everyone, almost becoming a very iconic joke in the city. Because the thief originally only needed to accept one punishment, but he "recognized" all three punishments.
The reason why he suffered both the "sins" he deserved and the ones he should not suffer was precisely because he did not make an objective and correct assessment of himself, first underestimating the onion's stimulation of the eyes, and then overestimating his tolerance for pain, resulting in finally personally placing himself on the "fire" of triple superimposed punishment and "roasting" it well.
A person, there is no need to be harsh on himself to be able to read people, but he must have a number of himself, must have an objective and correct assessment of himself, especially not because of overconfidence and overestimation of his own ability. Otherwise, there will be many unnecessary costs due to misjudgment or overestimation when making a decision.
A person can be sure of himself, know how many pounds he has, and be able to deal with some interpersonal relationships or thorny problems calmly and easily, and he will be more comfortable in his life.
On the contrary, it will only be clever and will be mistaken by cleverness, harming its own interests, and also sending talking materials to others after tea and dinner.
Therefore, compared to reading people, it is better to "have a number of themselves". Only by knowing yourself and facing up to your own shortcomings and advantages can you let yourself live calmly in a complicated world.
Regarding the importance of the "skill" of "having numbers to oneself" to a person, Mr. Hu Shi once made a particularly wonderful analogy, saying: If a person with a genius for poetry does not enter the Chinese department to study poetry, but prefers to go to the medical school to study surgery, then the Faculty of Letters will lose a first-class poet, while the medical community has added a third- or fourth-rate or even fifth-rate surgeon, which is a loss to the country and also to his own loss.
If a person cannot objectively and correctly evaluate himself, it will be difficult to find his own position, and even if his position is not correct, what can he expect to do? Not to mention contributing to society and to mankind.
It is admirable that a person can read people, but a person who can count himself is even more respectable. For those who have self-knowledge can distinguish between good and evil and carry between the heavy and the heavy. It will have a more positive effect on yourself, for others, for your family, and even on society.