Falling in love with someone only takes one glance, and letting go of a person takes a lifetime.
Love has a time limit, when you fall in love, you think it will be a lifetime, but you don't want to break up in the middle of the road, you struggle with you sadness, you don't give up, but in the end you can't escape the fate of the arrangement.
After two people are separated, not everyone can let go quickly, and more people need to go through a period of time, or meet the next relationship, before they can start over.
The reason is that it is still too heavy on feelings, always unwilling to forget the past, unwilling to be empty with his beauty, so foolishly looking forward to it, expecting him to turn back, expecting that feelings can be the same.
Unfortunately, to miss is to miss, he will not return to you, even if you are no longer willing to linger, it is useless, and what you lose will not come back.
At this time, all you can do is to let go, and the best way to let go of a person is actually nine words: no contact, no expectation, no looking back.
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No contact: Cut off contact with him
If you can't put a person away, you will want to contact the other person, want to find the previous feeling in frequent interactions, and even hope to keep in touch like this, just like he is still around you.
In fact, this is a kind of self-deception, since you have chosen to separate, then do not lie to yourself, continue to contact will only make yourself more nostalgic, but the final result is still unchanged.
At that time you will only be more sad, feelings are uncontrollable things, you cannot control when it starts, you cannot control when it leaves, so accept the arrangement of fate.
Acceptance is not the same as admitting fate, but let you recognize the reality, let you understand that two people have no fate, then there is no need to force, let alone contact, just cut off contact with him, slowly you can let go.
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Don't expect: Cut off his misses
The reason why many people can't put it down is that they are still looking forward to him, expecting him to look back at you, looking forward to his occasional concern.
As long as the other party still has some nostalgia, then you don't want to let go, always feel that the two people still have a chance, since they are separated now, it does not mean that they cannot start again in the future.
But the truth is that the other party has long given up his love for you, and since he has some behavior that cares about you, he only treats you as a friend, not as you think.
Everyone else is moving forward, only you are still in the same place, looking back to find out how stupid you are, he never wanted to turn back, and you are still expecting.
Forget it, don't miss him anymore, don't expect anything more from him, only in this way can you calm your heart and you can disappear from his world.
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Never look back: Break the last attachment
Not everyone can completely let go at the moment of separation, more is that it takes a period of struggle to slowly withdraw from the relationship.
In this process, some women will turn back and want to start over with each other, she will think about how beautiful the two people who were once were, and if she did it again, she would definitely cherish it.
But she forgot that there must be irreconcilable reasons for the separation of two people, and it would be the same ending again, so instead of letting herself hurt again, it was better to start forgetting now.
Just let yourself break his attachment, don't look back, don't start again, just let everything go back to the past, so that you can start better.
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Conclusion
If you want to let go of a person, you need time, as long as it is long enough, slowly you can let go.
In fact, the reason why you can't put it down is because you are still looking forward to it, and when you can't stop that miss in your heart, you will always be nostalgic for the past, and you don't want to completely let go from the bottom of your heart.
When you understand that two people have no fate, the best thing to do is not to continue to contact, but to stop disturbing, let each other get together and disperse, leave each other with a dashing back, and leave like this!
Only when you realize that the two people are truly over, no matter how much you expect, he will not come back to you, then you can slowly come out of the past and choose to start over.