I have seen a lot of sleep adjustment methods and learned a lot of baby sleep knowledge, but I don't know where to start.
It doesn't matter, this article helps you sort out your thinking.
Figure out the right needs and goals
Step 1
1. Identify the current problem first.
2. Assess your child's condition and the adult's needs to see if it is reasonable.
3. Balance the needs of adults and children, and set short-term goals and periodical goals
4. Choose a reasonable and appropriate method.
The first thing is to first figure out the sleep problems you want to solve, such as frequent night wake-up, milk sleep, can't put down the sleep, night milk, less sleep, sleep, sleep on your own, etc., first figure out the priority of these.
Then look at whether these requirements are reasonable, don't come up, I want to fall asleep on my own, I want to quit night milk.
Don't think about falling asleep and quitting night milk for 1-3 months, this is obviously unreasonable requirements.
Sleep in separate rooms for 3-4 months! Close the door and let the dog go, walk slowly and don't send it! Safety concerns are the absolute bottom line!
Right, it depends.
Evaluate which are the needs of adults and which are the needs of your baby, and then see if you can balance them.
For example, 6 months to start working, there are 2 weeks left, followed by grandma with daytime, you must quit milk sleep, it is best to fall asleep on your own, and then change to a breast milk bottle feeding. Night milk is best to quit, night wake up not too much, otherwise the mother will be too tired during the day.
Is it reasonable? In fact, reasonable, that is, the time is a little short, the requirements are slightly higher, that can be adjusted to become a breast milk bottle feeding and sleeping, night milk left once, that can be.
The short-term goal is to solve the pain points first: milk sleep and breastfeeding bottle feeding, grandma is better to bring.
Put the rest on long-term goals: falling asleep on your own, night milk
Look at what the most problems need to be solved at present, don't worry about this and worry about that, the problems in front of you don't solve first, you will always think about things later.
The most is that the nipple is not used in the end, the child sleep is very poor, sleep is less, it is difficult to sleep, the work and rest are chaotic, then first use the pacifier to rest, sleep volume, the problem of difficult to sleep is solved first, and then reduce the comfort force to quit the nipple.
Insufficient sleep, chaotic work and rest, excessive fatigue, will only make the need for reassurance higher and higher, in this case is not to consider whether reducing the degree of reassurance or what will not be bad to quit.
In addition, for example, if you want to use the Fa Bo Fa, but two of the conditions are that the child will not cry to vomit or the separation anxiety is very serious, if there is really inappropriate, don't force it.
Of course, if someone in the family does not agree with this method, or they can't accept it, then there is an obstacle in the implementation, and it will definitely fail.
Don't always listen to people, listen to people, and those people won't help you with your children.
Basic troubleshooting, be prepared.
The second step is to check the foundation, improve the sleep environment, adjust the work and rest, strengthen sleep cognition, establish sleep rituals, strengthen activities, establish emotional attachment, and prepare.
Don't try to skip the basics!
Don't think about saving trouble, just start sleep training, and then you fail and blame sleep training for being too cruel.
What are the foundations?
1. Sleeping environment: Simply put, it is not appropriate for what temperature, light, and sound are appropriate.
Yes, most people think "this must be no problem", in fact, there are quite a few times that the baby is too hot or too cold. This should not be considered good by adults, and carefully observe the baby's condition.
2. Work and rest: work and rest should be adjusted first, at least there must be a little law, can not be messy, the child's biological clock is messy, then how to determine whether the child is sleepy or not.
3. Sleep Cognition: Don't be lazy! Especially the baby 6 months ago, when sleeping, only returned to the room, woke up to take her to the living room, it is best to go out and hang out.
When you are active, don't always put your baby on the bed, and establish the difference between awake activity and sleep.
！ Sleep ritual: a set of processes after going back to the room at bedtime, such as closing the curtains, wearing a sleeping bag, turning off the lights, holding and singing for a while, long-term repetition, the baby will know that it is time to sleep!
4. Activities: Let the baby move more, the small month old practice to look up, the older one plays on the stomach, and then the older one sits, crawls, and consumes physical strength.
5. Social & Emotional: The sister-in-law is gone, returns from the confinement center, is hospitalized for a period of time, the caregiver changes, the baby is insecure, not used to it. Sleep problems in such a situation, don't rush to change, first give some time to establish emotional attachment.
Do you want to work or change your sleep behavior first
The third step is to establish a sleep adjustment plan, regular work and rest, and sleep behavior training
Establish a sleep adjustment plan, plan when to start executing, avoid travel, get vaccinated. Try to contact too many people as little as possible in a short period of time to avoid cold infection.
Most of the time, it is still recommended to adjust the work and rest first, because many children's sleep problems are not caused by sleep associations, and often there will be a good improvement after adjusting the work and rest.
So when to change the falling asleep behavior first, or is it said that the falling asleep behavior is carried out at the same time as the work and rest?
Obviously, because of sleep associations, frequent awakenings, such as always falling asleep with milk, must wake up every 1-2 hours. And use gentle transition improvement methods, such as pantry gentle removal method, 5S soothing method 3 months ago, etc.
If you use the pick-up and drop method, the Farber method, the disappearance method, etc., the span is relatively large, and you go directly to sleep on your own, then the schedule must be adjusted for at least 1-2 weeks, so as to ensure that the baby must be sleepy every time he falls asleep.
The training of falling asleep behavior is best to get the support of the family, and it is better to have helpers. Also, see how others share their successes.
As I will mention, the change in sleep behavior must start from falling asleep at night, and many people's sharing has also been mentioned, but it is still always the beginning of seeing someone's small sleep during the day. Or, without any preparation, it started very suddenly, and the results can be imagined.
Joe's dad's broken thoughts
Really don't always want to take shortcuts, doing the basic work will make everything a lot easier.
In the case of Faberfa, many babies cry for 1-2 hours and cry until they give up, and when I first performed it, it was only 30 minutes at most.
The ice self-asleep practice method shared last time is also almost tear-free.
So sometimes whether a method is strict or not, perhaps the biggest difference is in the person who uses it.