In today's society, many women now have their own jobs and careers, which is not like before. Bringing children at home is the main task, so who is the task of taking children to? Many families are not short of money to hire a nanny, but if the child is too young, they dare not be assured and bold to ask for a nanny, and the safety problem is still considered.
Most of these parents are only children, so the main task of bringing children is entrusted to the elderly. If there is no condition, it can only be brought by the grandmother, and some mothers themselves are only daughters, and there is no child in the family, and the basic children are taken in turns by the grandmother and the grandmother. In the end, the result was that the child liked the grandmother more and began to think that the child was a white-eyed wolf, but in the end, the reason was deeply investigated, so that the mother and the grandmother were silent.
Although today's children are young, they all develop very early and mature mentally. In their psychology, in fact, relatives are also close to each other. In the child's mind, the grandmother is his own family, and the grandmother is like a distant relative. In some families, in order to take care of the elderly conveniently, or the house price is too expensive to buy a house, the child's father chooses to live with the elderly. In such a situation, living under one roof, it makes children feel that they are a family with their grandparents.
Even if the child does not live with the grandparents, if you go to the grandparents' house, the parents will usually say to go home, and when they go to the grandparents' home, the parents will emphasize that they will go back to the grandparents' home. The child's mother herself has such a mentality, feeling that if she marries out, she is the daughter who marries out of the water, not the original family. In this way, the child will also be subtly affected, and naturally feel that he and his grandmother are not a family.
In addition, the child's surname is the surname of the father and grandfather, which for the child, it is also felt to be a family performance. Chinese surnames are still very important in the minds of the people, so children also use surnames to distinguish relationships.
Usually, the grandmother will be more pampered grandson, the child's behavior is not more restrictive, the child goes to the grandmother's home, just like to their own home, eat and drink are taken by themselves, there is no constraint at all, the parents will not control the child's behavior at home, the child will also feel the same as his own home.
When the child arrives at the grandmother's house, even if the grandmother is very enthusiastic, the parents will also warn the child not to randomly move the things in the grandmother's house, and to ask the grandmother before eating. Originally, parents just wanted to educate their children to be polite and civilized outside, and who knew became estranged, so the children were also very restrained in their grandmother's home.
The child may take turns living in grandma's house, and neither family feels constrained, but grandma will indulge her grandchildren and give themselves the best to them. In this way, the grandchildren will feel more loved. If the grandmother has grandchildren in the family, the grandchildren are also present. Always meet the grandson's requirements first, and give the grandson a little, so that the grandson feels more like seeing the outside.
Although the elderly with children have certain benefits, in fact, children want to stay with their parents the most. Yes, now parents have great responsibilities, financial pressure, and have mortgages or car loans. Parents can try to bring their own children, or bring their own. If it really can't work, it should also be placed on the side of the elderly who is closer to themselves, and you can also ask the elderly to bring a baby at home, so that you can often see the baby and interact with the child, so that the intimacy will be deeper.
In addition, if the baby is over 1 year old, he can also be sent to an early education center. These centres are expensive, but they are educational. Early education centers have more parenting experience than family members, and with the knowledge of parenting theory, they will make the baby's development more accelerated. At what stage of the baby, what needs to be learned, and the life skills that will be learned, are all topics of the Early Education Center. So it's also a good thing for your baby.
However, these need economic conditions as a support, and there are still many children in China, which are left-behind children. Parents go out to work just to give their families a better life, and this cannot be blamed. Every family has a special situation, and it is necessary to analyze specific things, but even if the child is placed in the hometown, it is necessary to pay attention to the connection of feelings.
Now is an era of developed networks, when parents work outside, they must often video with their children and care about their children's life and learning. Children will also understand the good intentions of their parents, feel the difficulties of their parents, and study harder. Life is not easy, now raising a child is not better than before, but also remember the responsibility as a parent, can not let the child go unchecked,
When children grow up living in a family that lacks love for a long time, they will become inferior and not confident enough. Even if you have the ability, you can't express yourself better. Education is now a problem faced by many families, whether the child is a grandparent, a parent, a grandmother and a grandfather, we must pay attention to the cultivation of children's character.