Whether the shoes fit or not, the person wearing it knows best.
Whether the person you love really loves you or not is only you who knows best.
With the right person, there will be quarrels, it will be sad, but most of the time, it is happy and happy.
But once you love the wrong person, all you get is endless disappointment and pain.
Even, you will have self-doubt, whether you are not good enough, whether you do not deserve love.
The answer is naturally no, you are fine, it's just that you love the wrong person.
Love the wrong person, there will be the following 3 feelings, account for one of them and don't settle for it.
He doesn't understand you
You need to care, he is sloppy and perfunctory;
You pout and you say you're making a fuss for no reason;
You seek comfort, and he educates you that this should be the case;
You are so aggrieved that you want to cry, he said how old you are wronged;
You're kidding, he said, oh, are you so happy with your skin?
Because he doesn't love you enough, he will never think differently from your point of view.
His understanding of what you say is always contrary to what you meant, even if what you said was already very blunt.
He's not a straight man of steel, he just doesn't want to understand you.
Really, in this world, there is no such thing as a 'straight man of steel', as long as he likes you enough, he understands everything.
The reason why I don't understand and don't understand is that I didn't pay attention to you.
The matter of feelings is not a perfect ending that can be harvested by you alone.
If he doesn't want to move you, no matter how blunt you say it, no matter how directly you do it,
The clear-eyed man knew at a glance that he was pretending to be stupid and didn't understand anything.
With such a person, it is only you who suffers.
Since there is no result, why waste your good years on such an unworthy person.
You love very tired
In the TV series "A Tree of Peach Blossoms", after the heroine bloomed and divorced, she met a veteran who took off.
Unlike ex-husbands' constant taking and not caring.
Tengyue, whether it is life, career, or feelings, has given her the ultimate tenderness and encouragement.
He would wash Bloom's feet and buy the small dumplings she wanted to eat late at night;
It will also help him get out of the trough of his career and create a blooming pottery workshop;
He was upset that it was inconvenient for her to commute to work, so he bought her a car...
Because Tengyue is full of care, heals the heart that has blossomed and hurt, and regains confidence in marriage.
Bloom says:
"I used to love the wrong person, thinking that feelings were very tired;
It's only now that I understand that the person who really hurts you, she won't let you suffer. ”
Seriously.
People who really love you must be reluctant to let you suffer.
Yishu also once said such a sentence:
"True love is pleasurable, and if you feel pain, something must be wrong and needs to end in time."
So, if a relationship makes you tired of love and can't see hope, then forget it.
Good love is not love at first sight, but it is not tired for a long time.
Sometimes stopping the loss in time is also an option.
stoop to compromise
I have seen a story on the Internet that the heroine of the story will get up early every day to make breakfast for her boyfriend and then send him to work.
One day, she got up late, fried the eggs in a hurry, and the boy pulled his face all morning.
Before leaving the door, he also said to her: "Next time, get up early, the omelette is too bad to eat." ”
In order to make each other happy, the girl has been sending WeChat to apologize.
But for a whole day, the boy did not reply to her.
She anxiously called her friends on business trips to seek solutions.
But a word from her friend left her speechless.
The friend said, "You are in love, not a servant to someone else.
It's just a fried egg, why are you making yourself so nervous. ”
At this time, the girl realized that in that relationship, she not only did not gain strength and dependence;
Instead, he lost even his initial confidence.
Later, she resolutely left the relationship, leaving the person who had been consuming herself.
Indeed, a truly good love must not be obtained by seeking perfection.
Love that is obtained by seeking perfection cannot be truly long-lasting.
Some people only have the "fate" of a hasty encounter, but there is no "point" of being together;
Some people rush by and teach you love, but it won't be your lover.
But no matter what, there will always be someone who will make you forgive all the difficulties that life has made to you before.