The world likes warmth, and what men want in their hearts is actually warmth from the heart.
Love is very beautiful, but a person cannot rely on love for a lifetime, and no matter how vigorous love is, there will be a day when it will be flat.
Moreover, men's way of thinking is rational, women can be enthusiastic all the time, while men can only do a burst of heat, it is impossible to face the same thing with the same mentality for too long.
Therefore, we need to understand this truth in order to get the results we want when dealing with feelings, rather than tossing and turning recklessly.
In the relationship between the sexes, do not be hurt to understand, in the heart of men, the most needed is never love.
In the man's heart, what is most needed is affirmation
The scene where Yuan Hong cooks for Zhang Yunyi in the variety show "Happiness Trio" has been praised by countless audiences, saying that he is a good man and a model husband at home.
In fact, Yuan Hong was not a master of cooking at the beginning.
I remember the first time I cooked, Yuan Hong did not control the amount of salt, making the food salty and bitter, but Zhang Yunyi did not accuse, but praised Yuan Hong's first cooking.
Yuan Hong, who has been affirmed, has more confidence in continuing to cook, and under the slow exercise, Yuan Hong has now achieved achievements in the field of cooking.
In daily life, although the words of derogatory and accusatory words may be based on a good starting point, the people who hear them feel unhappy in their hearts.
That's because having negative emotions will depreciate a person's value to a certain extent, and it will also make people lose the confidence to continue to do something.
Therefore, smart women know that when getting along with men, say more nice words and praise words to affirm the value of the other party.
In psychology, positive psychological cues can quickly lead a person into a state of optimism that can lead to cognitive, emotional, and behavioral shifts that make people calm, focused, and more aware.
In the man's heart, what is most needed is needed
There was a woman who would ask her husband every day to bring something home from work, sometimes a green onion, sometimes a bag of salt.
In fact, these things are not necessary, and the reason why women do this is to let the man know that he is not idle in a relationship, he has always been needed.
Men have a sense of need to be needed, and when such needs are met, men will realize that they are needed and that they have a sense of existence.
After experiencing such a feeling, a man's heart will have a driving force, and the effort is also willing.
Sometimes independence is a good thing, but being too independent can be a bad thing.
Women are too independent, everything is covered, then, men will be on the edge of this relationship, feeling that they are a dispensable invisible person.
Even if a woman does not have herself, she can live a prosperous life, so that men will appear weak and uninterested in the matter of continuing to run love.
Carnegie said in "The Weakness of Human Nature": "If you want to make the friendship long-lasting, then you have to let others do a little thing for you, which will make others have a sense of presence and importance." 」 ”
If you want to make a relationship last, women have to learn to "trouble" men.
In the man's heart, what is most needed is to be understood
Roman Rolland said: "The so-called happiness is to know the boundaries of a person and love this boundary. The distance and boundaries between husband and wife are actually love and respect. ”
In fact, not only marriage, but also the same reason for the usual romantic relationship.
Sometimes we feel lonely, not because there is no one around us, but because we find ourselves no matter what we say, no one understands us.
The person who is not understood, no matter how much he speaks, is like a clown talking to himself.
We always habitually think of ourselves as patients, men as doctors, and feel that he should be an indestructible existence, and we should release warmth.
However, we overlook the point that men are also human beings, but also ordinary people, they are mortal flesh, they also have seven passions and six desires, they are hurt and hope that others will give them warmth, and they will be sad when they have no one to care.
No one is really superhuman, no one is really strong enough to withstand all the storms of this world alone, and when there are people who love, they will have weaknesses and become vulnerable.
Like a small stray cat, when living alone, there is nothing to make you sad, but when it is touched, the walls that have been built will collapse.
"I could have endured the darkness if I had never seen the light". The man is also a patient, he also needs to be warm and warm, he also needs to be understood, if we can give the man the warmth he wants, then we will become a light in his heart.