We often hear the old man say this: "It is a blessing to have more children and grandchildren, the family is lively and festive, and the days are promising." Raising children is indeed hard, but those hardships are nothing compared to the happiness of children and grandchildren, and the ancestors have lived for their children for generations! ”
The saying of "more children and more blessings" is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, and the elderly believe that the more children in a family, the more popular they are, not only can pass on the blood of the family, but also bring tangible benefits to the family, which is a good thing to get more in one fell swoop.
Why don't young people want to have a few more children? This kind of thinking is often defeated by harsh realities. Some young people are struggling to feed themselves and have no time or energy to have children; some young people are overwhelmed by mortgages and car loans, and have no more money to raise children; and some young people are busy with their careers and work, and children are a heavy burden for them...
For these reasons, young people are more cautious about having children, most people only have one or two children, and few families dare to have 3 children.
Young people do not reject having children, the cost of childbearing, the cost of parenting and the cost of education are the "three mountains" that they have to face, and they cannot solve these problems but rush to have children, and the consequences are usually very serious.
Ms. Shi is the mother of triplets, she can't work to take care of the children every day, the husband desperately tries to earn money to bear the family's living expenses, the couple work together, each performing their duties, can pull the child up even if they are tired and worth it.
They have a lot of beautiful plans for the future, and Ms. Shi suddenly finds herself pregnant and twin, which makes a lot of waves in their peaceful lives.
The husband was not happy, and also asked Ms. Shi to beat up the child, Ms. Shi could not bear it, they quarreled endlessly over this matter, what was the fate of the two children?
Ms. Shi is a rural person, her family is not well-off, her education is not high, and like many rural girls, marrying reliable men to live a stable and steady life is her greatest wish. When Ms. Shi was in her 20s, she was introduced to Mr. Huang, they were in the same condition, they were in agreement, and it wasn't long before they got a license to get married.
Mr. Huang is the only son in the family, responsible for the task of succession, the mother-in-law instructed Ms. Shi to have a child early, Ms. Shi also wants to be a mother as soon as possible, after marriage, Mr. Huang and Ms. Shi are busy with the matter of having children.
Married for two years, Ms. Shi has not been pregnant, Mr. Huang took Ms. Shi to the hospital for examination, it turned out that Ms. Shi suffered from infertility problems, Ms. Shi took a lot of medicine to see a lot of doctors, after some efforts she finally got pregnant.
Ms. Shi is pregnant with triplets, she endured more suffering and endured more torture, when she was 36 weeks pregnant, Ms. Shi gave birth to 3 children by caesarean section, these children were premature babies, had to be observed and treated in the incubator, for these three children Mr. Huang almost spent all his savings.
The birth of the child brought endless happiness to Ms. Shi, and the family was immersed in the happiness of welcoming the newborn, but the real problems followed.
The family's economic conditions were already bad, and the birth of three children suddenly put the family in trouble. Ms. Shi has no money to buy clothes and shoes, and she can't go out to make money, her time and energy are spent on her children, and the living conditions at home have become worse.
Mr. Huang is an excavator driver who gets up early and is busy, working nearly 10 hours a day, and his annual income barely supports the family's expenses. They can only solve the most basic living security of the child, those toys and snacks are sent by friends and family, Mr. Huang and Ms. Shi feel guilty about the 3 children.
Fortunately, the children are very sensible, they are not picky, they have never made excessive demands on their parents, they do not want to embarrass their parents and are not willing to increase the burden on their parents, and their sensible appearance is painful.
Ms. Shi and Mr. Huang's biggest wish is to raise their three children to adulthood, and just when they are working hard for life, a sudden thing completely breaks the peaceful life.
Ms. Shi was pregnant again, and she was pregnant with twins, which was a surprise for other families, but a shock for Ms. Shi.
It is good that Ms. Shi can raise 3 children, and the retention of these two children makes Ms. Shi feel difficult. Mr. Huang's mood is also very complicated, he has to bear the livelihood of a family of five, he really has no spare energy to raise two more children.
At this time, Ms. Shi's father-in-law was dying of cancer, and her father-in-law did not want Ms. Shi to give birth to the child, so as not to increase the pressure on Mr. Huang. But the mother-in-law said, "Even if you give birth to the child, I will take it with me after the child is born." Your father-in-law is happy to be able to hold these two children even if he dies. ”
Ms. Shi likes children and also likes the lively and happy scenes of the family, she wants to give birth to the child, but Mr. Huang is firmly opposed. Mr. Huang asked Ms. Shi to undergo an abortion, and Mr. Huang felt that he was responsible for doing so both for the family and the children.
Mr. Huang said: "Our family's economic situation is very bad, raising three children has been very difficult, the regeneration of two children our family will be even poorer, children go to school is a problem, when they grow up, they will definitely resent us, rather than that, it is better not to have children!" ”
Mr. Huang and Ms. Shi disagreed over whether to have a child, they did not give in to each other, neither of them could convince the other, and the child's departure became their top priority.
The happiest thing for a woman is to marry a man who really loves her, form a happy family, have several healthy and lovely babies, love each other as a family, and enjoy the beauty of life together.
Ms. Shi found a down-to-earth, reliable, loyal and honest man, they gave birth to triplets, the life is very poor but they are happy and happy, enjoy the happiness of the family and the happiness of life, which is a kind of life consummation.
Raising three children took all of Ms. Shi's time, spent all of Mr. Huang's income, their lives were barely sustainable, and being able to raise three children to adulthood was the limit of their ability, in this case, where did they have the spare strength to have two more children?
Mr. Huang's idea is very practical and reliable, if Ms. Shi gives birth to the child in her belly, her life will change drastically, they will not even be able to maintain their basic lives, how can they pave the way for the children's future?
Some people also put forward different views, they said: "Human potential is unlimited, Mr. Huang can earn five or six thousand a month, after giving birth to a child, maybe he will be angry and strong, earn 10,000 or 20,000 a month, and raise 5 children is not a problem at all!"
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That being said, Mr. Huang's age is not small, he has no academic qualifications and no ability to only drive an excavator, if he wants to earn more money, he can only work hard and work overtime, for these two children Mr. Huang has to make great sacrifices, which is too unfair to Mr. Huang.
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