Yu Qiuyu | Lin Daiyu's tears

Lin Daiyu's tears

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The starting point of jealousy is people's hidden worries about their own vulnerability.

There are no completely strong people in the world, and there are no complete weak people. In life, we are always in the dual experience of being strong and weak. In my opinion, for most people, the weak experience exceeds the strong experience. Even for seemingly powerful achievers, their strong experiences mostly occur in offices, venues, banquets, and ceremonies, while weak experiences occur after the end of the song, when the individual is alone, so it is more related to the depths of life. All the guests have left, the followers who flocked around during the day have returned home, and the sudden loneliness brings great vulnerability. Vulnerability gives rise to sensitivity and guard against the strength of others, and jealousy arises.

Jealous people often criticize the jealous as useless, and in essence, it is the object of their secret envy. What you want to do, someone has already done and done it so well; the goal you want to achieve, someone has already achieved and is obvious to all, which can't help but criticize.

In most cases, the actual loss of the jealous person is greater than that of the jealous person. Jealousy makes the sensory mechanism dysfunctional, the judgment mechanism dysfunctional, the aesthetic mechanism reversed, and even a cultural person at the good end will partially become deaf, stupid, and dumb because of jealousy.

Intellectually, for example, a jealous person will also know the beauty of a certain person who is being jealous. However, since one day alerted to the negative meaning of the other party's beauty to him, he began to search for the possibility of depreciation. Over time, the jealous person has developed from not wanting to feel the beauty of the other party to not being able to feel it. It should be understood that it is not the failure of the other party that cannot be felt, but on the contrary, it is a serious illness in the psychological system of oneself.

In the same way, a poet suddenly loses the pleasure of chanting to other people's good sentences, a musician expresses his expression in the beautiful music of his peers, a director smiles indifferently at a sensational film, and an art professor is a little dismissive when telling two successful painters... If they are just putting up a shelf and posing authority, and their hearts are not chaotic, the problem is not too heavy; if they have indeed blurred the beauty and ugliness and numbed the feelings because of jealousy, things are terrible. That was tantamount to the martial arts master's self-destruct of kung fu, and half of his life had ended.

All intellectuals with a sense of social responsibility should think about how to eliminate jealousy, but we Chinese intellectuals often advise how to avoid jealousy. Most of the so-called survival wisdom of ancient China is related to this kind of avoidance. "Being jealous" has become a crime that everyone can blame. To this day, the jealous side is often described as arrogant and oblivious, while the jealous side is said to be the reaction of the masses and public opinion. As a result, the jealous shrinks his head and hides his face, and there is no place for himself, while the jealous person is righteous and strict, and the subordinate is like a cloud.

China's social concept has reversed many right and wrong, one of which is the issue of jealousy. In the vast land of Kyushu, there is always an invisible court with jealousy as the law. The court is illuminated by the fire of jealousy, and the jealous sticks are lined up. Those who lose the case are always those who are superior and take the first step.

What will the jealousy of the next generation look like? Can't predict. I only hope that, even as a common problem of human beings, jealousy should be taken seriously. At least it should be like the frown of a noble warrior, not the late-night melee of a bunch of rotten soldiers; at least it should be like the thousand-year confrontation between two snowy peaks, not a bunch of rattans wrapped around the trunk.

Yes, jealousy can also be noble. The great difference between noble jealousy and inferior jealousy is whether behind jealousy there is still the basic upbringing of looking up to excellence. Jealousy is the bane of misfortune on any level and should not be nostalgic and praised, but it does have a great deal of forms that are not fly-and-dog.

Since we cannot extinguish jealousy for a while, let it retain a more dignified shell so that it can embody a little human dignity even when broken.

Any specific kind of jealousy will always pass, and dignity, once lost, is difficult to recover. I am not in favor of burying our faults through hard moral restraint, but advocate entering a higher realm of life with all kinds of real faults.

In the higher realm of life, each other has the cornerstone of human love, the expectation of social progress, and even the fiercest jealousy can be resolved by the last conscience. Therefore, in the end, for a common human disease like jealousy, it is difficult to mix with the character hierarchy to discuss.

We would rather bear the jealousy of a gentleman than face the support of a villain. What are human beings afraid of a little more Othello's roar, Lin Daiyu's tears, and Zhou Gongjin's long sigh? Afraid, that vast and unknown depth of the dirty quagmire.

About author:Yu Qiuyu (born August 23, 1946), a famous contemporary essayist, cultural scholar, art theorist and cultural historian, was born in Qiaotou Town, Cixi City, Zhejiang Province, and graduated from the Shanghai Theater Academy. He graduated from the Department of Drama and Literature of Shanghai Theater Academy in 1966. In 1985, he became the youngest professor of liberal arts in Chinese mainland. In 1986, he was awarded the Top Ten Academic Elites in Shanghai. In 1987, he was awarded the honorary title of National Outstanding Contribution Expert. Yu Qiuyu is known for his ability to write historical and cultural essays, and his collection of essays, "Cultural Journey", was widely popular after publication. In addition, he is also the author of "Notes on Mountain Residence", "Frost and Cold River", "A Thousand Years of Sigh" and other prose works.

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