"My lover is my first love, and we've been together since we were 16."
Such a love story sounds like a novel or an idol drama, in fact, it is actually a real love story, and it also takes place in the most emotionally fragile entertainment industry.
The heroine of this love story is Sarina, who starred in countless works during her entry into the circle, and now she is older and has become a "mother-in-law" professional.
But it is such a woman who has been crawling in the circle for dozens of years, but she has the most simple and beautiful feelings in the world, and the most beautiful feelings in the sixties and seventies.
It's not about matter, it's not about identity.
01
In 1984, at the age of 16, Sarina was admitted to the acting department of the Shanghai Theater Academy in her father's business and became a freshman.
Shanghai was not too cool in September, so after reporting to the classroom, Sarina went to the classroom to meet her teachers and classmates, and thus met her first love, Pan Jun.
Sarina was in full bloom at that time, with big eyes and a double ponytail, she was a recognized beauty in the class, and she was also the object of many male students' delights.
And Pan Jun is also tall, handsome, and very popular in the class.
However, at that time, the school did not advocate love, thinking that even students who went to college should study hard, and falling in love in college was actually considered "early love".
But at that time, students were just liberating themselves from their busy senior year of high school, and it was precisely in adolescence that they inevitably developed a liking for the opposite sex.
So at first, Sarina also thought that she would not fall in love early and study hard, but after a long time, she was still moved by Pan Jun.
At that time, the two were classmates, and they were in the same classroom after class, especially the physical class, and the two were still partners.
Physical contact and getting along day and night, over time, the two best students in the class became romantic.
Pan Jun is Sarina's first love, so Sarina is extra cautious and careful, for fear of being discovered by teachers and classmates, so she and Pan Jun have always maintained an underground love.
But paper can't contain the fire after all, freshman together, sophomore year known by the teacher.
Sarina thought that this time was over, and she might be scolded by the teacher, and even persuaded by the teacher to break up.
I thought I was going to face the upcoming bloody storm with my boyfriend, but I didn't expect to usher in a blessing.
"Pan Jun, Sarina is a good girl, you have to treat people well."
So Sarina was really lucky to meet a gentle teacher in her first relationship.
After obtaining the teacher's consent, Sarina and Pan Jun fell in love in an honest manner, which lasted for four years.
For four years, they accompanied and encouraged each other, and the relationship not only did not affect their studies, but also made them progress together.
To become a better person for the other party, when he graduated from college, Pan Jun was assigned to the General Political Repertory Troupe, while Sarina was assigned to the All-China Federation of Trade Unions Cultural Troupe in Beijing.
Logically speaking, both of them are talented and capable people, just graduated from college, the work unit has just been decided, they should think about busy careers, have an economic foundation before considering starting a family.
But why did they decide to get married before they were of legal age, and they were fined a huge sum?
02
In fact, after graduating from college, Sarina also thought about getting married to some extent, after all, she felt that the process from acquaintance to acquaintance to love was too tiring, and she felt that it was difficult to meet a man who loved her so much.
However, at that time, Pan Jun was probably hesitant.
After all, at that time they only came out to work, they still lived in the dormitory of the unit, and the deposit was not much, Pan Jun himself was not afraid of hardships, but Pan Jun was afraid that Sarina would suffer hardships with him.
So at first, the two people were dumb about the marriage, one was crazy hinting, the other was pretending to be stupid and stunned, until the two reached an agreement during a date in the Summer Palace.
That would be a low salary for two people, and going to the park was the lowest-cost way to date.
So I came to the Summer Palace many times, but every time Sarina came to the Summer Palace, she was in a happy mood like the first time she came to the Summer Palace.
The two strolled around and talked about marriage, Pan Jun said that the wedding ring is so expensive now, what should I do if I feel that I can't afford it.
Pan Jun thought that Sarina would not mention marriage because of this, but he did not expect that Sarina directly pointed to a plastic ring on a stall near the Summer Palace and said:
"You bought it for me today, put it on for me, and I'll marry you!"
In the end, Sarina put on the ring that was only eight dollars.
In fact, it is not that she does not want a diamond ring, but she understands Pan Jun's heart for her sake, and she also understands Pan Jun's thoughts as a man.
So she doesn't care about the wedding ceremony, doesn't care about the size of the ring, she only cares about him.
After that, it happened that Pan Jun's work unit had a policy that if they got married, they could get a house, which gave them a reason to get married.
Because the two of them were working in Beijing at the time, it was so important to have a house that belonged to them, so it didn't take long for them to decide to get their licenses.
When Sarina received the license, she found that she was only 22 and a half years old, which was not enough for the legal marriage age of 23, and if she wanted to get married now, she would have to pay 200 yuan in family planning fees.
At that time, Sarina and Pan Jun's monthly salaries were only two hundred yuan a month, but thinking that they finally made up their minds to get married, they paid these two hundred yuan to receive the certificate with a fierce heart.
This year, Sarina was 22 years old, married her first love at the best age, and did not choose a child for a year after marriage.
On the day of the wedding anniversary of Pan's military year, he went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get the two hundred yuan back, and there was no loss at all.
But it didn't take long for Sarina and Pan Jun to have their first disagreement, it's easy to fall in love with each other, and their minds are still so young, can they do it to each other for a lifetime?
03
In 1999, Sarina gave birth to her daughter Chen, and since then the world of the two has become a family of three, which is happy and happy, but after the happiness, there are also troubles because of this child.
Sarina was actually a left-behind child, when her parents worked outside the home filming, often leaving for months.
So little Sarina's impression of childhood was to get up early in the morning and wait for her parents to come back at the mouth of the alley with her sister, and wait from dark to dawn, Pan Jun started again.
Because of such a childhood experience, Sarina does not want her daughter to live such a life again.
So after agreeing, Sarina and Pan Jun decided that if she went out to work, Pan Jun would stay at home to take care of the children, and if Pan Jun went out, Sarina would be at home.
But at that time, Sarina was in the stage of loving her career, and she spent more and more time casually going out to film, and it was seven or eight months when she went out.
Sarina thought that Pan Jun would be angry with herself, but Pan Jun chose to retreat.
"I don't care about fame and fortune, and the entertainment industry is too complicated for me, so I still choose to work in the theater."
It turned out that Pan Jun obviously felt that Sarina was spending more and more time going out to work, and for the sake of Sarina and his daughter, he was willing to choose to give in.
"I wouldn't be where I am today without him, and he was also excellent back then, so I'm really grateful to him."
So with the help of Pan Jun, Sarina's career developed better and better, starring in classic works such as "The Tree of Niu Yuqin", "Mother is a River", "Crossing the Guandong" and so on.
Later, as he grew older, he became a professional mother, and Pan Jun became an unknown theater actor and the man behind Sarina.
It's just that husband and wife pay attention to equal strength and synchronous progress, is a family like Sarina with strong women and weak men really happy?
04
"My husband actually understands my work very well, and with him, I can go away with peace of mind for a few months."
After time polishing, Sarina and Pan Jun have become the ones who understand each other the most, and although they will also have friction and quarrel, it will not affect their feelings.
The relationship between Sarina and Pan Jun has always been very stable, but the relationship with her daughter is a little rusty.
Once Sarina never wanted her daughter to experience her childhood feelings again, but she didn't expect that her daughter felt neglected because she was busy with her career.
"Every time I come home, my daughter will tell people that this is my mother, this is my mother."
In fact, Sarina feels very indebted to her daughter Xiangxiang, if she can, she also wants to be by her daughter's side all the time, but unfortunately her work is more special, so she missed her daughter's childhood.
Fortunately, Xiangxiang is more sensible, and as she grows older, she can understand Sarina's last resort, and Sarina is slowly learning how to be a good mother.
Once Xiangxiang's school contacted Sarina and hoped that Sarina could come to the school to give a speech, which she would have agreed to before, but now she will consider asking her daughter's opinion first.
Sarina asked her daughter and received a negative answer.
The reason is also very simple, Xiangxiang does not want her head to be surrounded by the aura of the big star Sarina, and she does not want Sarina's fame to erase her efforts and achievements in school.
Sarina also refused the invitation to the school, but later went to her daughter's school when she attended her daughter's parent-teacher meeting, and Xiangxiang also took the meal card and invited Sarina to eat the meals in the hall.
Sarina happily mentioned it whenever everyone mentioned it, showing off that she had a good daughter.
Now that Sarina is 55 years old, her daughter has grown up, and she continues to play someone else's mother on the big screen.
She played Yang's mother in the recent hit "Nine Bends of Love", showing Yang's mother's unreasonableness and greed to the fullest, and her acting skills are becoming more and more exquisite.
With a good job, a well-behaved and sensible daughter, and a husband who loves herself, Sarina's life is believed to be the envy of countless girls.
"For a woman, having a happy family is already 99% less troubles in life."
And Sarina also has her secret to maintaining such a happy family, that is:
"Don't embarrass each other, don't pick on each other, don't blame each other."
In fact, to put it bluntly, it is tolerance and understanding, because there are no two people who are completely suitable in this world, after all, everyone grows up in different environments, and naturally there will be many differences.
Since you want to be a husband and wife for life, you need to accept each other's differences.
The second may be the division of labor, the division of labor between the male protagonists and the female protagonists such as Sarina and Pan Jun is indeed relatively rare.
But whether it is inside the male protagonist and outside the female protagonist, or inside the female protagonist and outside the male protagonist, the division of labor and cooperation and mutual understanding can make the relationship go longer.
From 1990 to 2023, the relationship between Sarina and Pan Jun has gone through 33 spring, summer, autumn and winter, witnessing the most brilliant and downtrodden times of each other's lives.
Sarina is forever grateful to Pan Jun for everything he has done for her, and for Pan Jun's dedication to being a family cook for her.
And Pan Jun must always love the girl who married him for only eight yuan when he still had nothing and was nothing.
On Pan Jun's birthday, Sarina said this love word to Pan Jun:
"We grew older in each other's eyes."
Pan Jun, on the other hand, said:
"We are still young in each other's eyes."
Simple, ordinary, I hope they can love each other for a hundred years from the age of 16 to 116, and never swerving.