Women who make men lose interest have done these "stupid things"

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Many women do not understand why some men suddenly lose interest in a woman, one second he is still saying touching love words, and the next second he is determined to leave.

All things have a result and a cause.

In this world, there is never a reason for nothing, and there must be some reason behind the seemingly inexplicable.

A man suddenly loses interest in a woman, often because the woman has done something that makes him feel bored.

01 Too active, let men lose their desire to conquer

Che Guevara once said, "I believe she loves me, I should conquer her with my thoughts, she is mine." ”

This is a man's desire to conquer.

Men's desire to conquer seems to have been carved into their bones, they like everything that challenges, the greater the difficulty, the stronger the desire to conquer.

A man will spend 5 years and 10 years liking a woman, not because the woman is attractive, but because he hasn't gotten her all along.

He is not fighting with women, nor with love, but with himself.

The powerful desire to conquer allows him to go forward bravely and not give up until he reaches his goal.

But in real life, many women do not understand this truth, they do not know how to satisfy men's appetite, but a vigorous sticker.

Women who dare to love and dare to hate are admirable, but such women often do not arouse the interest of men, because they have no desire to conquer men.

Why do most men dislike active girls? Not because they feel that girls should be reserved, but because they feel that what they can get without effort is meaningless.

You are doing something touching to yourself, thinking you can catch up with him.

In fact, from the moment you take the initiative, he has lost interest in you.

02 Help men save money everywhere, so that men feel bored

A woman who knows how to save money for a man is undoubtedly distressed that he loves him, but this kind of behavior may not be touching for men.

Maybe at first he will feel warm, but slowly he will feel bored.

The cruelest part of human nature is that people don't cherish what they can get without giving, including feelings.

Human beings cherish money and cherish fame and fortune, because these things are not easy to come by.

But no one cherishes the air, because for them, it is something that is innate.

But in fact, the most precious things in the world are air, rain and sunshine, without which human beings would not exist.

No matter how precious the feelings you give, no matter how touching everything you do, as long as you make the other person feel that you can get it without paying, you will instantly become cheap.

It's a ridiculous thing, but it's something that happens every day in real life.

You help a man save money, thinking that you can win his favor, thinking that it is a particularly touching thing, but the truth is just the opposite.

In his mind, you are the kind of girl who can get it without spending a penny, because it is too easy to get, and he has no interest.

03 Compared with the ex, touch the bottom line of men

In this world, there is such a woman, they are always keen to compare with the current ex, than who is more beautiful, who is more gentle, who is better.

They want to be the winning side so that they can get more care and respect from men.

At some point, they also want to be able to do better by comparing themselves to their predecessors.

In fact, their behavior only makes men sick to them.

No man likes someone else to take up his position in front of him, and for him that's a thing of the past.

He had forgotten her, but you reminded her again and again, making him remember her again.

This kind of behavior of women is challenging men's bottom line, and after a few times men will become bored with women.

04 Take the initiative to plan for the future and put pressure on men

There is a very heartfelt saying on the Internet: "You plan for the future, and he plans to leave." ”

Such cases are quite common in real life.

You want to become a family member with him, so you take the initiative to plan the future, but he never wants to have a future with you.

If you really give it to the wrong person, you will become worthless.

Everyone understands this, but many people simply can't avoid such a thing.

Everyone should remember that planning for this kind of thing in the future must be done by men on their own initiative, and the more they are substituted, the more they will only make men afraid.

You think everything you've done is touching, but in the man's eyes, you're just indirectly putting pressure on him.

The man has not yet decided to become a family member with you, and you are planning for the future, which is a particularly terrible thing for him, so he will think of running away.

epilogue:

Men and women are two completely different creatures, everyone thinks differently, thinks differently, so the same thing often has different effects.

As a woman, don't use your own thinking to measure a man, the touching actions you think are perhaps the most disgusting behaviors of men.

People often say that the ancient routine has won people's hearts, although this is not necessarily true, but there is a reason for it.

If you want to get a man's heart, you must start from the male thinking, rather than doing something that you think is very touching, which will only backfire.

I am Shadow, an original author who focuses on the field of emotion.