Four suggestions that parents should pay attention to when their children learn chess

Chess is a greenhouse where the fruits of character ripen more than in life.

—Edward Morgan Foster

In the process of learning chess, children are influenced by teachers and parents, and often attach importance to the mastery of technical skills such as opening and tactical combinations, and it is easy to ignore the understanding of chess. Therefore, in the process of learning chess, parents should pay attention to the following problems.

First, chess is a game - experience the joy of play

Chess is a game that emphasizes the fun of chess. It has beautiful three-dimensional chess pieces, and the pieces also have heartwarming names - kings, queens, knights, castles, bishops and soldiers. The combination of these elements has a natural attraction for children, who will happily move the pieces back and forth on the black and white chessboard, play the game of "eating children", and enjoy the joy of playing various roles. Interest is the best teacher. It's all a good start.

However, interest in this young shoot requires the careful care of parents. Many parents learn chess with their children, and some parents are even already proficient in the rules and techniques of chess. Generally speaking, children who are new to chess are difficult to defeat parents who are learning chess at the same time. This period is the stage when they are eager to show what they know and learn in front of their parents. When playing against their children, parents let their children happily eat on the chessboard and eventually win. This is important for children who are just learning chess – satisfying self-confidence and gaining a sense of accomplishment. If children are repeatedly frustrated, they are prone to become annoyed and constantly ask for remorse, and even gamble not to play chess, doubting themselves, and their interest in learning chess will decrease.

Second, chess is not a game - learn to cultivate self-cultivation

Chess is not simply a game, it should be a sport that is conducive to cultivating a gentle and elegant personality. And this depends on the formation of good habits in chess.

First of all, play chess with respect for the opponent. Respecting the opponent is also respecting yourself and the chess you play. When parents and children play against each other, they should pay attention to the habit of shaking hands before and after the game. Although this seems insignificant, it contains a deep truth and can affect the child's mentality and state of mind. Shaking hands before the game is to tell each other that "we are opponents, but we are also friends, and we must contribute a wonderful chess game together." The handshake at the end of the game, if it is won by yourself, it means that the strength and concession of the other party are affirmed; if the other party wins, it is congratulated; if it is a draw, it means that the handshake is harmonious. Respecting the opponent is a manifestation of grace, and it also makes the child more cherish every process he goes through, as well as every opponent and friend who accompanies him to grow.

Second, let the child realize that silence on the chessboard is golden. Children always like to talk when playing chess, such as "General!" Eat!"" King Che Translocation!"" Vaulting horse!" Wait for the moves that you think are very handsome or very exciting, which is related to the explicitness of the child's psychological activities. In addition, when the child is watching chess, he will also unconsciously blurt out: "Who should go?" Or "Eat him" or something like that. In the process of playing with their children in their daily lives, parents should lead by example and keep silent, warning their children that there is no need to talk about the game, and their meaning will be conveyed to the other party through the chess pieces. The cultivation of the habit of playing chess without speaking will make children more nurturing, and at the same time, children can think more deeply and not interfere with the surrounding things.

Finally, admonish children to think carefully when playing chess, make careful choices, and once they fall, they cannot regret chess. If parents condone their child's request to repent of chess, then it is difficult for the child to think hard, because he knows that even if he goes to the wrong chess, he can start over. When the child takes a bad step and asks for repentance, parents should refuse the child's request and teach by example, telling the child that he has stepped out of the chess, and he must have the courage to bear its consequences. At the same time, tell the child that one move does not lead to the failure of the whole game, and there is still a chance to make up for it in the later game. At this time, parents can also deliberately send mistakes, let the children walk back from the regret of the mood, and seriously play every next move.

Third, do not talk about heroes in terms of success or failure - calm down

Chess is a competitive sport that inevitably wins and loses. Parents should not pay too much attention to success or failure, although appropriate criticism will stimulate children's self-esteem, but it will also increase additional psychological pressure - children may become afraid of hands and feet, suffer from gains and losses, and may even do whatever it takes to win. In fact, a momentary victory or defeat does not explain the problem. Maybe the child played most of the good chess game, but unfortunately lost the last blow, then the child's previous performance is still worthy of praise and encouragement; perhaps the child is invincible at the beginning and quickly loses the chess game, but if he still fights tenaciously until the last moment, this spirit is worthy of recognition. What parents do is to encourage children to win or lose, and to play a high level. Only in this way can we truly help children improve their chess skills, develop a strong will and a tenacious character, which is the key factor that determines the success or loss of children's lives.

Fourth, there is no shortcut to the road of the strong - think more

There are no shortcuts to improving your chess level. Chess has tricks, but it can't be opportunistic. Some moves such as "four-step killing" at the beginning and "traps" at the beginning may help children win chess easily, but it is easy for children to stagnate. These opportunistic methods are themselves contrary to chess theory, and once children profit from them, they will inevitably be dependent, may be lazy to think, and rarely innovate. Parents should encourage their children to think more, use their imagination, and have the courage to try, rather than seeking a shortcut to win chess.

Chess is a game, a sport, but it is the epitome of life. Here, developing good character is more important than winning or losing for any moment. Parents should focus on long-term development, so that children's character will become more and more mature.