In the process of growing up, children will inevitably make some mistakes.
After the child makes a mistake, the parents have different ways of coping with it, and different coping methods will create a different life for the children. Among them, children "stealing" their own money is a situation that many parents have faced.
In the face of children "stealing" their own money, the three fathers have the following three different practices:
Don't take it to heart, easily forgive
Some fathers with relatively good family conditions will not pay attention to their children's small actions when they find that their children "steal" money from the family.
However, such laissez-faire is not a good thing for the child, it is irresponsible behavior for the child. The child's worldview, money view and outlook on life are gradually shaped with the help of parents and teachers.
The child's act of "stealing" money is obviously a "small evil" and is definitely not worth advocating.
If the child does not understand that "stealing" money is a theft behavior, and the parents do not go to timely education and guidance, then the child's concept will gradually distort.
This kind of father's practice is most likely to cause serious consequences, because children who grow up in such a laissez-faire family education will find it difficult to shape the correct three views in the future, and even gradually develop from making small mistakes to making big mistakes, which will eventually lead to major disasters.
Don't ask the reason, beat and scold
Some fathers' first reaction after discovering that their children have "stolen" money is to scold their children without asking the reason, which reflects the high pressure of their family education.
This type of dad can understand that it is wrong for their children to "steal" money, and they also know that they need to make their children aware of this. However, this kind of dad approach is too extreme to be emulated.
There are many reasons why children "steal" money from the family, perhaps because parents forget to give their children pocket money, perhaps because the children's school organizes donations and worry that parents will not give money, or perhaps because the comparison psychology is at work.
And if parents do not ask the reason to hit the child, it will only make the child have fear psychology and reverse psychology, thinking that the father will not understand himself, and the parent-child relationship will be in jeopardy, which is what we do not want to see.
Children who grow up in high-pressure families are prone to inferiority complexes, and such negative emotions will even accompany the child's life.
After communication and education, appropriate punishment will be given according to the situation
Compared to the first two fathers' practices, this kind of father's approach is obviously more reasonable.
After discovering that the child "stole" the family's money, he neither let go of freedom as a trivial matter, nor did he angrily attack and scold.
Instead, through communication, it is clear that the child's purpose and mentality of taking the money are clear, and then patiently tell the child that it is wrong to do so, so that the child understands that stealing is responsible for legal consequences.
Finally, after the child recognizes his or her mistake and promises not to repeat it, the parent and the child jointly negotiate a reasonable punishment that both parties can accept.
Doing so not only protects the parent-child relationship, maintains the child's self-esteem, but also helps the child establish a code of conduct. Children are more likely to recognize their mistakes in such an atmosphere, and the probability of making the same mistakes again will be greatly reduced.
Children's education is a science, as a parent, you must have enough patience.
In addition to not easily scolding the child when the child makes a mistake, it is not necessary to prescribe the child in the way the adult behaves.
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