From primitive societies onwards, humans were social animals.
However, in today's increasingly developed information technology, human beings are beginning to become more and more lonely.
In the past, I loved someone who did not hesitate to go to the mountains and seas to meet him, but now a phone call, a ticket, thousands of miles away seems to be close at hand, but the distance between the heart and the heart seems to be becoming more and more distant.
Not to mention, WeChat, QQ all kinds of chat software emerge in an endless stream, people's patience seems to be less.
But even though the way people socialize has changed dramatically, their inner needs have not changed.
In the past, people wrote their hearts on letterhead, and now, people put it in the circle of friends.
But I don't know when it started, more and more people no longer update the dynamics of the circle of friends, in fact, most of them are the following reasons:
01, there is no "friend" in the "circle of friends"
The blacklist is full of deceased people, but not necessarily all friends in the circle of friends.
How many blacklisted people have said goodnight to each other.
This is a popular saying in previous years, it is true that most of the people who can enter the blacklist are people who have had stories, but the people in your circle of friends may not be your friends.
In today's increasingly frequent use of WeChat, many people's circle of friends in addition to family and friends, most of them are colleagues and work partners.
In short, we lie in each other's address books for various reasons, but there is no relationship that can exchange hearts.
As a result, some circles of friends do not hold back, but they are sent and flirtatious, and they are too lazy to explain everywhere, so they can only suppress themselves and no longer update the circle of friends.
This mood can be understood, when we are young, we always think that the adult world is very free, no homework, no school, no food that we don't like, no need to look at adult colors;
But when you really enter the society, you find out how big your misunderstanding of society is, in the adult world, in addition to the responsibility that overwhelms you, there are all kinds of shackles that restrict you and bind you.
Freedom, can only think about it forever, not to mention willful, even send a circle of friends, and eventually because of this and that, it will eventually be pressed in the heart.
Why are more and more people no longer updating the circle of friends? Because there are fewer and fewer people in their circle of friends, they are afraid of explanation and trouble, so they can only remain silent.
02, the mind began to mature
Remember that Weibo once had such a function, check what Weibo you sent that year today, many people check their previous dynamics, the first feeling is - embarrassment.
I believe that when everyone is young and crazy, they have had such a period of time, cynical, unable to see authority, and always feel that others other than themselves are mundane.
Everything must express their own views, any hot spot must express their opinions, at that time I thought I was full of enthusiasm, but I waited until two or three years later to see, in addition to childishness is embarrassing.
There are also people who can't understand why they were such a fool when they were young, but it is too late to regret it, and they only complain about their youth at that time.
There are many people who do not like to send a circle of friends more and more, not because they do not want to share, but because their minds have matured and they have learned to keep a low profile and think.
03, fear of disappointment
For some people, the circle of friends is the tree hole of the mood, and it is sent out in the hope that the person in the heart can notice.
Unfortunately, not all of the people we meet understand us, and not all of them are willing to pay attention to us.
Ignoring once can be explained, but ignoring again and again can only show one thing, maybe others don't care about you as much as you think.
So slowly, we also began to try to hide our hearts, in fact, some people really like to be lonely, but they are fed up with disappointment.
Why more and more people don't like to send a circle of friends, it is nothing more than that the words that are said are always not responded to, so they will not say it.
04, serious life
I have heard such a sentence that in the days when I do not frequently update the circle of friends, I am living a good life.
Happy people do not shed tears, loved people do not sleep late, do not send a circle of friends, not necessarily people who have no surprises in life, but may also be people who like to live in silence.
There are thousands of flowers, people have a hundred kinds, not all people like to show their way of life to others, some people are outward, some people are inside, some people are public, some people are low-key...
Different personalities, the lifestyle is also different, some people just don't like to send a circle of friends, in fact, there is no special reason, is not to like to let others pay attention to themselves.
For some people, the circle of friends is a mirror of their own life, but for some people, the circle of friends is a decoration, and the truth of life will never be put there.
People's Daily said: "Can shoot, can take pictures, want to show off must be dazzling, ten years later, no matter how good the camera and technology, can not take such a picture, boldly record life, your current every day, is worth collecting."
In fact, sending or not sending a circle of friends is just a very personal thing.
People who often send it are not necessarily love to show off, people who do not often send it are not necessarily very old-fashioned, as long as they live seriously and actively every day, that is the best record of life!