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Do you have a picture of yourself with your child in your phone photos? When I asked this question, I also opened the phone next to the computer and looked at it, and found that although there were many photos and videos of the baby in my mobile phone, there were videos of children running to me when they would walk, there were videos of children playing by themselves, talking to themselves, and photos of the baby sleeping, many, many, but there was no photo of me and the baby.
Parents always want to record every moment of their children's growth and change, but they neglect to record their own and their children's bits and pieces together. Looking at your own photos and videos, although you will think of the scene at that time, when your child grows up and watches it by himself, something is always missing.
There is only oneself in all the pictures, and although the parents are around, they feel that they have never been "involved". Therefore, I feel that I will record it later, or I must record myself in it. At the very least, when you watch it yourself later, you can also know what you were doing at that time? At that time, I saw the baby's changes, what was the expression on my face?
Some time ago, a foreign father posted a photo of himself and his daughter on the Internet, in which the father would hold his daughter in the same place every year. Each year's commemoration records the changes between father and daughter. The father has hardly changed, but the change of the daughter has amazed the time.
The father "holds his daughter" in the same place every year to take pictures, and the change of the daughter amazes the time
In this photo, the father holds his newborn daughter and leaves the first group photo between father and daughter on the beach. It was also this group photo that started the decades-long "photo journey" between father and daughter.
Every year after that, the father will take pictures with his daughter in the same place, and the daughter is slowly growing up, and her hair has begun to change from short hair to long hair. And the father has hardly changed, the same posture, the same shape, with a small sunglasses, and then shows a happy smile, and the daughter to take a "happy" group photo.
Time passes slowly, and the only constant time is the "enthusiasm" of the women for life. This small "ritual" may become a good memory between father and daughter for many years to come, and it is also a touch of "strength" on the future growth of the daughter.
Does life need a "sense of ritual"?
Would you envy other people's lives with a sense of "ritual"? I think life needs a sense of ritual, it is not what other people call "contrivance", not showing off, but an attitude to life, a passion.
As people often say, life is already very boring, if we don't give us a boring life, add a little "seasoning", then our own life will be how to tune.
When I want to remember it decades in the future, I find that there is nothing to recall.
Whether it is between husband and wife, or between children, there should be the necessary "rituals", which belong to each other's memories.
When you look back later, it is a valuable asset to yourself and your children.
I remember reading such an article, a dad every time he comes home from work, he will bring back gifts to his children, sometimes a book, sometimes a snack, sometimes a toy, no matter what it is, this dad will bring back a gift to the children every time he comes back from work. This is a sense of "ritual", a sense of "ritual" between the father and the children. Regardless of the size of the gift, it is mainly the meaning.
Because for children, perhaps the happiest moment is the moment when Dad comes back from work and pushes the door in. Because at that moment there will be unexpected "surprises" waiting for them.
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