I remember when Kojima was a child, after school, he would go to his friends and classmates' homes to write homework, play for a while after writing homework, and would not come home until it was dark.
At that time, going to a classmate's home was a very common thing, and even some good friends would go to each other's homes for the night, just need to "report" to the adults at home in advance.
However, this situation is rare among children today, and even the basic "walking" is not usually there. After school, it is basically "go back to each home, each looking for each mother", in fact, it is not that there is no friendship between children, but the requirements of parents.
The child goes to the female classmates alone to play, and does not want to be hurt
Kojima once heard a friend tell me about something like this:
The little niece of a friend's family is a primary school student, who usually plays very well with a female classmate in the class, and the two people often go to each other's homes to play. The adults in the family are naturally relieved, after all, they live very close to each other.
But after a period of time, the family found that the little niece always likes to wear a skirt, but also dressed herself, a careful question to learn that it turned out that the female classmate came to a distant cousin, the cousin often praised the little niece for good looks.
Later, it was found that this distant cousin was really uneasy and kind, and even had intimate physical contact with his little niece, which really made people break out in a cold sweat after listening to such things.
There are dangers everywhere in life, especially for small children, and children should know that it is dangerous to go to a closed place alone. This kind of thinking is not malicious speculation about those around us, but too many tragedies tell us that the world is not as good as imagined, and a sense of defense can allow our children to avoid certain disasters.
Why don't parents now let their children go to their classmates alone?
Parents can't let their children go to their classmates' homes alone, and the biggest concern is safety. In fact, it is not only safety, but also out of personal consideration for children.
1) The child may do something impolite
The understanding ability, self-control ability and expression ability of the small family are relatively weak, and when they go to the classmate's home to play, they are likely to say some inappropriate words and do some impolite things, which will undoubtedly bring a lot of inconvenience to the other party.
In particular, children come to visit, have to clean up the housework, and rack their brains to make what meals to entertain them, and they are already exhausted at the end of the day. If you don't want others to come to your home to play, then naturally you will not let your children play in the homes of neighbors or classmates.
2) It is inevitable that there will be unpleasantness between peers
It is good for a child to have a playmate, but when two children who are not related by blood play together, it is inevitable that there will be unpleasantness. And when children have conflicts, they are reluctant to protect other people's children, but this is only for the face of adults.
Especially after a long time, it is more likely to cause trouble to other people's homes, even if they do not say it, but it will also affect each other's relationship.
3) Fear that your child will be bullied
Now that society is complex, parents are also diverse. We may be polite to other people's children, but some adults behave as unreasonable or cold-spoken in the face of children who come alone.
Children play together, the slightest noise will be harsh criticism, and even some adults will take the children who come to visit as the target of "salty pig hands". And children will also be small, can not observe the color, do not know how to ask their parents for help, so they are also vulnerable.
4) Avoid kids doing things out of the ordinary
The development of science and technology, the popularity of mobile phones, and the timely emergence of information have allowed children to understand more new things, but at the same time, they have also brought a lot of drawbacks. They can watch or do things or games that don't fit their age at any time.
Without the company of parents, it is easy for children to do something wrong when they are together and embolden each other. The best way is for everyone to go out and play together and take care of their children, so that once the children have inappropriate behavior, the adults can point it out in time.
It is better to be accompanied by a parent than a child alone
For people living in the city, "entering the house and closing the door" and "not moving around" have become a norm. To a certain extent, it is not a bad thing, but a kind of progress on the previous "rural small talk".
As parents, we do not support children to make friends, but are more willing to see a wide circle of children's friends, but it is not recommended that children go to neighbors or classmates alone.
Children should go to the homes of neighbors, classmates or friends, and it is best to be accompanied by their parents wherever they go. Or if the kids want to play together, they can also make an appointment to go out and try to get someone else to the house. Even if you go, it is best to be accompanied by an adult. In addition to basic protection, you can also discipline your child at any time to avoid your child from influencing others.