Introduction: With the current urbanization, more and more rural people have migrated to the city to live in large quantities, which has also led to a lot of changes in the friendship between neighbors and classmates before.
Many people have felt that their neighbors are strangers now, and some have not been in contact for decades, because they rarely see each other, even if they do, they do not know each other, and there are even a lot of wariness.
Yes, now that society has changed, the feelings between people have long since disappeared, so many people have taught their children to prevent this and that when they go out, many simple ideas have been eliminated by society, and we don't know when we have not trusted the people around us since then.
Why not let the child go to the neighbors and classmates alone? I think there are only a few aspects
First, parents are worried about safety.
Now that the children's living environment is good and the sense of safety is not strong, parents will worry that their children will be illegally violated by bad people.
Children are still very young, do not understand things, to other people's homes, if both parents are not around, the child in other people's homes have a safety accident, or accidentally damaged the valuables in other people's homes, it is very troublesome to deal with afterwards.
Whether it is a neighbor or a parent of a classmate, they know each other and do not know their hearts, what kind of strange parents have.
When your child comes to their home, and you are not present, his attitude toward the child is not exactly the same, and if your child has been wronged in someone else's home, if you know, your heart will not be comfortable.
I remember my colleague, once his son went to her classmate's house to play after school, he did not see his son after work, nor could he contact, went everywhere to look for it, found it all the time, did not find it at 12 o'clock, he was panicked at the time and called the police, he sat alone at home and waited, about one o'clock in the middle of the night, his son came back by himself.
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It turned out that her classmate's parents went to play mahjong after work, and played until 12 o'clock before leaving, and when they returned home, they saw two children playing games, which made his son hurry home.
This true story taught us that although it was a false alarm, since then, my colleague has gone to school every day after work to personally pick up the children and take them home. And put his own phone number card in the child's school bag. Tell him what special circumstances his son has, and be sure to find a way to tell him.
In fact, such things should happen around us from time to time, more we naturally increase our vigilance, over time our feelings for each other will be diluted, maybe society is really changing, we do not know whether we are adapting to this society.
Second, worry about affecting learning
Today's children don't need to go home from school to do a lot of housework, as before, and they also have to do farm work on weekends, planting seedlings, herding cattle, cutting firewood, etc.
Now there are many only children, most children are born the first priority is to study hard, test well, study well, do not need to do anything.
Every day the first thing children do after school is to study, write homework, if you run to the neighbor's home or classmates' home will definitely not be able to write homework will affect the learning, so many parents will prohibit their children from running around, worried about affecting learning.
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Third, worry about communication and expose yourself
Many parents because of the work is very busy, every day will deal with a lot of things with a lot of people, go back also need to take care of the children, if the child one day run out to play, they still have to spend a lot of time to find children, with neighbors to deal with, this is a lot of people do not like to trouble others.
If you go to the classmate's home is more troublesome, there are many times you have to send a message in the WeChat class group to ask each parent where to play, which reflects their children's disobedience, naughty and difficult to teach! Not easy
A few suggestions:
1. Inform the child of the whereabouts in time to prevent the occurrence of safety accidents.
When children play in neighbors or classmates, they should educate children to inform their parents in time where they have gone to play, so as to avoid unnecessary searching and accidents.
2. Make good plans for learning
Before children go out to play, they must do their homework for the day, cannot delay their learning because of play, play together meaningfully, and do not do things that violate social ethics and laws.
3. Handle the relationship with parents and teachers
If the child goes to a classmate's home to play, we must love the house and Wu, and we must be good friends with the child's friends, we cannot deny the child's socialization, and we cannot prevent the child's contact with the outside world.
When encountering problems, we should communicate well in time and take educating children as the primary starting point.
I'll share it here today, and I hope this article will give you a little inspiration.
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