The growth of children is the most concerned by every parent, and every growth process requires parents to pay more efforts in order to educate their children well, and if you want to cultivate your children into talents who are useful to society, you need to double your companionship and training.
Every mother will have deep feelings and full of hopes for him when she conceives a child. When he was young, I hoped that he could be healthy and lovely, sensible and obedient, and when he grew up, I hoped that he could study hard and be admitted to a key university, and when he became an adult, he hoped that he could start a family and get ahead. We parents have different expectations and expectations for each stage of our children.
In the child's growth path, if the child behaves very smart and sensible, the parents will certainly be very happy, not only so that the parents feel particularly relaxed, but also go out, because of their excellent performance, to the parents' faces a lot of glory.
However, if the child always plays some small cleverness in life, then parents must pay attention. These fake smart children, when they grow up, may not be as successful as we think, we as parents should not be blindly happy, but should be guided in time according to the child's situation.
Friend Xiao Xu's son is obviously smart and cute, the most important point is that the mouth is still very sweet, Xiao Xu with his son in the community to play, obviously through the cute appearance and the small mouth that can talk, can always coax a bunch of people to laugh, Xiao Xu is also very happy, feel that his child is excellent, and likable.
One day, Xiao Xu's good friend came to Xiao Xu's house as a guest, Xiao Xu has been busy in the kitchen, because the friend has not seen for a long time, so he wants to prepare some hearty meals for his friend, and Ming Ming is not idle, observing this mother's good friend for half a day, he began to use his skills.
The small mouth sweetly to this friend is a fierce praise, "Auntie, you look really good," after a while said, "Auntie your hairstyle is also good-looking," the friends of the praise are embarrassed, and have been saying to Mingming, you are really likable.
MingMing has been staring at her friend's bag, and finally said, "Auntie, your bag is really beautiful," the friend was also very happy to be praised, as soon as she heard her bag, she suddenly remembered that there were some delicious things in the bag, so she quickly took out a few pieces of chocolate to Mingming.
Obviously, I stopped praising my friends, got the chocolate, and hurried to play with myself. When eating, friends have been praising Xiao Xu, saying that she will teach children, children are very smart, and Xiao Xu is also very happy.
In fact, friends understand very well, at this time, the child's praise for adults is purposeful, began to praise looks, and praise voice, and praise hair, or praise clothes, etc., and finally if adults do not understand what it means, they begin to praise bags.
At this time, the average adult will think of the contents of the bag, even if there is no will tell a sound, today did not bring good food, the child will know that their purpose can be achieved, or can not be achieved.
These praises to adults are not sincere, but are said against the heart in order to achieve their own goals.
So what behaviors do children need to pay attention to, and which behaviors are falsely smart?
The first is that children habitually avoid responsibility.
Whether children are playing with children, or in our daily life, it is inevitable that there will be such and such things, especially when there are many children, when playing together, bumping and bumping is also a common thing, and some will also have some conflicts with children.
For example, several children play with toys together, and if one of the children always gets the toys to play, it will definitely be unhappy, or some children run and jump, accidentally fall down, and so on.
In such a situation, because there are many children, it is not clear who is responsible for it for a while, and those fake smart children, at the first time of the incident, will clear their responsibilities and say that this matter is not caused by him, or has nothing to do with themselves.
Under normal circumstances, adults also patronize to comfort the injured children, we have not yet thought about who to blame, or to find out this matter, the fake smart child will stand up and shirk responsibility, whether this matter is his reason, it will make people feel that this child is very afraid of things, such a child will certainly be difficult to take on a big responsibility when he grows up.
The second is that the child will also have a set in front of his face and a set behind his back.
We think that only adults will do this, innocent children will not do such things, but sometimes, children will also do things according to the faces of adults.
Behaves very well in front of adults, but in places where adults can't see, they do nothing or do things perfunctorily.
For example, we can often hear that when a child is on duty at school, the teacher will give parents a reaction to some of the students' situation at school.
When cleaning up at school or doing duty, some children, whether the teacher is supervising or not, will seriously do the tasks assigned to them by the teacher, and those children who think they are very smart are always careful in this kind of thing.
When the teacher sees it, he will do a lot of work, and when the teacher can't see it, he will either lazily kill time or just don't do it.
Such a child is very good at doing something according to the situation, and if it is beneficial to himself, he will do more, or he can do a good job. But if it doesn't do them much good, they choose not to do it or blame it on someone else.
Such children tend to be very fond of pleasing others.
In the face of the gong and the back of the drum, we often feel that only adults will do this. But in fact, some children do not do worse than adults in this kind of thing.
For example, we often see some children who do not have this toy or this small snack, and when they have friends around them, these seemingly smart children will use various methods they can use to please the people who have these toys, so as to achieve the purpose of owning this toy or this snack.
If such a child often uses this method to get what he wants, then when he grows up, it is very easy to form a sneaky personality, not to work real talent, but more interested in some crooked ways, which is not a correct value and way of doing things, so our parents should discover and correct it in time.
When children are young, these situations occur, and we parents must also learn to distinguish between blindly immersing ourselves in the illusion that our children are smarter.
Maybe when the child is young, we feel that this is beyond reproach, but everything is from small to large, so our parents must be vigilant enough to teach their children to be down-to-earth.