Introduction: With the development of the new era, our ideological trend is also in constant change, and some practices that subvert traditions are also emerging in an endless stream. In recent years, we will always find that many parents always like to work their children's names, before the husband and wife common surname joined, the whole out of a lot of Zhao Qian XX, Sun Li XX and other strange compound surnames.
Later, there are second children who follow the trend of the mother's surname, and we will also find that the parents of this practice are not in the minority, and they are gradually beginning to be recognized by everyone. It is not unusual for two children in a family to have different surnames. We begin to accept and adapt to such beings, so what do you think are the drawbacks of doing so?
First of all, Xiaobian believes that under normal circumstances, the practice of letting the second child follow the mother's surname is actually not too necessary. The adverse effects will be as follows:
1. The division within the small family
In many cases, the surname in a person's name often carries a certain sense of belonging, for example, if we meet people with the same surname outside, they will often be more affectionate than other surnames. And in our Chinese society, surnames are the key to connecting a race, and if the surnames of two children in the family are different, it will create a sense of separation in the small family.
Different surnames also give children a different sense of identity, which evolves the original family as a whole into a more distinct statement of the father's family and the mother's family. And because the children's surnames are different, the elders in the family are often prone to an unconscious difference in attitude towards the child, which is not conducive to the development of harmonious family relations.
2) It does not really solve the problem of equality between men and women
When we discuss the issue of the attribution of children's surnames, we will always naturally participate in the discussion of the proposition of "equality between men and women", and many people think that children born to mothers must follow their father's surname, which is an inequality. Therefore, in order to highlight the concept of equality, the children in the family should also have the surname of the mother, which is obviously a formalism and does not really solve the problem.
In the actual social concept, the view of equality between men and women has long been tired of various forms of development, and the question of truly achieving equality between men and women is not only in the question of whose surname the child is with. On the contrary, because of such an approach, it is more likely to cause confrontation and contradiction between equals between men and women, resulting in social chaos.
3. Further stimulate the social problems of children's surnames
Many problems will begin with more problems, and as mentioned above, this will not solve the tomorrow of "equality between men and women", because such an approach is simply not easy to ask. What follows may also be derived: Why is it that only the second child follows the mother's surname and the first child? What if there are three or four children? Several of the children in the family have to follow their mother's surname and so on.
These problems will inevitably gradually emerge with the practice of "the second child with the mother's surname", and in the future social life, it may also stimulate more contradictions about how to give children a surname. And these discussions, in fact, are consuming good social relations and atmosphere, and do not have much practical significance.
Many of the things left by the ancestors cannot be easily subverted, and will inevitably bring a series of problems in the future, and we should all understand that some conventional traditional customs inherited from history in Chinese society have a very important role in maintaining the stable development of society. They guard the development of social order, so that our daily lives are not messed up.
As parents, as contemporary young people, we need to pay attention not to this meaningless form, to the people themselves who really pay attention to the children and the family, but not to care about whose surname the child is with. The child itself is a bloodline continuation of both parents, the common future of two families, do not let the surname issue separate a family.
Important note: The development of the second child with the mother's surname will inevitably bring many problems, such as the family separation brought about by the split of the surname, the controversy leading to equality between men and women behind it, and the quarrel over the issue of the child's surname that is further brought about. The tradition of children following their father's surname is, in a sense, maintaining the order of society, and this is the fundamental reason why it is difficult to be subverted.
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