It is mentioned in the "Yan Family Training"
"No more words, more words and more failures; no more troubles, many troubles."
Evil comes out of the mouth, and more words will be lost.
For each of us, it is not the work of the wise to talk in front of us.
Thinking deeply before speaking, and being unsure whether it is appropriate to say something and then being silent is the most calm and rational way to deal with the world.
I very much agree with this sentence:
"When you're going to speak, what you say has to be more valuable than your silence."
In daily life, be a person who is good at silence, so as to avoid unnecessary troubles and live your life smoothly.
Meaningless things, no arguments
Is it hard to remain silent?
In the face of the nature of a competitive person, it is really difficult to do.
Too many times, whether things make sense or not, being competitive and aggressive is a habitual practice of too many people.
However, the final result of such an approach will only be unavoidable, and the struggle will be frustrated, and even the friendship will be ruined and resented.
I have seen such a video.
There are two friends who have a good relationship, because of the difference in the material of a bowl, one of whom thinks it is plastic and one of whom thinks it is crystal.
Originally, it didn't hurt who was right and who was wrong in this matter, but the two people did not give in to each other, and the argument was red-faced, and finally broke up unhappily.
Does it feel like the two people in the video are childish and ridiculous?
But isn't that what we do in reality? For many things that are obviously unnecessary to argue, it is only to argue with people in order to face and lose, and argue with people endlessly.
In the end, when you lose, you are angry, and there is no joy in winning.
Franklin said:
"If you're competitive, like to argue with others, and dismiss others for fun, you might win a short-lived victory." But this victory is meaningless and worthless, because you will never get the favor of the other side. ”
There are too many things in life that don't have to be right or wrong, and certainly not everything you have to win.
For meaningless arguments, learn to be silent, then although it seems to lose, but will win friendship and recognition, why not enjoy it!
Other people's big words, do not debunk
There is a saying:
"People live, just shine their own light, don't blow out other people's lights."
In life, everyone will not like to get along with a person who dismantles their own stage all day, but will like to be with someone who makes them comfortable.
So, sometimes some big things said by others, if it is not a big deal, and it does not hurt you, then why do you have to tear it down to add to the blockage of others!
I have seen such a story on the Internet:
A girl and her mother go to visit relatives, and the relative is a person who is particularly fond of showing off, and spends half a day at the relative's house, almost the whole time the relatives are showing off.
It's not that his son has more success, or that his daughter marries a son-in-law who has more ability...
In this regard, although the girl's mother knows that the relatives are exaggerated, she not only does not have any rebuttal, but from time to time she will praise her children in a kind way, saying that she is blessed, so that the relatives are full of satisfied smiles.
Xu Zhimo said:
"If the truth is a hurt, choose a lie; if a lie is a hurt, choose silence."
In life, we don't live to expose all the lies, but to make others comfortable.
Therefore, when others are talking big, even if you disdain to pander, you should remain silent.
After all, making others feel happy is the wisdom of being a person, and of course it is also a kind of cultivation that should be had as a person.
Their own sharpness, not in a hurry to perform
Carnegie once said:
"Know how to restrain your own light and avoid stabbing others and making enemies." Being low-key and humble, not ostentatious, in order to have a good relationship. ”
Being a person and doing things, not that you are dazzling, you will definitely get more beauty.
On the contrary, showing too much sharpness will often only make others uncomfortable, and eventually add trouble and obstacles to their own way forward.
There was once such a colleague.
He graduated from a prestigious university and had remarkable abilities, but he was so unloved that he was forced to resign in less than a year.
The reason for this is only because he is too arrogant.
Every time I have a meeting, I not only interrupt others in the middle of the conversation, but also always talk about my own views in the most remarkable way, and do not take anyone seriously.
Perhaps in his mind, he said more, and finally he could show that he had strength.
But the truth is just the opposite, not only does no colleague like him, even the leader has no good feelings for him.
In the end, because he was isolated, he could not stay in the company.
Wittgenstein said:
"Whatever can be said, can be said clearly; Whatever cannot be discussed should remain silent. "
Words, never, the more you say, the more valuable you are.
People who like to be silent, when getting along with people, do not express their own opinions, do not express their positions, but look at what other people behave.
In the end, in this way, not only can you better show your strength, but also will not provoke people to be disgusted, and it is more conducive to your career prospects.
Someone said:
"Smile and silence are two effective weapons, smile can solve many problems, and silence can avoid many things."
As a person, may you learn to be silent, and then manage your life well.
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Author: Away from the rain slightly cool, a rational, emotional, like to use words to express personal views, bring you spiritual healing, emotional solution, life perception of the post-90s writer.