Author: Liu Chezai
Hello first time. [Love Rearview Mirror] is a column related to love. As you can see, love never seems to be as difficult and complicated as it is today. On the one hand, love, as an eternal mystery of human narrative, still attracts people's attention; on the other hand, "not believing in love" seems to have become a mainstream value. This column will observe all aspects of love with a calm attitude and a "rearview mirror" perspective, and strive to restore a map of modern people's love spirit for you. Everyone needs love, and everyone is afraid of love, but before that, let's understand love.
Recently, the third season of "My Genius Girlfriend" has been broadcast, and it has now aired to the second episode, and I can't help but open the Douban to watch the film reviews, as expected, it is another season of group scolding "scumbag" Nino.
Based on the novel "Neapolitan Quadrilogy" by Italian writer Elena Ferrante, the play is about the half-life friendship between two women in the slum neighborhood of Naples in the 1940s and 1950s, in which Nino, one of the male protagonists who looms in the growth and life of the two women, wears the love desire of the two heroines like a needle.
In the second season, Lennon is surprised and sad to see Lila and Nino together.
Whether in the play or in the novel, Nino is a personal charm, and two heroines with very different personalities are in love with him (Lennon has a crush on him for nearly 20 years, and Lila abandons her husband for him), not to mention the crazy girl in the novel.
I asked a few female friends around me who chased the drama, and everyone almost hated Nino's scum one-sidedly, but it was inevitable that they would honestly sigh: Hey, if I were, I would probably fall in love with Nino.
What kind of person is Nino?
He was the smartest and most handsome boy in the block since he was a child, but not the sunny type. There was melancholy and cowardice in his handsomeness, as Lennon said to himself: "He was so handsome, his hair neatly combed, his eyelashes long, thin and nervous. ”
Nino always looked arrogant and thinking.
From an early age, unlike other boys, he disdained playing rock-throwing games with the hairy children. He loves to learn, has good grades and loves to think. As he grew older, he became more and more independent and rebellious—all because he didn't want to be like his father.
His father, a railroad clerk, enjoyed publishing poetry and literary criticism in local newspapers outside of work. He is romantic and affectionate, showing "love" to other women without exception, and when others go crazy because of ambiguity, he turns away in a dashing manner: "This is not my intention, I'm sorry, let you fall in love with me." ”
The first person to see through his sour and hypocritical nature was probably his son Nino. Because of this, Nino hated his father and hated Naples, and his growth seemed to be to break away from his father. He worked hard to read more books, to understand literature, politics, and philosophy, and to see the outside world farther and larger.
Nino saw through his father from an early age.
When boys of the same age are thinking about which girl to chase, Nino is running for the public good, he talks passionately about the gap between the rich and the poor, and passionately calls for a peaceful revolution... His every move made him glow in the crowd.
This is probably the part that Lennon and Lila and the other girls aspire to, and they all see in Nino the projection of their own desires, the ideals and passions that transcend their own environment.
Ironically, perhaps at some point in his life, Nino suddenly realized that he was full of fatherly traits, and he hated his father even more, and inevitably obeyed this trait—he found that he had the same talent for manipulating women as his father.
In fact, he knows better than his father how to play with women's appreciation and admiration. In the face of possible objects, Nino effortlessly and gently attacks, he can harvest the hearts of the girls, he is talkative, cheerful, passionate, but also gentle, fragile, nervous.
He narcissistically knows that these contradictory temperaments in him will not only not be annoying, but will stimulate a woman's possessiveness that is mixed with motherhood, appreciation, desire, and gentleness.
Nino makes many people feel familiar, probably the same world, the same "scum" temperament.
The inertia was so easy that he didn't want to resist at all. He further exploits the admiration these women have for him, turning the tide of his life again and again. And these girls, almost as great as they thought they were, tried their best to help him, even though they knew that they were just a pink peach blossom that doted Nino's life.
Nino hates his hypocritical father, but purposefully chooses to fall in love with Marie Rosa, the daughter of a high school teacher, just to enter the Kochi circle; he is close to Lennon, in part because Lennon's fiancé's family is full of respected scholars...
I think that in Nino's life, there must have been countless times of struggle to get rid of the "bad genes" of his father, but such thoughts seemed to be fleeting, and after that, he easily slid into his comfort zone and continued to use his advantages to make one girl after another obsessed with him.
About once in the entire tetralogy, Nino has said goodbye to the "scumbag" in his body once and for all.
This was probably Nino's most sincere one.
He had been attracted to Lila's strength and intelligence, and almost wanted to give up everything to elope with Lila. But the decision was so fragile that after a few arguments, he decided to give up, "You can be yourself if you want, but don't drag me into the water." After all, he loves smart women, but he can't tolerate Lila being stronger than him.
Nino is the kind of guy who can make girls discern at a glance in the crowd, he is dazzling and passionate, he is fragile and wants to rely on. He's shrouded in idealism, but if he hasn't been hurt by him, you don't know his egoism that goes deep into the marrow.
The other male protagonist, Enzo, is simply the opposite of Nino, he is like a silent mountain, firm and gentle, doing more and talking less. You can always believe in Enzo, but girls, how come you guys didn't fall in love with Enzo!
However, as mentioned earlier, the girls like Nino not because of how irreplaceable Nino is, but because the qualities in him are just the projection of everyone's desires, the white moonlight that people want to get.