Letting go is a choice; letting go is a course; letting go is even more of a wisdom.
Sometimes, we always feel that the reason why we don't feel happy in our lives is because we have too few things.
In fact, the root cause of our inability to feel happy is that we carry too much weight.
The journey that should have been able to go light was weighed down by some messy things, making it difficult for us to move forward, such a life, let alone happy.
Psychological research has shown that at the age of forty, some "feelings" should be put down, don't understand.
Too full of love, just let it go
There is a cup, and if milk is poured into this cup, then people will say that it is "a glass of milk", and if a glass of juice is poured into this quilt, then people will call it "a glass of juice".
Only when there is nothing in the cup can it be called a cup, which is the empty cup mentality in psychology.
In the relationship between the sexes, the "cup" of love becomes possessed when it is filled with time, and it becomes a bondage when it is filled with energy.
This tells us that when people reach middle age, they should know how to deal with love "empty cup".
Cai Kangyong once said: "I don't think that being too warm is the best way to maintain a good relationship with others, and if you are bound by the word warmth, it is even more difficult." I advise you to be a cold person, learn to be indifferent, and you can achieve warmth. ”
The feelings between middle-aged couples have faced a bottleneck of a burnout period, and the most important thing at this time is to cool each other's feelings, rather than blindly approaching.
When the water is full, it overflows, the moon is full, the apple will fall down if it is too ripe, and the water will be sprinkled out when it is too full, and everything needs to be maintained within a reasonable degree of operation so as not to wither too quickly.
Frequent contact between husband and wife will seem boring, and the trivialities of daily life will grow up.
If the feelings between middle-aged couples want to go steadily, they need to do subtraction, that is, let the marriage be in a semi-full state, so that there will be no contradictions because they are too hot.
Any deep enthusiasm, over time, will eventually manifest as a daily habit due to the closeness of the object, and if you want to maintain a strong vitality, you need to learn to use appropriate indifference to complete warmth.
Too full of friendship, just let it go
Zhen Huan in the TV series "The Biography of Zhen Huan" was very kind to An Lingrong at the beginning, and would stand up when she was bullied, and she also took more care of her on weekdays.
But An Lingrong is an extremely inferior and sensitive person, others must be 100% good to her, a little deficiency, she will completely deny the kindness of others to her.
Therefore, no matter how good Zhen Huan treated An Ling, An Ling Rong felt that she looked down on herself, and her previous kindness to herself was just a charity.
Later, An Lingrong also put a large amount of musk in Zhen Huan's soothing glue in an attempt to make her miscarry.
You say, how can such a person who will take revenge become a lifelong friend, and how can he be worthy of the kindness of others to her?
Mr. Ji Xianlin once said: "It is inevitable that some time will be wasted in this life, and it is inevitable that some detours will be taken." ”
In this world, we are not 100% lucky, each of us is not God's lucky person, only one way to go, we will know what the meaning of life is.
At first we may not understand what the definition of friend is, but at the age of forty, we will know that friends are also mutual, and those who are not worthy of being friends may be the best way to let go.
Too full of affection, just let it go
Family affection is sometimes too "full" and not good, especially the feelings between us and our children.
Parents love their children, then they have far-reaching plans, and parents, no matter when, no matter what they do, the starting point is to hope that their children can live well.
It's just that sometimes we are parents for the first time and don't know what to do, so we will use too much force —
Do not let the child play with what she likes, on the grounds that the plaything is demoralized;
Don't let the child play with his good friends, on the grounds that the near Zhu is red, and the near ink is black.
We treat our children the way we think we are "good for you," but we never consider whether the child will be willing to do it.
As a result, the contradiction between parents and children will erupt.
There is a saying in the book "Poisoned Parents": "Children do not distinguish between facts and jokes, they will believe what their parents say about themselves and transform them into their own ideas." ”
Don't ignore the influence of parents on their children, and when they don't understand anything yet, we can make a big deal out of it and avoid them getting hurt.
When they have mastered a certain cognitive ability, we have to learn to let go.
On the way forward, the child may be hurt a little, but it will certainly be stronger than the way he grows up under our protection.