On March 4, 1997, 86-year-old Yang Dai rushed to a hospital in Beijing to visit her and Qian Zhongshu's only daughter, Qian Zhen. At this time, Qian Yu had reached the edge of life, and only one breath was maintaining life.
Yang Dai sat in front of her daughter's hospital bed, watching her dying daughter struggle to maintain that breath, and her heart was extremely sad. She knows that her daughter can't trust her and her husband.
Finally, Yang Dai got up and lay down next to Qian Zhen's ear and said softly: "Daughter, sleep in peace, I and your father wish you a good sleep!" ”
As soon as Yang Dai's voice fell, Qian Zhen was relieved to "leave."
The greatest sorrow in the world is that the white-haired person sends the black-haired person, and in the face of the death of his only daughter, Yang Dai, who is over eighty years old, feels sad as if he has lost some support point.
But there was not much time left for Yang Dai to miss her daughter, and she could not care about excessive sadness, because at this time, in the hospital bed in Beijing, her seriously ill husband Qian Zhongshu was still waiting for her care.
The day after Qian's death, Yang Dai stewed chicken soup and traveled all the way to the Beijing Hospital to visit her husband. Although At this time, Qian Zhongshu could no longer eat independently and could only rely on infusion to maintain his life.
But out of love and concern, Yang Dai still hopes to nourish her husband's body through chicken soup. Although Yang Dai never mentioned her daughter's condition to her husband, Qian Zhongshu, who had been hospitalized for four years, had already had a premonition because her daughter had not come to see her for a long time.
And just 8 days after Qian Yuan's death, Qian Zhongshu, who was in a coma, suddenly shouted "Ah Yuan" seven or eight times with his back to Yang Dai, and said to let "Ah Yuan go to his own home" .
When Yang Dai asked her husband again, Qian Zhongshu fell into a coma again, and she fell into contemplation, wondering if the home that Qian Zhongshu said was the home where the three people lived together.
But Yang Dai knew that she must take advantage of Qian Zhongshu's slightly clear consciousness to tell her husband the news of her daughter's death.
So, one day, when Qian Zhongshu weakly mentioned "Ah Yuan", Yang Dai said in her husband's ear: "Ah Yuan is walking very well, I bless her." ”
Qian Zhongshu understood as soon as he heard it, he didn't say anything, just two lines of cold tears fell from the corners of his eyes, and then he said to Yang Dai a long time later: "You are the hardest." ”
Qian Yu died of illness this year is less than 60 years old, this year, she is also the first of the "family of three" to die.....
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In May 1937, Qian was born in Oxford, England.
Before she was born, her father Qian Zhongshu had said to his wife Yang Dai many times: "We must have a daughter, a daughter like you." In the end, Qian Zhongshu really got his wish.
Growing up in such a family, with such parents, Qian Yu is undoubtedly lucky. Since she was born, she has been deeply loved by her parents, especially Qian Zhongshu, and she simply has a feeling of being a treasure.
When Qian Was more than 1 year old, Qian Zhongshu and his wife received an invitation from Tsinghua University to return to China to serve as professors. In this way, the ignorant Qian Yu followed her parents on a journey back to China.
Because her face is round and she is wearing a cute doll skirt, on the way back to China, Qian Yu is very popular with the passengers on the same ship, and everyone praises her for being like a doll.
As the daughter of a talented son and a talented daughter, Qian Zhen inherited the wisdom of her parents, and she was already literate when she was just two or three years old. But there is a very interesting thing, she was able to read the words backwards.
It turned out that at that time, Qian Yu and her mother lived in her grandfather's house, and the elders of the family taught their cousins to recognize words, but from Qian Yao's point of view, the words were upside down.
One day, Qian Yan suddenly read the words upside down to her mother, and Yang Dai was frightened when she saw it. After finding the reason, he began to correct his daughter to read straight.
However, Qian Yu was very smart, and within a few days she changed this habit, and the words she knew were on par with her cousins who were a few years older.
In addition to being intelligent, Qian Yu is also very lively and cute, mainly because she has an extremely interesting father.
Although Qian Zhongshu is a well-known talent, he is not at all old-fashioned at home, especially when he is with his daughter, he is simply a big child.
Qian Zhongshu often developed some small games, such as hiding some small objects in the quilt and letting his daughter look for them, which was called "treasure hunting".
It is precisely with such a father that Qian Yu has developed an optimistic and strong personality. At the same time, because the father and mother are extremely in love with each other, their family of three is full of warmth and happiness.
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Because of her natural intelligence and the guidance of her parents, Qian Yu after studying also ranked among the best in her grades.
In 1955, at the age of 18, Qian Yan was admitted to Beijing Normal University with excellent results. After entering the university, she maintained the habit of studying diligently and diligently, and almost did not have any personal time.
Qian Yao's classmates once recalled that during the study period, everyone would go on outings on weekends, but Qian Yu was either in class or in the library, and the reason why she worked so hard was that she was determined to be a "teacher's sharp soldier".
Qian Yu said so, and did the same.
After graduating from college, the excellent Qian Yu directly stayed in the school to teach, and did her best to be a "sharp soldier". At first, Qian Yi taught Russian, and later she crossed over to teach English.
In fact, Qian Yan's English level was not low at that time, but she was very self-demanding, and she always felt that her English did not meet the requirements of her heart, so she worked hard and learned while teaching.
At that time, Qian Yan was both a professor and a doctoral supervisor, and in the eyes of outsiders, Qian Yan's identity was bright and respected. But the hardships involved were known only to her.
At that time, because the school did not have enough manpower, Qian Yu opened undergraduate courses in addition to being a doctoral supervisor, and the course arrangement was very compact.
Moreover, she lived in the city, and it was not convenient to come and go, so Qian Yu was racing against time almost every day, and her spirit was always in a state of high concentration.
In order not to delay the course, Qian Yu got up very early every day, and after breakfast, she went to catch the bus.
At that time, there were not many cars in Beijing, and every day was crowded, and Qian Yu, who was always gentle, had to squeeze into the car like a warrior in order to catch the early train.
Because the time was too fast, she also made a joke. It was hard to get into the car that time, and she had just taken a breath when she realized that she was wearing the wrong shoes, one foot was black and the other was yellow.
From this small matter, we can see that Qian Yu is really focused on teaching, and even has no time to take care of herself. Moreover, Qian Yi not only did her own students, but also did the same to other students.
At that time, there was a student from a foreign department who often came to QianYi's class to observe, and QianYi saw that he was so diligent, so he offered to help him approve his homework and personally guided her to read, which was several years.
In the end, with the help of Qian Zhen, the classmate was admitted to the graduate school of Renmin University. Qian Yu was very happy, but she never asked for credit, just praised the study, which is the result of your own efforts.
In teaching, Qian Yu has paid almost all her energy, and she is more serious about her work to the extreme.
At that time, Qian Yan presided over the "English Intensive Reading Textbook" compiled by a university in Shanghai, and she almost reviewed it word by word, leaving dense handwriting on many pages.
It can be said that Qian Yu is in a state of high concentration every day, like a clockwork machine.
Colleagues couldn't take it anymore and often advised her: "Pay attention to rest." ”
But Qian Yu always said, "I'm already on the back of the tiger, and I have to keep going." ”
But people are all physical bodies, and excessive exertion or the consumption of QianYi's body even allowed her to complete her life prematurely.
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For a while, Qian Yu often coughed, accompanied by low back pain. People around her urged her to hurry up and see it, but Qian Yu was afraid of delaying her work, so she delayed it again and again and said, "It doesn't matter, rest, just take some medicine." ”
Sometimes, the pain was so unbearable that she bought some painkillers on the way home. Unfortunately, instead of alleviating, the condition has become more and more serious.
One morning in the spring of 1996, Qian Yan couldn't sit up. At this time, her father had been hospitalized for more than two years, the 85-year-old mother was working every day, and the filial piety Qian Yu did not dare to alarm her mother, so she could only call her colleagues for help.
In the end, everyone forcibly took Qian Yu to the hospital. The doctor's diagnosis was very unsatisfactory, it was bone tuberculosis, there were three segments of the spine lesions, and there may be cancer cells.
Later, after re-examination, it was found that Qian Yu's lungs had problems, and she was finally diagnosed with lung cancer, and the cancer cells had spread. At that time, colleagues were very sad, but no one told Qian Yu about the condition.
Subsequently, Qian Yu obeyed the doctor's arrangement and was hospitalized, although she did not know her illness, but from everyone's reaction, she was already clear in her heart.
But Qian Yu never took the initiative to ask, as if she had just changed an office location. A highly concentrated work is maintained in the hospital bed.
People around her urged her to pay attention to rest, but she said: "This is a debt, it is not good not to pay it." Later in life, Qian Yu endured unimaginable torture from ordinary people.
Because the cancer cells have spread and invaded the bone marrow, they can only lie flat every day. The bed sores festered and exposed the bones, because every day the infusions were made, her veins were already rotten, and the doctor had no choice but to open the infusion openings under her left and right shoulder blades.
When her friends came to visit her, she pretended not to care and said, "It's cruel to punch holes in your body!" The friend couldn't help but cry, and no one could understand why such a kind Qian Yu would suffer such torture.
During the whole illness, Qian Yu was strong, only once mentioned her parents she choked up tears, she said that her father was also in the hospital, we would communicate, my mother was responsible for passing, my mother was the most pitiful, 86 years old, but also to take care of two patients.....
In the final stage of her life, because she was afraid that her mother would see her in pain, Qian Yu would not let her mother come to the hospital, and the mother and daughter would talk on the phone every night.
In the end, Qian Yu was killed by the disease, before her parents, and passed away at the age of 59. Compared with the high life expectancy of her parents, Qian Yan's life is short.
And Qian Yu not only did not live as long as her parents, but her marriage was not as happy as her parents, she had two marriages in her life, and did not leave children.
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Qian Yu's first husband was named Wang Deyi. They were college classmates, Wang Deyi was not only handsome, but also very talented, and they lived happily after marriage.
Yang Dai and Qian Zhongshu were also satisfied with this son-in-law. Unfortunately, less than two years after marriage, for various reasons, Wang Deyi left his young wife and committed suicide.
It can be said that the death of Wang Deyi has brought a great blow to Qian Yu. After that, she moved home to live with her parents, perhaps because she needed love and warmth in her heart.
Five years after Wang Deyi's death, Qian Yi remarried, the other party was named Yang Weicheng, more than ten years older than Qian Wei, and the eldest child was 18 years old.
As a "stepmother", Qian Yu is also qualified.
Because she can't cook, she feels very guilty and wants to make up for it in her own way. Every weekend, she always went to buy all kinds of delicious food for her family, including some very rare Western snacks.
In order not to have a generation gap with her children, Qian Yu, who has always cherished time, will also sit down to watch TV dramas with everyone and discuss the plot.
In addition, despite the busy work, QianYi will also insist on tutoring her children in English, she strives to integrate into this new home, and strives to do everything a mother should do, for which she wins the love and respect of her husband and two children.
Unfortunately, Qian Yu did not have her own children, so Qian Zhongshu and Yang Dai did not meet the third generation, and there were only the two of them in this family, and only the two of them.
Many people say that because her parents are too famous, Qian Yu is slightly ordinary. But in fact, Qian Yu's excellence is no less than her parents, but she has always been very low-key....
Although Qian Yu's life is only 59 years, she has lived out her own value.....
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