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In the era of the pursuit of a decent life, only good popularity seems to be able to live more smoothly.
However, adult socialization is no longer revealing their true hearts, each has its own calculations in mind, and the process of getting along can not bring nourishment, or even a kind of self-consumption.
I once heard a saying: No matter what kind of relationship, it must be evenly matched to last.
Whether they can not be separated from each other, it is not enough to have a sincere heart, if the pace and thoughts of two people are inconsistent, eventually there will be no intersection.
When you are young, you don't realize this, so you spend a lot of time meeting more friends.
However, with the increase of their own experience, they have a deeper understanding of the establishment of interpersonal relationships. You start to know how to socialize less, don't like to put yourself in the crowd, but prefer to enjoy the beauty of quiet times.
However, some people's personalities are always very extroverted, they need to go into the crowd to get energy, they don't care about communicating with each other, whether they can bring happiness or not, just to entertain their time.
But some people, on the contrary, are meaningless gatherings and will definitely break away.
After middle age, people who do not like to visit the door and hate others to come to their homes are often the following three types of people.
01: People who don't like to cater to
I like a saying: life has a degree, mistakes in the degree, bad in excess, good in moderation.
When dealing with people, it is wise to keep the right distance.
Especially after middle age, those who do not like to visit the door and hate others to come to their homes are mostly people who do not like to cater. Their hearts are more determined, and they will not spend their time on things that have no meaning in order to be so-called gregarious.
The exchanges between friends, if they are very familiar with each other, the three views are consistent, then the process of conversation, must be comfortable. Unfortunately, there are some relatives and friends nowadays who don't really want you to have a good life, and even the greetings have become very hypocritical.
When you are young, you will learn to say something grandiose, just to make others happy. But by the age of 40, halfway through life, I would no longer spend so much energy to meet the needs of others.
Instead of pandering to others, we should learn to respect ourselves, only in this way can we really live a good life.
02: People who know how to enjoy being alone
Thoreau said that the more many things a man can let go of, the richer he becomes.
We all want to be better off than anyone else, so we have the idea of comparison, and we can't help but show off in front of others.
The more inferior people are, the more they like to visit the door, and when friends come to the house, they will become very excited. But a person can not really recognize themselves, in fact, it is difficult to feel the charm of life.
After middle age, people who do not like to be lively and do not like to visit the door are mostly enjoying the process of loneliness. They are immersed in quiet joy and do not feel how terrible it is to be alone.
When you are alone, you can calm down and do what you want to do, not be disturbed by external emotions, and when you are closer to your inner voice and brave enough to be yourself, this sense of security can bring real strength.
By the age of 40, everything that should be experienced has been experienced, and there is a deeper understanding and thinking about the meaning of life.
Solitude is a choice, and the more determined the person is, the less he likes to put himself in the crowd, but the more he likes a peaceful life.
They can truly see their worth, and the warmth of being alone will bring a lot more than you think. You will live a fuller and more interesting life in a specific environment.
This kind of spiritual satisfaction cannot be obtained by others, and the result of the carnival of a group of people is nothing more than emptiness.
03: People who are afraid of trouble and only want to pursue simplicity
People and people gather together, talk more, there will be different misunderstandings, especially when encountering people without a sense of boundaries, often love to take care of other people's family affairs.
I once read a sentence: "Once people have identified something, their thoughts will become one-sided and stubborn, in other words, what blinds us is obsession, prejudice." ”
Where there are many people, there will be right and wrong and contradictions, because everyone lives with their own prejudices. Those who don't like to visit the door, and even hate others to come to their homes, in fact, are not not fond of being lively, but afraid of right and wrong.
After middle age, I have already experienced different injuries, and now I only hope that my life can be simpler, and I don't want to consume my energy anymore.
Even if you are once a good friend, the three views will change over time, and it is difficult to keep your thoughts consistent.
The starting point for considering the problem is different, the things that are concerned will be different, and the contradiction will naturally arise.
Friends and relatives visit each other' doors, if they can't bring a pleasant feeling, it is just a place of right and wrong, preferring to watch movies and books quietly at home alone, rather than let yourself fall into contradictions.
Everyone's mindset slowly changes with age and experience, and no matter what, we all want us to live faithfully to our hearts.
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