Sanmao
"There are talented people in the Jiangshan generation, and each has led the way for hundreds of years."
Whether it is Li Bai, a world-famous "poetry immortal", Cao Xueqin, who wrote "Dream of the Red Chamber", the first of the "Four Masterpieces", Lu Xun, who is spicy in writing, or Mo Yan, the winner of the "Nobel Prize in Literature", all shine in the Chinese literary circles and have a unique position.
In addition to these well-known male writers, the history of Chinese literature also shines with the figure of many female writers, such as Zhang Ailing, who has a delicate literary style, and Sanmao, who is eccentric and quirky.
Mention Sanmao, in addition to her prose novels, it is inevitable that people will not think of her love story with her husband Jose.
A book "The Story of the Sahara" not only takes the reader to appreciate the exotic desert scenery, but also tells people a touching transnational love.
Ma Zhongxin
However, it is this love story that has touched countless people that has been questioned and denied by a person after Sanmao's dead soul.
This man's name was Ma Zhongxin, and he was a professional traveler.
It took him 5 years to revisit the places where Sanmao and Jose had been, and finally wrote the book "The Truth About Sanmao".
In this book, he completely rejects the love between Sanmao and Jose in a very affirmative tone, saying that this love is just Sanmao's own imagination and does not exist at all.
In addition to denying the love between Sanmao and Jose, his evaluation and attitude towards Sanmao were also very dismissive.
According to him, Sanmao is not at all a free and cheerful person like she presents to the public in the book.
On the contrary, she is very neurotic, not only "old and ugly", "strange behavior", but also suffering from a very serious mental illness.
Moreover, her feelings for Jose are not as loyal as she writes in the book.
In fact, she had several "lovers" before she met Jose.
After Jose's death, she did not achieve "one life and one couple", but soon fell in love again, and successively "ambiguous" with Jia Pingwa and Wang Luobin.
After the publication of "The Truth about Sanmao", it immediately caused an uproar.
Some people criticize Ma Zhongxin for turning black and white upside down and talking nonsense; some people think that Ma Zhongxin's words are not unreasonable.
There are also some fans of Sanmao, directly after reading "The Truth about Sanmao", announced that they "depowdered" Sanmao.
So, is this really the case? Are those feelings as pure as moonlight, those novel and interesting experiences, all the hypotheses of Sanmao?
Ma Zhongxin and Sanmao, who is lying?
The best way to figure this out is to get to know Sanmao.
Sanmao, whose real name is Chen Ping, was born in 1943 and his ancestral home is in Zhoushan, Zhejiang. She moved to Taiwan with her parents at the age of 5 and is a famous female writer and traveler in contemporary China.
Sanmao's parents are both knowledge father and son, and she can also be regarded as born in Shuxiang Mendi.
Influenced by the family environment, Sanmao has been reading a lot of books since she was a child, reading almost all the Chinese and foreign masterpieces that she can access, and under the guidance of her parents, she has learned poetry, songs, and foreign languages.
Because of his rich knowledge reserves and the enlightened education of his parents, Sanmao was different from other girls from an early age.
She is enthusiastic and bold, informal, will say whatever she thinks, will not easily modify when she makes a decision, and likes to stay by the graveyard in a daze.
Because of this personality, Sanmao was not liked by his classmates and teachers when he was studying, and was even often excluded.
Although Sanmao has shown a high literary talent since she was a child, her mathematical results are in a mess, and she has been slandered and cheated by teachers in public because of several full scores in mathematics.
Being so slandered, Sanmao immediately stood up and resisted, who expected that this teacher without teacher morality did not give her the slightest chance to explain, and also drew two zeros on her face with a pen.
After this incident, she became the one in the class who was isolated and ridiculed.
In this repressive environment, her psychology was greatly affected, she suffered from severe depression, and even had "self-harm" behavior.
Considering her daughter's health, her parents decided to suspend her from school, and she also began a life of self-study at home.
It was during her home study that her literary attainments improved rapidly. She doesn't have to follow the rigid curriculum in school.
She read what she wanted to read and wrote what she wanted to write. He also studied painting with great painters such as Gu Fusheng and Han Xiangning.
In such a happy and fulfilling day, Sanmao gradually grew up.
In 1964, the founder of The Cultural University cherished her talent and allowed her to be an auditor at the university.
Here, Sanmao, who has just opened his heart, meets the handsome and amorous Shu Fan.
Shu Fan is a famous talent in the drama department, with outstanding appearance, talent and affection, and has a great reputation in the school, and many female classmates regard him as the "dream lover".
Unlike those shy female classmates, Sanmao found out that he was in love with Shu Fan and quickly launched an offensive.
Once, when she met Shu Fan at school, she rushed straight up, drew out his pen, and wrote her phone number on the palm of his hand.
Shu Fan was attracted by her courage and true feelings, and the two soon began to communicate.
Two years later, both ushered in their graduation days.
At this time, Sanmao, who longed for marriage, made a request for marriage to Shu Fan.
But the romantic and amorous Shu Fan had no intention of getting married at all. In this way, Sanmao ended her first love, and the two broke up unhappily.
After being hit by his first love, Sanmao chose to go to Spain and continue his studies at the University of Madrid to start a new life.
Here, Sanmao meets Jose.
When the two first met, Jose was just a high school student, and Sanmao's impression of him was only a very good-looking "little boy".
Jose, on the other hand, completely ignored the age difference between the two of them, fell in love with Sanmao at first sight, and immediately began to pursue.
In order to go out on a date with Sanmao, Jose would sit silently downstairs in Sanmao's dormitory, waiting for her to see her when she came downstairs.
Sanmao's roommate also found this good-looking little boy, and every time he saw him downstairs, he would laugh and tease Sanmao.
Say to her, "Eh, your cousin is coming to you again." ”
Jose
But Sanmao, who was six years older than Jose, had always regarded him as a younger brother, and when he saw him downstairs, he would run down and play with him.
Until one time, Jose suddenly confessed to her seriously, hoping that Sanmao could wait for him for six years, and when he finished college and military service, he would marry her.
Sanmao of course refused, thinking that he was just a child's heart and did not understand what love was.
In order not to let Jose sink too deeply, she also solemnly warned him not to come back to her in the future.
After that, Jose did not come to her again.
Three years later, Sanmao returned to Taiwan.
During his time in Taiwan, the family introduced him to a German photographer, and the two interacted for a while, felt that each other was very suitable, and quickly made a marriage contract.
Who would have thought that this photographer would suddenly have a heart attack and die on the eve of the wedding.
Sanmao's heart ached, and she was hit by the breakup of her first love and the sudden death of her fiancé, and she became depressed, immersed in grief and self-doubt all day long.
It was during this time that she became acquainted with a painter.
Both love to draw, and there are endless topics to talk about when chatting. Under the gentle attack of the painter, Sanmao gradually came out of the grief of losing his fiancé.
After experiencing the loss, she cherished this feeling especially, did not hesitate to wash and cook for him, and took care of him like a little woman.
It didn't take long, however, for her to discover that the painter was a shameless man with a husband.
Embarrassed, Sanmao decisively broke off contact with the painter and flew to Spain again.
Sanmao, who returned to Spain, met Jose again. At this time, it had been six years since they had last met.
In six years, Jose has changed from the young and immature little boy to a strong and mature adult man.
As he said at the time, six years later, he would come to Sanmao again and enter the palace of marriage with her.
Sanmao once said: "I believe that people who really care about me will not be robbed by others, whether it is friendship or love." ”
His first love abandoned him, and his fiancé left her. Only Jose, for six years, he remained still, and his love for her was still the same.
This time, Sanmao did not hesitate any longer, she decisively took Jose's hand and agreed to his pursuit.
Shortly after the two became acquainted, Sanmao saw the Sahara Desert in a magazine.
The Sahara Desert was so vast and mysterious, and Sanmao was extremely curious about it.
She called the Sahara Desert her "lover of a past life" and that she had to reunite with her lover from her past life.
So Sanmao told Jose that she was going to the Sahara.
When Jose heard about it, he had no objection, and he gave up his job in the big city and rushed to the Sahara under difficult conditions.
He loves Sanmao, and he must prepare everything for her before her beloved arrives.
In this way, when Sanmao arrived in the Sahara, Jose had already found a job and a place to live, and was determined to stay in the desert with her.
"What you deliberately look for is often something you can't find. Everything under the heavens comes and goes, and there is his time. ”
Now, the love that Sanmao has been looking for has arrived. She had understood that Jose was the one she was going to spend her life with.
In the dry and barren desert, two people who love each other finally decide to marry.
There is no dignified and elegant wedding, and there is no banquet full of high-end friends.
A handful of broccoli, a camel skull, and Sanmao completely handed himself over to the man from a foreign land.
This is simply unimaginable for most girls.
But Sanmao is different, she once said humorously, "If you don't look good, the multi-millionaire will not marry; if you like it, the billionaire will also marry." ”
Jose was clearly the one she "looked good to the eye" for.
It is precisely because he understands her that Jose will give her a wedding gift such as a "camel skull".
Therefore, when Sanmao received the camel skull, he would be surprised and say, "I am so excited, this thing has been sent to my heart, jose is worthy of my confidant." ”
Jose was willing to accompany Sanmao to do things that seemed incredible to outsiders, such as settling in the desolate Sahara Desert.
Sanmao is also willing to accompany Jose to do things that seem crazy to outsiders, and when Jose said that he was going to the desert to find fossils, she joined him in the desert full of yellow sand.
They are a pair destined by Heaven.
After that, the two lived an ordinary and interesting life in the distant Sahara Desert.
After that, every bit was also written by Sanmao in the famous "Sahara Story".
In addition to roughly understanding Sanmao's experience, for the authenticity of her love story with Jose, for "who is lying", I think everyone has their own answer in their hearts.
In fact, if you seriously look at Ma Zhongxin's "The Truth about Sanmao", it is easy to find that he is prejudiced against Sanmao.
The reason why he wrote the book was also, "in order not to let those young boys and girls be blinded by the illusion created by Sanmao." ”
Moreover, his denial of Sanmao is nothing more than the following points.
Sanmao and Jose
First, he learned from Sanmao's neighbors that Sanmao was "old and ugly," "behaved strangely," and was very unlikable, contrary to her own description of "extensive friendship."
Second, Jose did not love Sanmao at all, and even in order to avoid Sanmao, he often went fishing alone to distant islands, and did not return home many times.
Third, Sanmao suffers from serious mental illness, conceit and hypocrisy, and the love she describes is only her imagination, in fact, it is not as beautiful and interesting as written in "The Story of the Sahara".
Fourth, Sanmao was not loyal to Jose, and she had many lovers before she knew Jose. After Jose's death, she was not sad, and quickly entangled with Jia Pingwa and Wang Luobin.
Although Sanmao could no longer say anything about these points he put forward, he had already given explanations and answers with his own life.
First of all, he said that Sanmao was ugly, annoying, and liking by others was fake.
However, no one is perfect, even the sage Confucius cannot be perfect, how can Sanmao be able to do what everyone likes?
Moreover, the neighbors ma Zhongxin visited had a conflict with Sanmao, and even secretly used the water she had stored when Sanmao went out.
Second, he said that Jose did not love Sanmao and often avoided her on the grounds of fishing.
This is actually recorded in Sanmao's book, and the reason why Jose went to the distant island was only because the fish near that island were diverse and numerous.
He "did not return at night", also because the road was far away and could not be rushed back.
Again, he said that Sanmao suffered from mental illness and that The Sahara Story was fictional.
Sanmao's mental illness was due to the exclusion and isolation she had received as a child, and after she took a break from school, the situation has slowly improved.
This is evidenced by the fact that she was able to study abroad alone and successfully completed her studies and obtained a degree certificate.
And based on this alone, it is obviously very absurd to assert that the story in sanmao's book is completely her imagination, not to mention that the novel is a reprocessing of real experience?
Finally, he proposes that Sanmao was "unfaithful" to Jose, and that he had lovers in front of and behind him.
Before marrying Jose, Sanmao was in love with Shu Fan and others. But is there anything wrong with an unmarried woman who has a crush on a talented man of the right age?
After marrying Jose, Sanmao's eyes were only left with him. They spent six romantic years together until Jose accidentally drowned and left her forever.
Ma Zhongxin said that Sanmao was not sad about Jose's death and soon fell in love with other men.
So, what are the facts?
After Jose's death, Sanmao was so sad that he almost shed tears when he held him, and even personally excavated the cemetery for him with his hands.
In the days without Jose, she seemed to have lost the meaning of life and tried to end her life.
In a later interview, as long as Jose is mentioned, she will immediately choke, which shows the deepest affection.
Where, as Ma Zhongxin said, is it "not sad at all"?
As for what he said, "Sanmao fell in love with someone else again after Jose's death."
You can first look at Sanmao's sentence:
"Don't look at that wound, it will scar one day, the scar won't fade, but it won't hurt anymore."
Jose was the wound, and she let him slowly form a scar and stop looking at it.
She picked up her spirits, started a new life, and made new friends.
Wang Luobin met by chance, when the two met, Sanmao was 47 years old, and Wang Luobin was already 77 years old.
Sanmao was attracted by Wang Luobin's love for his deceased wife, probably because the two were in too similar circumstances, and the two were close for a while. However, this situation did not last long, and they quickly broke off contact.
Jia Pingwo
As for Jia Pingwo, Sanmao completely admired his writing and talent, and personally wrote to him.
In the letter she said: "Thank you for this pen, which brings readers like me, many sleepless nights. ”
Between the lines, it is completely the appreciation and respect for the writer.
So is the "ambiguous" in Ma Zhongxin's mouth too inappropriate?
Sanmao said, "I don't ask about other people's affairs unless he himself wants to." ”
Perhaps this Mr. Ma Zhongxin can learn from the Sanmao he "despises", do not overly explore and evaluate the private affairs of others, even if it is curious, please leave your own prejudices first.
Scythians are dead, things are not people.
Those who leave, those stories printed in lead, it is pointless to inquire into whether they are true or false.
Ma Zhongxin said that he wrote the book so that the young boys and girls would not be blinded by the illusion created by Sanmao.
But it's true or fictional. What we pursue is always pure and immaculate love; what we yearn for is always free romance.
And these can be found one by one in Sanmao's book.