In 1934, the world's first quintuplets were born in Canada. And this special origin did not bring them good luck.
On the contrary, the local government in Canada forcibly removed them from their parents on the grounds that they were incapable of supporting them, and were not allowed to return to their biological parents until they were nine years old.
During this period, they were visited and exhibited like a group of animals, becoming the darlings of advertising and the treasures of painters, except that they were not normal people.
And even after returning to their biological parents, they are still like several precious exhibits, being carried around, and they do not feel a trace of the warmth of family affection.
In adulthood, all the quintuplets chose to disassociate themselves from their original families. Years later, the three sisters who were still alive among the quintuplets filed a complaint against the local government for compensation.
In 2006, Anhui Province also ushered in the first quintuplets in the province. The same quintuplets, what kind of fate will they have?
The father of the quintuplets, Chen Qiangbiao, who lives in Dashi Township, Taihu County, Anhui Province, is an honest fisherman. In 2005, through the introduction of the matchmaker, he and Shi Youqin fell in love quickly after meeting each other.
In this year, Chen Qiangbiao's hometown had fish plague, and the fish he farmed died of disease because it could not be prevented in time.
That year, Chen Qiangbiao lost more than 300,000 yuan. In 2005, this was undoubtedly a huge amount of money in terms of rural consumption levels. This money not only made Chen Qiangbiao lose all his savings, but also owed more than 100,000 yuan in debt.
In the face of high debts, Shi Youqin did not abandon Chen Qiangbiao, and the two had a stronger relationship than Jin.
In 2006, the two married happily. After marriage, they worked together near their hometown, and the couple hoped to pay off their debts as soon as possible.
Shortly thereafter, Shi Youqin found out that she was pregnant, so she quit her job and prepared to get pregnant at home.
That month, Chen Qiangbiao accompanied his wife to the town to get a birth permit. When filling out the child's due date, the staff clashed with Chen Qiangbiao and his wife.
Because, when the local staff applied for Shi Youqin's birth permit, they found that Shi Youqin's belly appeared to be much larger than that of a pregnant woman who was pregnant for three months, so she asked: "Isn't this what your stomach looks like for three months?" Was it conceived before? ”
The speaker has no heart, but the listener is not happy. This sentence can be interpreted as two people getting pregnant before marriage, and deeper, it is to question who is the biological father of the child.
What's more, Shi Youqin was pregnant at the time and was already sensitive. When I heard it, I immediately felt insulted - my husband and I were married in a dignified manner, what would you think of me if you spread this word?
Therefore, Shi Youqin quarreled with the staff, but the staff did not believe it, this is the stomach of three months pregnant: "This is too big and outrageous, how can I help you fill in the file blindly?" ”
The quarrel was fruitless, and Shi Youqin decided to go to the hospital for examination to prove his innocence. After a preliminary examination, the doctor not only determined the fact that Shi Youqin was three months pregnant, but also found that she was pregnant with twins.
This made the couple overjoyed, and when the couple found the staff again with the supporting documents, the staff also apologized to them on the spot and expressed their blessings to the couple.
In the blink of an eye, Shi Youqin was seven months pregnant, and as the pregnancy progressed, Shi Youqin's mother and husband found something wrong.
Shi Youqin's mother was also pregnant with twins, and when she visited Shi Youqin, she always felt that her daughter's belly was much larger than when she was pregnant with twins.
Later, Shi Youqin also had some doubts, according to her recollection: "When I was just seven months old, my stomach was particularly large, and when I ate, I put the rice bowl on my stomach, which could be used as a dining table, which was particularly uncomfortable, and seemed to be short of oxygen." ”
Therefore, Chen Qiangbiao took his wife to Taihu County Hospital for a detailed examination.
At the initial examination, the doctor still said it might be twins, but not sure. So, the couple did a more detailed examination.
But the test results were unexpected, and the doctor told them that Shi Youqin should be pregnant with triplets.
If the wife is pregnant with twins, Chen Qiangbiao is still very happy, but the triplets have made Chen Qiangbiao difficult, because the family's debts have not been paid off, and the birth of the triplets will definitely make the family worse.
Therefore, when his wife was undergoing other examinations, Chen Qiangbiao called his uncle in the corridor, and on the phone, Chen Qiangbiao complained to his uncle and lamented that fate was so unfair.
But when Chen Qiangbiao finished calling and entered the door again, he directly became stunned from unexpected, because, according to the follow-up examination results, the doctor found that in fact, Shi Youqin was pregnant with not triplets, but quadruplets.
"Quadruplets", Chen Qiangbiao heard it like five thunderbolts.
Chen Qiangbiao recalled the situation at that time: "At that time, I was particularly panicked, because I heard that it was quadruplets, and I felt scared. On our side, the triplets and quadruplets hadn't seen it at all, and I was afraid something was wrong with her. ”
This is the first child, the couple has no experience, and this time there are four more to give birth to, which is also very tricky in whose house.
But now that she is seven months pregnant, the husband and wife say that it is impossible to beat up the child, and the days are living like this.
As the day of labor gradually came, Shi Youqin's state also began to make people feel sad.
In early November 2006, Shi Youqin's leg and foot edema had become very serious. The feet, in particular, swollen into a large meat bag, were a pit when the fingers pressed. After taking just two steps, it is difficult to breathe and even has symptoms of hypoxia.
Seeing that his wife was a little strange, Chen Qiangbiao did not dare to be careless, and accompanied Shi Youqin to anqing Municipal Hospital.
When he heard the couple say that they were pregnant with quadruplets, the doctor who received them was also shocked, because the local hospital had never received pregnant women with quadruplets, so he quickly reported the situation to the director.
After receiving the news, the president of Anqing Municipal Hospital immediately contacted the business president.
Immediately, the hospital set up a mother-child safety treatment team, gathered the best medical staff in the relevant fields of the hospital, made multiple plans for Shi Youqin's fertility, and specially prepared recipes for her.
According to the experience of other hospitals across the country, in general, multiple fetuses will have dangerous situations such as premature birth around 31 weeks, so during this dangerous period, the medical staff of the local hospital will listen to the fetal heart for Shi Youqin every day and monitor the fetus in the mother's body.
In early December, Shi Youqin safely survived the dangerous period, although she was still a month away from the waiting date. But her belly was big enough: "The skin was stretched almost transparently".
At the same time, she also had a variety of temporary manifestations such as waist acid, so the hospital decided to perform a caesarean section for Shi Youqin on December 6.
The operation was very smooth, four children were born one after another, but in the routine testing link at the end, something unexpected happened - Shi Youqin still had a child in his belly.
It turned out that Xiao Wu's four older brothers and sisters firmly protected her in the middle of her stomach, and completely covered her during external testing. Fortunately, the full preparation of the hospital made Shi Youqin and the five children very safe.
On the second day of the birth of the quintuplets, it attracted numerous local newspapers and online media reports, and also released information on the public name of the quintuplets.
Among the more than twenty groups of names collected, Shi Youqin finally chose to name the quintuplets with "five elements" and "five continents".
In order to balance the beauty of the pronunciation and the gender of the child, the five names are "Xinya, Sheng'ao, Jieo, Yumei and Canfei." ”
Although the child was born safely, the cost of the child made Chen Qiangbiao and his wife worried.
The family's debts last year, a year's meager savings, as early as the day of the wife's hospitalization spent all of it, but the child is less than a month after all, the body is weak, still have to be observed in the hospital.
Faced with the high cost of the child's hospitalization, and he has no money, Chen Qiangbiao can only hate his incompetence and has no other way.
Just when Chen Qiangbiao was at a loss, the local hospital considered the special situation of the Chen family's quintuplets, the first case in Anhui Province, and the economic conditions of Chen Qiangbiao's family.
The hospital decided to reduce the cost of hospitalization and the nursing cost of the mother and child for one month, and called on local social groups and enterprises to donate to the Chen family.
The business dean also said that the child's health care expenses in the hospital before the age of fourteen are free, and he will be the child's exclusive health doctor until retirement.
Subsequently, after the decision of the relevant departments, the village handled a low-income household for the Chen family, and Shengyuan Milk Powder provided all milk powder for the quintuplets free of charge.
After repeated media reports, enthusiastic people across the country donated money and materials, which made the Chen family very moved, at that time there were more than 70,000 yuan in cash donations alone, which was still very impressive in 2006.
These local government and social care have greatly alleviated the pressure on Chen Qiangbiao and his wife financially, and it is not just a matter of money to take care of their five children.
Those who have been new parents should know the difficulty of taking care of children, and taking care of five children at the same time is far from being five times the hard work of taking care of one child, but almost exponentially superimposed.
Even with the help of Chen Qiangbiao's parents, the four adults broke their hearts for the quintuplets.
The two hardest things to do when your child is just picked up from the hospital are feeding and changing diapers.
After all, the child is not born at full term, the body is relatively weak, and it needs to be fed every two hours, but the quintuplets look similar in infancy, so it is easy to have one child fed twice, and the other child has not been fed.
The child who is fed twice is uncomfortable and will spit up milk, while the hungry child will naturally start to cry.
Perhaps it is the blood resonance between the quintuplets, when one child cries, the other four children often cry together. Soon, it will evolve into a "chorus" of five children.
From this point of view, quintuplets are much more difficult to carry than normal children, in order to cope with this situation, Chen Qiangbiao invented a small trick: the fed child tied a small cloth strip on the arm, and then untied it after all feeding.
In addition to breastfeeding, changing diapers is also a headache for couples.
At first, the couple also wanted to give their children diapers to save time and effort. But soon, they found that the babies had been "spoiled" in the hospital by the nurses who spoiled them.
If the diaper is not wet and a little wet, it will cry, but it can be replaced according to this frequency, and the economic conditions at home are too tight.
In desperation, Shi Youqin can only choose to give up diapers and disassemble the old clothes at home into diapers, where is the easy work of washing diapers?
Once, Shi Youqin washed the diaper for 3 hours. While drying diapers, Shi Youqin, who was extremely tired, actually grabbed the clothesline and fell asleep.
Even the sunny weather is fine, a day a wash, if it is a rainy day, the Chen family will be piled up with diapers, after the weather turns clear, the door can reach hundreds of diapers.
So much so that when a reporter asked the villagers where the Chen family lived, the villagers told them to "find diapers".
There are five children in the family, and in addition to the trouble of taking care of the children, medical expenses are also a big expense.
Once the population is large, every spring and autumn when there are many colds, they will often infect each other, often a child's cold will evolve into a cold that lasts for a month.
According to Shi Youqin's recollection: "Once when I was a child, I was about a year old, called autumn virus infection, all of a sudden, I became ill, anyway, there was one vomiting up and down diarrhea, and then I vomited and couldn't stop, and then I couldn't stop vomiting, and then this was not done well, that one began, and the second one began, and also vomited up and down diarrhea." The last five were basically there, and one night and then the three of us took his grandfather and didn't sleep all night. ”
But in addition to the hard work of taking care of the children, there are also some things that make the couple incredibly touched and happy.
According to the two people's recollections, when the five children had just learned to walk, something happened that moved Chen Qiangbiao.
At that time, Chen Qiangbiao, who was tired of taking care of the children, lay on the bed and took a nap. Xiao Wu saw him and wanted to learn from his mother to cover his father with a quilt. But she couldn't even walk smoothly, so how could she drag a big quilt bigger than herself?
So, she called out to her brothers and sisters, and several people totaled, hugged her own small quilt one by one, and covered her father one by one. Finally, two children dragged Chen Qiangbiao's large pillow over and put it under their father's head.
Shi Youqin silently watched the whole process at the door of his home, and Chen Qiangbiao recalled: "When you wake up, your heart will be transformed by the doll." ”
Perhaps it is precisely because of this that the husband and wife can withstand the hardships of life and grit their teeth to hold on.
After the birth of quintuplets, whether it is a telephone channel or a channel for friends and family, they can often receive the outside world's desire to adopt a child.
In fact, during pregnancy, the couple also had the idea of wanting someone else to adopt a child. But after the birth of the child, they tacitly never mentioned this topic again.
In an interview with Lu Yu youyou in 2011, Shi Youqin said:
"Many people have come to talk to me in person, and some have called, that is, to ask your family that there are five, your family is so difficult, the conditions of our family are good, can we hold the girl?"
Adoption, the child does not recognize relatives after growing up, that is, there is no contact, I said it is impossible, no matter how poor and bitter you have to raise the child, do not send people, send one from the east to the west, mainly because their conscience can not go through. Children will hate their parents when they grow up. ”
And when the couple talked privately, they also made up their minds: no matter how poor and tired they are, they must raise their children well.
During this period, Shi Youqin's parents once felt that their daughter and son-in-law were too tired and wanted to take a child home to raise. But within two days, Shi Youqin insisted on taking the child back to his side.
She said to her husband, "It's a big deal that we sleep less, how hard it is, but my baby is going to grow up right under my nose." ”
Some people may think that after passing the early childhood of eating milk powder for diapers, the life of the Chen family should be much easier, right?
But this is not the case. As the saying goes: "One year old loves, two years old is annoying, three years old dog is disgusted." When the children grew up a little, the "miserable days" of the Chen family really arrived.
At this time, the child is an age that cannot be dissipated, whether it is eating, playing or sleeping, it often evolves into "fighting".
Once, Chen Qiangbiao had a hard time coaxing the children with toys and went to the outhouse to have a meal, but as soon as he sat down, there was crying in the children's room.
The couple hurriedly put down their rice bowls and ran into the house. It was found that while scrambling for the toy, Xiao Si fell down. Then some people want to protect the little four, some people want to beat the little four, and several children are entangled in a ball, and they can't tell the difference between up and down and left and right. And Xiao Si was pressed down at the bottom.
It took the couple a lot of effort to pull these little guys apart. Chen Qiangbiao carried three cubs, and Shi Youqin carried a small cub to the wall penalty station.
And the poor little four were humming and lying on the sofa, as if there was no one, which made people can't help but be funny.
However, when the children grow up a little more, they begin to save their parents a lot of heart.
Shi Youqin once said in an interview: "At home, the boss also knows a lot about things, that is, when we usually eat, when we eat at home, she helps to bring dishes to the table." Help carry dishes and bowls to the kitchen when you're done eating, and help with other chores. ”
As the child grows up, Chen Qiangbiao is also determined to make changes.
On the one hand, even with a large amount of help from the society and the government, Chen Qiangbiao is not willing to stay at home with his children.
"We can't give our children a wrong example, it's not okay to stay at home and not do things," he said. "On the other hand, it is also to enable children to receive a better education."
In 2009, the Chen family went to an urban area of Anqing to rent a house and worked in the local area to earn money.
In 2013, the quintuplets reached the age of elementary school. Mr. and Mrs. Chen Qiangbiao enrolled their children at the nearby Anqing Park Primary School.
Because of the compulsory education and the conditions for the children to grow up, the couple is much more relaxed in terms of both economics and life, and they can also focus more on their children's education and communication.
When going through the enrollment procedures, Chen Qiangbiao deliberately found the school leaders and applied to assign his children to different classes.
Because they are easy to play together, affecting learning, not to mention, they may bully other classmates in a group when conflicts occur, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of psychology.
Faced with this reasonable request, the principal naturally agreed with a full mouth.
When he entered junior high school in 2019, Chen Qiangbiao made the same arrangement. At this point, in an interview, he said that this practice has other advantages, that is, it can avoid children from copying homework, in addition, it can also let them make more friends.
Of course, there are advantages and natural disadvantages. Every time there is a parent-teacher conference, it is the most difficult time for the Chen family and his wife. Husband and wife, who are they going to participate in?
If this is not handled well, the child will definitely be prone to the psychology of parental eccentricity in his heart.
After some discussion, the couple decided to take turns attending the parent-teacher meeting of the five children and arranged the table. Parents who do not go will contact the teacher in advance and communicate with the teacher privately after the meeting.
And there are many such "watches" in the Chen family. For example, some simple chores and things in the family are made into forms for the five children to take turns.
Today, the quintuplets are about to enter high school, and Chen Qiangbiao and his wife are also a little worried.
Because, after going to high school, the cost of study, life and interpersonal communication will further increase, especially if five children enter high school at the same time, the family's expenditure will increase sharply in a short period of time.
On the other hand, with the passage of time, the attention of external media and social organizations to the Chen family has decreased year by year, and the strength of support is naturally the same.
Today, apart from the Anqing Municipal Hospital and the local government, which have always cared for them, very little aid has reached their hands.
In one, during a return visit to Anqing Municipal Hospital, the doctor learned during the communication with the parents of the quintuplets that due to the greater pressure of life, the quintuplets had not drunk milk for nearly two years: "There are 5 little ones in the family, and the burden of life can be imagined." ”
However, unlike some people who complain about the world once they are aided, Chen Qiangbiao and his wife always have a positive mental attitude in the face of interviews.
Instead of blaming anything for the interruption of aid, they have always emphasized their gratitude and recognition for the help from all walks of life, and their determination to cultivate their children to be self-reliant.
In addition, Chen Qiangbiao also said that he has always emphasized gratitude in his children's education, and he should repay the society in the future and help more people in need.
Turning your gaze back to the question at the beginning of the article again, are the same quintuplets, who have the same fate?
It is clear that it is foreseeable that the five children of the Chen family will never stage the tragedy of the Canadian quintuplets. First, it is because of the joint efforts of our society and relevant departments. The second, and most important, is the world of difference between the two parents.
Perhaps Chen Qiangbiao and his wife are not rich enough, but they have used more than ten years of hard work and sweat to support a blue sky for the quintuplets to grow freely.
Resources:
CCTV: "The Spring of the Quintuplets"
People's Daily News: "Family has quintuplets (my family's story)"
Phoenix Network: "Raising quintuplets makes people happy and worrying"
China Economic Network: "Anhui Quintuplets Go to Different Classes in Junior High School Father: Prevent Copying Homework, Parents Will Take Turns"
Anhui Network: "Anqing quintuplets are 9 years old: normal health, did not drink milk for two years due to the pressure of life"
Anhui Business Daily: "Anqing quintuplets were divided into 5 classes"
Anhui Market News: "Giving birth to quintuplets and collapsing three generations"