Yang Li is a 35-year-old full-time mother, the eldest son is 8 years old, and now pregnant with a second child, originally wanted to have another one, the eldest son has a playmate, not so lonely. But since the boss knew that his mother was pregnant with a second child, the originally well-behaved child now told him to do nothing disobediently, and even loved to resist, and would deliberately hit Yang Li's stomach when it was excessive.
One day Yang Li asked her son to pour a glass of water for her to drink, the son refused to die, the husband heard it and beat up his son fiercely, thinking that the son did not understand gratitude, and fiercely criticized the son, the result was that the son cried even more, saying that his parents bullied me, and his parents did not love me.
Yang Li, who is distressed about the child, still patiently comforts her son: "Why do you say that your parents bully you, your mother is pregnant with your sister, it is very hard, how to pour a cup of water for your mother will not be willing?" ”
Son: "I don't want a sister, I won't give you water to drink"
Yang Li: "Why don't you want a sister, when you have one more sister, someone will play with you, are you afraid that if you have a sister, you won't want you?" ”
The son listened and nodded silently, saying, "When I was disobedient before, you said you didn't want me, and if you had another one, you just didn't want me."
After Yang Li listened, she was shocked, but still patiently responded to her son: "How come?" Mom used to say don't want you, you're too naughty, joke with you, if Mom and Dad don't want you, now don't want you, don't cook, don't send you to school, don't buy Ultraman, then Mom did it? No, so why wouldn't Mom and Dad want you? Do you see that my mother also has a brother, and my grandmother said that she didn't want me or didn't want an uncle? ”
The son listened to his mother's words before slowly calming down, but he could still see that his son was still very worried.
Afterwards, Yang Li and her husband also reflected, thinking that having a second child, the boss should also be very happy, but for the boss, the birth of younger siblings may mean that he has no parents. And the jokes he made with his children before, the children also took it seriously, which also led to the son's reluctance to accept the arrival of the second child now. It turned out that the son's previous abnormal behavior was afraid that after the second son was born, he would compete with himself for the love of his parents and even abandon him. Doesn't this little life want it?
In the face of the boss's reluctance to accept the arrival of the second child, what should parents do? Strange said that the debater Fu Seoul said that the child is not willing to accept the second child is that you do not give enough, if a child has 100 pieces of sugar, how can you care about giving 1-2 pieces, but now the child only has two sugars in his hand, who will worry about being robbed. How to let the child know that mom and dad's love for you will not change.
1, clearly tell the boss that your mother loves you at all times
When you are pregnant with the second child, you clearly tell the child that after giving birth to younger siblings, your parents will still love you as before, but your younger siblings were relatively small when they were born, so your parents will spend a little more time taking care of your younger siblings, just as when you were a child, your parents took care of you, so that the boss didn't have to worry about your mother not liking herself when she had a second treasure.
2. Empathize with the boss and welcome the arrival of the second boss together
When pregnant, you can tell the boss that this is how he came, let him and his younger siblings whisper, let the boss have a clearer understanding of how he came, so that the boss can let down his guard; at the same time, invite the boss to prepare the birth supplies of his younger siblings, let him participate in the growth of his younger siblings, first, exercise the sense of responsibility of the boss, and second, in the process of preparation, the boss may be more looking forward to the arrival of new life.
3. After the birth of the second treasure, it should be treated fairly
After the birth of the second treasure, do not favor any party, do not force the big to let the small, otherwise it will make the boss feel that his parents do not like him, only like his younger brothers and sisters, and even sometimes, pay special attention to the emotions of the boss, because the original parents are his own, and now there is one more person to compete, he is the most helpless.
Therefore, let the boss accept the second child, the most important thing is to let the boss know that even if the second child is born, his parents will not love him less, and even the world will have one more person to love you.
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