People will always have some worries in their lives, and there will also be some persistence.
When people are alive, they think about many things and run for these things for a lifetime.
Someone said:
"Man is like a cow, pulling several carts and moving forward in the mud. Even if one day, the physical strength is exhausted, and the cow will fall, but the car will not be able to fall. ”
People must love themselves in life, in order to live, we are tired like a cow, but we must understand: when you are young, you are tired, it is for the sake of being able to relax when you are old, not to let you stay like this for a lifetime.
At the end of life, we must understand: break away.
After the individual is 50 years old, what should be given up should be abandoned, and it is best not to obsess over the following things.
01.
Reforming children
When a person is 50 years old, he should no longer be obsessed with transforming his children. Instead, understand:
"Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, and children's affairs should be chosen by children!"
Some people's children are very angry, but some people's children can't even solve their own lives, not because this person has no hands and no feet. It is because these children are too lazy, do everything to sit back and enjoy it, and always think of relying on their parents.
At this time, parents feel that they are slowly getting older and a little worried about their children, so they think about reforming their children, if your children are already about to become a family, or have already become a family, don't try to transform each other anymore.
Adults live for themselves to choose, not to mention that the other party is already a parent.
Some people may neglect the education of their children when they are young, so they want to reform each other at this time; some people are trying to reform their children, but their children have not made any progress, at this time, they are very anxious, still insist on letting their children change their children's ideas.
In fact, some children are like that, no matter how much the parents pay, the child will not grow a little, the children do not grow, the parents are very anxious, but at this time, you go to the transformation again, the other party has become meaningless.
If you haven't reformed when you were a child, it's too late to transform now; if you have been transforming when you were a child, but you are still the same, it means that this child will never be good.
In any case, give up on transformation at this moment, because all these things you do are meaningless.
02.
Desperately trying to make money
Money is not omnipotent, but without money it is impossible.
Because money is very important, so everyone is born with money, as long as you can have the ability to think independently, you know that you must make money well.
Of course, some people know the importance of money, but they can't make money well, but when they use it, they still regard money as very important.
When a person reaches the age of 50, don't run for money anymore, because your body is already going downhill, don't overdraft your body for this money, this is a thing that is not worth the loss.
Sometimes your children can't make money, so at this time, you have to make money desperately, which is also a pressure for you, and maybe your children don't appreciate it.
Sometimes you don't want to go in your heart, thinking about giving your children a better life, in fact, you have to know: if the child loses your backer, you no longer manage the child so much, and your child can really grow up.
I've heard someone say something like this before:
"Lao Tzu does not let go, and the son does not grow."
So, take a good rest, don't take money so seriously, if there are no special circumstances, the money is good enough to spend, don't put too much pressure on yourself.
03.
Pointless social activities
When people are young, they always take some detours, and among these detours, they include some unnecessary social activities.
Maybe sometimes you make a mistake for the sake of others. When you eat at a table with others, you are flattered, although sometimes you are very sleepy and you want to go home, but for the sake of others, you still choose to wronged yourself outside.
But in your 50s, you have to show your own free demeanor, sometimes you want to go home and rest, as long as you are not fired by the boss, you still have to be good to your body.
Don't aggrieved yourself for some senseless social interactions that don't mean anything to you yet.
04.
Does not disturb the life of the parents
When you reach your 50s, your parents are already in their prime.
Some old people will have some habits, and children always want to interfere with each other's habits, because you sometimes look down on your parents.
You know, your parents have reached such a long age, and if these habits can be changed, they have changed a long time ago.
So at this time, no matter how you interfere with the other party, the other party will still not change, and sometimes you will feel very awkward and will feel very wronged.
When you interfere in the life of your parents in this way, your parents feel that their hearts are not happy, and you also feel unhappy.
What children think is fun, what they think is delicious, parents will not necessarily like.
Therefore, we must respect our parents, and understand the hearts of our parents, as long as the parents do not do something that breaks the bottom line, it is okay to bow their heads in front of their parents, after all, they are all so old, so don't let life leave regrets, be a filial piety person.
05.
Discuss the rights and wrongs of others
After the age of 50, don't discuss the rights and wrongs of others, when you discuss the rights and wrongs of others in this way, you will lower your own grade.
As an elder, when you see some of the things that your juniors discuss, especially some things that discuss the rights and wrongs of others, you should stop participating.
It is harmless for the juniors to say some things, but if you are an elder, if you say the same thing, everyone will think that you are a very old person, and you are still so ignorant, and in the end, these people will also look down on you.
Your age is an advantage for some people, because others have to respect you, but this is also a constraint on you, if you are at this age stage, and still do something that does not meet the age, it is good that some little girls and boys chew their tongues together and discuss everything, which is not a good situation.
As a person in your 50s, you should enlighten others, and when others say that something is right and wrong, you have to persuade others to have a tolerant heart.
We should also warn others not to worry too much, give yourself more tenderness, and give others some warmth, so that it is the demeanor that an elder should have, rather than participating in these people to discuss the rights and wrongs of others, or even to belittle a certain person and bring violence to others.
After 50, it is best not to eat rice, these few things, some things should turn a blind eye, some things should know how to be relieved, in the face of some right and wrong, we must also know how to distinguish between right and wrong. In this way, he is a transparent elder and a person who lives a relatively successful life.
A short life, be nice to yourself.