When a baby is embraced by his parents, the body produces "cuddling hormones" and endorphin hormones that make him feel happy and happy.
The little baby who was born seems to be ignorant, and only knows how to eat, drink and sleep every day, but the requirements for "hugging" are very high. Sugar Mom was tortured by the baby for a while, and later found that the baby was not making unreasonable trouble.
When your baby can't look up yet, he likes to be held upright
When it comes to hugging a baby, many new parents say that they don't understand why the baby likes to be "hugged", and whenever the adult does not meet his needs, he will cry.
Little Candy likes to be "hugged" when he doesn't look up, and he has to lean back against me and face forward. Everyone said that I was going to suffer in the future, and the child liked to "hang" on the mother when he was held in the habit. After seeing me, many expectant mothers vowed never to hold the child and let me get rid of the child's bad problems as soon as possible.
Later, I successfully adjusted the frequency of the small candy "asking for a vertical hug", and in the continuous exploration, the sugar mother found that the child did not want the action of vertical hugging, but liked the "benefits" obtained from the vertical hug.
The little baby doesn't know much, and he probably doesn't know that adults are tired of holding themselves all the time. So why do they keep crying and asking mom and dad to hug themselves? The reasons for this are not simple.
Babies like to be "held upright", or represent that he is a smart baby
Sugar mom combined with the real experience of herself and the people around her, summed up the following reasons for everyone, parents according to the situation of their own baby to sit in.
Being held upright can "unlock new perspectives": have you ever tried to lie in bed all day and look at the ceiling? For a while after a baby is born, perspective is boring.
Babies who strongly demand to be held upright are generally 6 months old, because they do not turn over, look up and sit, and their daily line of sight is mostly bare ceilings.
The baby may not know that there is a "vertical hug" posture at the beginning, but one day, the parents hold him and burp, or pick him up while playing, so that the baby can unlock a "new perspective". Babies are like discovering a new continent, and after that, they constantly ask to be held up and see different landscapes.
Through vertical hugging: Babies are uncomfortable lying in bed all the time, and they have not learned to turn over and other big movements, unable to self-regulate.
Therefore, they will send out a signal to ask for a hug, and do not want to continue to be hugged horizontally, want to change their posture to "stretch their muscles and bones", and interact with their parents by the way.
There is also a possibility that the baby's stomach is uncomfortable, and the problem can be solved after being held vertically, so he is reluctant to lie down.
Through the above details, Sugar Mom wants to tell everyone that the baby will cry and ask for hugs because of her weak expression ability, which seems to be unreasonable. In fact, the baby who knows how to hold it vertically also means that he has a strong ability to observe, knows how to solve his uncomfortable problems, and is a smart baby!
The baby asks for "vertical hug", and parents do not easily refuse
There may be bao mom and baby dad will hesitate, I understand the reason why the baby likes to hold vertically but still dare not hold, afraid that the baby will be spoiled.
Sugar mother from the results of scientific research, combined with their own experience to tell everyone, the correct holding of the child will not spoil him.
Studies have shown that if the baby has too little contact with his parents after birth, he is prone to "skin hunger and thirst". Instead, they are more likely to cry, and they seize the opportunity to "hang" on their parents and do not want to let go.
When Little Candy first began to ask for a "vertical hug", I tried to pretend not to know, and there was also a mother around to do this. But it turned out that the baby would only cry more and more, and each time he asked for a hug, he would take longer and longer.
Therefore, the act of holding the baby itself is not wrong, spoiling the baby or letting the baby get hurt is because the parents use the wrong way, as long as they master the details and skills, they can meet the needs of the baby while not being so tired.
In the face of the baby's vertical hug, Bao Mom and Bao Dad pay attention to "3 don't"
Holding the baby vertically is a level that most parents have to go through, the baby generally waits until he will climb and walk, he is no longer so persistent, during this period, the baby should pay attention to 3 things, which helps us to free our hands.
1) Don't hold your baby often before 3 months
The baby's neck strength is not strong at 3 months, except for hiccups try not to hold it vertically. If you want to hold it vertically, remember to gently support your baby's chin, or put your baby's head on the shoulders of adults, while protecting your baby's cervical spine and lower back, each time holding it vertically for no more than 15 minutes.
2) Don't be too "indifferent" when holding the baby
As we said earlier, babies may also want to be held upright because they are too boring. If you want to shorten the time of each baby, you can start by improving the "efficiency" and meeting the real needs of the baby.
Regardless of whether it is horizontal or vertical, pay attention to the gentle attitude, and try to have eye contact with the baby. When you see an object when you hold it vertically, even if the baby can't understand it, you can explain it to him. Babies interact with their parents, and when they see many objects, they will not get bored, and they will no longer cling to being held upright.
3) Don't just hold the baby this way
When the baby asks to be held vertically, in addition to the above reasons, it is also necessary to check the baby's physical problems, not necessarily to hold the baby up every time, so that not only does not solve the baby's actual problems, but also the adults are physically and mentally exhausted.
If the baby is crying because of flatulence, parents can help the baby to do exhaust exercises to alleviate discomfort; when the baby cries, it is also necessary to check whether the diaper is not wet and dirty, replace it in time, and after eliminating physical discomfort, the baby generally will not continue to cry, nor does it require vertical hugging.
In addition, the way to interact with the baby is not only vertical hugging, when the baby is lying on the bed, we can pull his small hand, we can also sing to the baby, and the baby play a small game of hidden face interaction. When the baby is comfortable and in a good mood, he does not force his parents to hold himself.
Candy Mom has something to say:
The child is 10 months in our womb, 3 years in our arms, but in our hearts for a lifetime. Sugar Mom now looks at the little candy she grew up, thinks back to the days when she used to hold the baby, and suddenly feels that she has not held enough. So, when you can still hold your baby, hug him more.