Nursing a baby, I don't know if you have found this phenomenon - most babies like to hold vertically and hate horizontal hugging. From 2 months on, every time you hug, the baby will cry and cry, especially noisy; once you hold them up, you will stop crying.
It's all hugging, why is there such a big difference? Today, let's talk about the "baby hugging" things.
Starting from 01 and 2 months, the baby suddenly began to prefer vertical hugging
Since birth, the baby has basically been hugged horizontally (feeding, coaxing and sleeping), and the performance has been good. But when he was 2 months old, he suddenly didn't like to hug horizontally, whether he was sitting on the bed and hugging, or walking on the ground and hugging, he would cry and cry and be unhappy.
Grandma reminds me if I want to try it? Then something unexpected happened, the baby actually stopped crying, but lay on my shoulder, holding his head up, staring wide-eyed, staring around, as if he had seen something particularly interesting, well-behaved and cute.
From that day on, the baby was like a "curse" of vertical hugging, and every day he had to hold it vertically for a while, and he would not hug it again unless he was nursed.
Why is that? Is it uncomfortable to hug?
In this case, many parents are very anxious, because the baby is young in age and the development is not perfect, and the vertical hug may hurt their spine; not holding the baby vertically is not happy, and it is very pitiful to cry and cry all the time.
To find out how to deal with it, we have to figure out why your baby prefers to hug!
02, horizontal hugging and crying vertical hugs, why do 2-3 months old babies prefer vertical hugs?
Why does your baby prefer vertical hugging? Turns out this is a signal that they are getting "smart"! I really don't know, look at the world in their eyes, you will understand!
When he was born, the baby was a large myopia and could see objects in the range of 20cm, but the vision was very blurry and could not be seen clearly. So there's no difference between a vertical hug and a horizontal hug. Around 2-3 months, babies' vision has been greatly improved, they can not only distinguish colors, but also focus and track the objects around them.
At this time, there is a significant difference between vertical hugging and horizontal hugging -
When hugging, the baby can only see the mother's double chin, large nostrils, vague ceiling (too far away to see very clearly) or dazzling lights;
When held vertically, the baby can see everything around him, such as family, toys, cabinets, flowers... Seeing a wide range of things, there are many things, which is a very interesting thing for small babies.
You know, babies are born with a strong curiosity, they want to explore the world, "see" is also one of the ways they explore the world, vertical hugs to see the world, both to satisfy their curiosity, but also to stimulate their brain development, so that they are smarter.
03, after eating milk, vertical hugging is more comfortable than horizontal hugging
Remember when and why your baby first hugged?
My baby's first vertical hug was on the second day after birth!
The baby suddenly spit up milk, my husband and I were worried, the doctor calmly wiped the baby clean milk, and then picked up and patted the back, telling us: Every time after feeding, you must burp the baby.
The doctor said that the baby's stomach is horizontal, the cardia is relatively loose, and the milk is easy to flow back out; and there will be air entering when feeding, which aggravates the occurrence of spitting, so it must be hiccups after milk to discharge the air in the stomach. Hiccups are the method he recommended to us.
After feeding, no matter how late, I will pick up the baby and pat it, sometimes there may be no burp, but the simple vertical hug will obviously alleviate his discomfort.
It can be seen that after eating milk, vertical hugging is indeed more comfortable than horizontal hugging, which can not only discharge air, relieve gastrointestinal discomfort and spit up milk, but also cling to the mother's arms and close parent-child feelings.
04, no matter how good the vertical hug, you can't hold it often!
However, it is worth noting that no matter how good the vertical hug is, it cannot be held often!
Babies within 3 months, cervical spine and spine development is not perfect, too early and too long vertical hugging, will bring a lot of harm to the baby, such as causing abnormal spine development, causing spinal and spinal deformities.
How should I hold it? Different months of age, different holding postures, different precautions.
1] 0-1 months: Lie down more and hug less
During the neonatal period, the baby's spine is not well developed. Frequent vertical or careless vertical hugging may hurt the neck or cause scoliosis. Therefore, at this stage, unless there are special circumstances, such as burping after milk, try not to hold it vertically.
At this time, the baby's demand for sleep is also relatively high, almost every day is spent in sleep, if you want to sleep stably, excellent quality, it is best to let the baby lie on the bed to sleep, rather than in the mother's arm bend.
2] 2-3 months: can be briefly held vertically
2 or so, although the baby's spine development is not yet perfect, but their vision is enhanced, full of curiosity about the world, if you can hold for a while, you will be very happy, development will be well promoted. Just be sure to pay attention to the timing, timing, and posture!
Hiccup after the milk, presumably parents know. So, can we put the erection opportunity behind the milk? Can it not only achieve the hiccup effect, but also satisfy the baby's curiosity and desire to explore?
In the book "American Academy of Pediatrics Parenting Encyclopedia", the author proposes three different ways to burp: hiccups, hiccups, and burps lying down. Hiccups are the most commonly used method.
When holding vertically, we also have to pay attention to 2 problems: the time should be short, try to control within 10 minutes; the posture should be correct, protect the baby's head, neck and waist (specifically refer to the above picture).
3] After 4-5 months: can often hold
As the saying goes, "three flips, six sits, seven teeth and eight climbs", most of the babies 4 can easily turn over, their spine development is good, not only can they lift their heads steadily, no longer fall in any direction, but also stand up better, mothers can often carry them out to see the world.
However, the mother needs to give the baby enough buffer time, do not hold it for too long at one time, so as not to make the baby tired or form a habit. Wait until about 5 months, basically you can hold casually, no longer have to struggle with time and posture.
Dingma message: The baby is a developing person, as the age increases, there will be different preferences, whether it is like vertical hugging or other, have their own reasons and meanings. If you want to easily bring up your baby and raise children healthily, parents should understand the reasons and meanings behind it, and then find a suitable way to deal with it.
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