The psychologist Gott once said, "True love is hidden in the details." ”
The so-called details are the small things in life, so are the details really so important, is really love in the details? The answer is yes.
Loving someone is really important, and sometimes a detail can reflect how much the other person loves you. This is not pretentiousness, but the truth. Whether a person loves you or not, his love for you cannot be hidden.
For this we call this the "details of love." It's not that we read the details too much, but that every bit of life is made up of details.
There is no result of the process where it comes from. And the details are like the process, and the result is like love for you. How much the other party takes care of you in the details, how much they will love you.
Just as how much can a person who is indifferent to you love you? Many complaints between couples often start from the details. For example, I don't remember your anniversary. This is why people always say that love is hidden in the details.
1, the details from the surface as the beginning
In fact, many people feel that the other party does not love themselves, that is, the gap between before and after. Before getting it, I was able to remember my preferences, remember all the memorable days, and be considerate of myself.
However, after getting along for a long time, I can't remember my preferences, and the anniversary has been selectively over. So the two men began to argue. The estrangement between the two people also arises.
In fact, the reason for this is that there is inconsistency in appearance. At first, when you chased her, you said all kinds of sweet words, but after the real chase, it was like a changed person.
No longer thoughtful, I can remember everything.
It's true that men act enthusiastic when they first start pursuing women. Always show the best of yourself to each other.
There's nothing wrong with that, as we all know about the primacy effect. That is to say, give each other a good first impression, in order to have the possibility of communication. So when we first meet, we always want to show each other the best. Strive to attract each other in this way.
But the details after he catches up with you, if he can still perform well, can still be particularly attentive to you, and can still insist on doing what he did before, then he must really love you.
Because this person can be consistent in appearance, his love can be reflected in his details. He doesn't care about the details after getting you.
2, the details come from the consideration of you
As someone once said, "Most of our love has disappeared, in a tone of increasing impatience, the faster the phone hangs, and the slower the return to the message." ”
Oh, yes! When a guy doesn't love you, you do everything, and the reason for all this is that he starts to stop thinking about you. I don't think about why you hung up the phone or why you're slow to get messages back.
Once a reader sent me a private message backstage.
She said: "She's really upset that her boyfriend doesn't love him anymore".
I asked her why she felt that way.
She said: "When we were together before, he was always very patient with me and always paid attention to my mood, but now he is starting to be extremely impatient with me. ”
"It's like something happened some time ago, because their company has something to arrange for him temporarily. He neither messaged me nor called me. I saw him come back late and sent him a message, and he didn't get back to me, but it didn't happen before. Finally, the next day I called him and learned he was on a business trip. ”
I asked her how she was doing, and she said I'd broken up with him now, but I was sad that I had to talk to me even if I went to the bathroom at the beginning, and how it turned out to be like this.
Indeed, I can understand her mood at that time. A person who truly loves him will not consider her feelings. The alienation, indifference, and indifference he makes are all manifestations of his absence from you in his heart.
When he loved you in the past, you were the first, your things were more important than anything else, reluctant to let you worry, and everything would first consider your feelings.
When he doesn't love you, there is only what you do, and it is wrong in his eyes.
In short, a person loves you or not, the details will not deceive, he will always be consistent with your good, will consider for you. Will tolerate you, will put you in the heart, even the smallest things in life he will think for you.
Even if he is busy, he will not fail to contact you, nor will he not spend time on your heart. And these can be seen in the details.
Therefore, true love is hidden in the details, and the details are really important, not because we are pretentious, but it reflects the degree of your love. You say yes or no.
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