Boyfriend, is this poverty alleviation for me? The boyfriend is a Native of Shanghai, and the family has prepared a house with a total price of 10 million yuan + in the city center of 100 square meters, under the name of his parents. Then he's in his name

Boyfriend, is this poverty alleviation for me?

The boyfriend is a Native of Shanghai, and the family has prepared a house with a total price of 10 million yuan + in the city center of 100 square meters, under the name of his parents. Then he still has 7 million houses in his name + his parents are living, and there are about 2 million loans he is repaying. There are also 2 other houses for the elderly living in rent offset loans.

And I grew up in a small county on the southeast coast, and I have settled in Shanghai. My family can only buy me a house of 3 million+. In the plan, it has not been bought, which means that the first house and the first mortgage are still there. This is a lot of talk, if the feelings are good, this card can actually play better, but the current situation I feel that I can't use the optimal way.

The family gives a 100+ down payment and pays 100+ loans themselves. In fact, it is mainly considered to occupy the quota and funds after the parents retire to live. My father, the old tradition, would never agree to live in the man's house. There are other assets that do not plan to be replaced in the short term to buy a house in Shanghai. But the total assets of the two companies are also five or six times different.

The boyfriend felt that if I didn't marry him, I could only live in the old and broken outside the outer ring, and if I married him, I could live in a house of more than 10 million people in the inner ring.

Outside the house, his parents are in business, within my parents' system, he has an Australian master's degree, my American master's degree, he is a foreign company in a mainland enterprise, and his salary is nearly twice that of me when he is three years older than me.

On this day, he suddenly said to me: Marrying me is accurate poverty alleviation.

In fact, I don't know exactly what I want to say. I feel like I'm really living in someone's house, but his money won't turn into my money. I won't get the money for a divorce. For a lifetime, my family's money and his family's money will eventually belong to children, and the children will still be his family.

The gap between the two companies is indeed huge in terms of money. So the boyfriend has this kind of thinking, and he still says it, can he continue? If you can't divide it, how should you adjust the mentality of two people if you can?

Or maybe this is the general perception of Shanghainese? So if we still have to go on, what kind of dilemma will we face and need to be mentally prepared?