He pays his true feelings but fails to get the love of the girl he likes, and finally sacrifices himself because of his heavy love and righteousness to protect his friends, he is a dedicated and obsessive little Jiao in "Ancient and Modern Mandarin Duck Sword";
The woman he likes loves his brother, and after marriage, he killed his own flesh and blood because of jealousy, and he is zhan Yunxiang who has an unhappy marriage in "There Are Tears in the Sky";
His green plum bamboo horse was snatched from love by the righteous brother's horizontal knife, and he met true love again but ended in tragedy, he is the amorous Li Xunhuan in "Little Li Flying Knife".
These are the characters played by Jiao Enjun, the "first beautiful man in ancient costumes". In many TV series, Jiao Enjun has played a man with bad feelings, and in reality, his emotional road has also gone very bumpy.
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The first marriage is out of the house
Second marriage is ridiculed as "karmic obstacle"
In 2014, 46-year-old Jiao Enjun and 44-year-old Lin Qianyu entered the palace of marriage. Their marriage was controversial at the time, because the two were actually old loves, but then broke up for some special reasons, and they did not expect to be together again.
In the year of marriage, Jiao Enjun smiled and said: "After a circle, we are together again, the marriage is destined, we are destined to be together." ”
And Lin Qianyu also said: "I will accompany him until I am old." ”
After getting married, the two people's lives were indeed loving and sweet. From time to time, Jiao Enjun will openly sprinkle sugar on social platforms, and his relationship with his wife is gradually heating up, envying others.
Everyone thinks that Jiao Enjun has finally found true love, and seeing them so loving will always be happy. However, not long ago, an interview with Lin Qianyu made everyone slap their faces.
In the show, Lin Qianyu took the initiative to reveal her marital status, and she said that her marriage with her husband had long existed in name only. Although both are in Taiwan, they live separately and have no communication.
Lin Qianyu even used "karmic obstacles" to describe her relationship with Jiao Enjun, indicating that the sins created in the past life, married to him in this life, everyone will be bye bye.
With the fermentation of online public opinion, on April 1, the two sides simultaneously issued a statement on Weibo, officially announcing the news of the divorce of the two.
The two people who seem to be loving and happy to outsiders actually lived in a sexless and loveless marriage two years ago. This made everyone start to sigh again: Jiao Enjun's marriage is really tortuous.
Because everyone who knows him knows that this is his second marriage.
Jiao Enjun's first marriage was with his assistant Huang Wanlin. At that time, Jiao Enjun was a popular young student, and he was in peak condition as soon as he debuted. So when he married his first wife, Jiao Enjun was very low-key, and even the media did not report on this matter, and the two also had 2 daughters.
Later, because Jiao Enjun has been filming outside for many years, his feelings with his wife have gradually faded, because he cannot tolerate a sexless and loveless marriage, so his wife chose to divorce, in order to make up for Jiao Enjun, his wife also asked him to leave the house and deprived him of the custody of 2 daughters.
"Asexual and loveless" seems to be like Jiao Enjun, who has been pestering the cowhide plaster. Both marriages ended in this way, which is really lamentable.
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Good marriage
It's not just sex
In recent years, sexless marriage has quietly become popular among couples like an invisible "addictive behavior".
Although it is still difficult for many people to talk about sex, the topic of "asexuality" on the Internet is often discussed by tens of thousands of people.
Earlier, Wu Yanzu also joked on Instagram that he had not had sex for a long time: after ten years of marriage, my genitals were probably the cleanest part of my body.
Some netizens immediately asked: "Why is marriage equal to clean genitals?" Wu Yanzu said bluntly: "Lack of use." ”
Although Wu Yanzu lived a sexless marriage behind his back, his relationship with his wife for many years was always sweet and stable.
On the recent wedding anniversary, Wu Yanzu also posted old photos on Weibo and confessed affectionately to his wife: "We have been married for 19 years and have been married for 11 years. Baby, love you! ”
I have to admit that Wu Yanzu, as the husband, really can't be picky.
When he first married his wife, the profile of his social platform was immediately changed to "husband with a wife"; later, when his wife became pregnant, he did not hesitate to announce the suspension of work for a year, personally taking care of his wife's diet and living; he knew that his wife had a hard time giving birth, so he took the initiative to undertake housework and tolerate his wife's violent temper during pregnancy...
The gentleness and thoughtfulness to his wife also touched her, so that whenever the husband is mentioned in the interview, he can't help but praise it:
The wife has also revealed the marriage secret of the two people: no reservations before marriage, let each other fully understand, trust each other after marriage, and there will be no sense of bondage between the other party.
After 19 years of marriage, Wu Yanzu has never had a scandal, although he himself admits to living a sexless marriage with his wife, but he does not care at all, because he feels: after marriage, the sense of responsibility of the family, the trust and mutual support between husband and wife, are far more important than sex.
Wu Yanzu once said that he believes that marriage is a lifelong thing, and he believes that a woman will go with her for a lifetime, and marriage cannot be easily betrayed, because it is necessary to set a good example for children.
Sure enough, Wu Yanzu was not only handsome, but also very positive!
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The meaning of marriage is not to live together, and sexual marriage does not necessarily mean happiness.
The French writer Moroa said in "Five Problems of Life: On Marriage":
"Nothing in the world can last long in oblivion and abandonment, the house will collapse when it is abandoned, the cloth will decay when it is abandoned, the friendship will fade when it is abandoned, the happiness will dissipate when it is abandoned, and the love will dissolve when it is abandoned."
The same is true of love and marriage, which require us to keep fresh in an appropriate way, and feelings also need to be carefully cared for.
Because of the epidemic, Academician Zhong Nanshan was on fire, and his love story with his wife was also well known.
Many people are envious of Zhong Lao's fairy love, married for 65 years, and the sweetness of that year can still be faintly seen in the affectionate eyes.
After supporting each other for so many years, Elder Zhong and his wife never lacked interaction, urging and bargaining before going to bed: "In 5 minutes, the clock in the living room is fast." ”
Usually you pick up the iron to guide me, you play ball to come to me to run, even if you are busy, you have to take time to swim with you on the weekend, nagging homely:
Marriage needs interaction, and love needs to be kept fresh. Never forget that the essence of marriage is to double the joy and pain of a person's life.
A good marriage is that each other's hearts have a port of call, a pillow person who knows cold and warm, and a motivation for life;
A good marriage is comfortable to get along with, not tired of looking at each other for a long time, finding the best way to get along with each other, and also finding a way out of life;
Good marriage is all managed with heart, more care is more harmony, more tolerance is more stability, more pay is more reward.