Wen \ Jiang Zuo Mei Niang, Mu Ye
The drama "In the World", the first thing that people criticized may be that Zhou Bingkun will fall in love with the widow Zheng Juan.
Zhou Bingkun, although in the play is not as bright and beautiful as his brother and sister, but he is honest and reliable, so the affordable male Zhou Bingkun also has a suitor in the light word film, and the beautiful second Qiao Haiyan is one of them.
In the play, Qiao Chunyan is not only a yellow flower girl, but also has no original family burden, but also the best pedicure master in the bathhouse, and has a job that can support herself. Although it is not decent, it is much stronger than Zheng Juan, who relies on men to send money to make a living.
And Zheng Juan, although she looks beautiful, but her life is not good, she was abandoned by her parents at birth, and it was her adoptive mother who pulled her up by selling popsicles, but as a result, she was remembered by bad people because of her beautiful looks, and she was pregnant with a child before she was married. In order not to be ridiculed, he could only marry Tu Zhiqiang in a vacuum. And Tu Zhiqiang was also unlucky to be killed, leaving her and the child to fend for themselves, and this woman's encounter was really too tragic.
But anyone with a little economic acumen will choose Qiao Chunyan, and Zheng Juan will not even consider it, but Zhou Bingkun is like a fool who chases After Zheng Juan.
The audience really can't understand, obviously Qiao Chunyan crushed Zheng Juan in every way, why zhou Bingkun was blinded by lard, he had to give up Qiao Chunyan and choose Zheng Juan?
01. A man who truly loves you will have a physiological reaction to you
The Great Body Language says:
Love to the point of truth cannot be hidden. Even if the mouth does not say, as long as the two people are close, it will be accompanied by the secretion of love hormones, causing a series of physiological reactions. ”
Yes, although Zhou Bingkun is honest and generous, he is not stupid, but also a young man with strong blood, eager to meet true love, he knows more instinctively that when facing true love, there will be a strong impulse, that is, a physiological reaction.
That's how he felt when he saw Zheng Juan.
The first time we met, Zheng Juan was sitting bare-legged at home with sugar gourds strung on a kang. As soon as Zhou Bingkun entered the door, he was attracted by her white and smooth thighs, which made him momentarily stunned, almost about to swallow.
Another example is Bingkun to Zheng Juan to send brown sugar, Zheng Juan just finished feeding the child, deliberately did not fasten the button on the chest, and let Zhou Bingkun do not know where to put the red face, and later in the face of Zheng Juan's persecution, he can only confess his heart, and the last two people can become a good thing, that is a matter of course.
True heartbeat has a physiological response. Most men in this world fall in love with a woman, on the premise that the woman is able to arouse his physiological response, make him long to hug her, to linger with her, to grab her hand, and to spend his life with her. If she didn't have these points that made him happy, then no matter how good the conditions were, they wouldn't want them.
Don't look at Zheng Juan from the bottom, the culture is not high, but she is well versed in human nature, she knows very well: human lust can overcome reason, it is like an automatic filtering net, will only filter out the good side of the other party. And lust is a great force, an irresistible instinct.
Therefore, Zhou Bingkun will ignore her disadvantages and can't help but fall in love with her. And she also saw his mind, so she became passive to active, and used her heart to pocket a good man.
What about Qiao Chunyan? As Zhou Bingkun said, he and Qiao Chunyan played from childhood to adulthood. Such a green plum bamboo horse, two small and unsuspecting two people have even seen each other's appearance on the toilet, which means that Qiao Chunyan for Zhou Bingkun, there is no suspense, no temptation, is a kind of unobstructed confession, then this feeling is more like friendship, family affection, rather than love.
Therefore, although Qiao Chunyan shaved her head and picked a hot head, she did not want to marry Zhou Bingkun, but Zhou Bingkun did not treat Qiao Chunyan as a woman from beginning to end, and he was kind to her and allowed her to take her own car to work, but because the two were buddies and good friends, not because of love.
The phrase from Lolita says it best:
"Man has three things that cannot be hidden, cough, poverty and love."
Yes, when meeting someone who really likes it, men will blush and beat their hearts, can't help themselves, that is love that can't be hidden, on the contrary, as long as men have a choice, they will definitely not choose a woman who makes him have no passion.
02. The person who truly loves you can satisfy your inner desires
There's a line in Inception that says:
"Your impulse to steal comes from a deeper inner craving, something is missing in your life."
The more a person lacks something, the more enthusiastic his desire for such a thing, deeply believed, if the man who really loves you, will definitely have a physiological reaction to you, then there are too many beautiful women who can make men have a physiological reaction, why does he have a unique love for you?
The original physiological reaction can not be simply understood as a temporary hormonal release, let alone that it can not only be considered that you grow on the aesthetic point of a man, but to think about the deepest desire of his soul, only to meet the woman who is the deepest desire of this man's heart will stimulate his persistent impulse to want to be with her.
Zhou Bingkun will choose Zheng Juan because only Zheng Juan can satisfy his inner turmoil, while Qiao Chunyan cannot.
What is Bingkun's inner desire? On the surface, Zhou Bingkun's family conditions are good, and he is the youngest son, who is loved by his parents. But in fact, with the excellent aura of his brother and sister, he is actually very lost in his heart, especially his brother and sister were finally admitted to Peking University, and he is just a worker, this psychological gap, even if it is difficult for ordinary people to bear, so, in the depths of his soul, he is very eager to be a hero, only when he is a hero, it is possible to satisfy his inferiority of not being valued, not being welcomed, and not being proud.
And Zheng Juan can just meet Zhou Bingkun's psychology of "saving the wind and dust". Zheng Juan is a typical representative of "beauty and strength". She is beautiful, beautiful and curvy, and charming; she is strong, she would rather endure poverty than to refuse Bingkun's money strongly; she is even more miserable, fatherless and motherless, and she is pregnant with children, raising a large family, and it will be difficult to marry in the future, so what can be more heroic than redeeming such a woman?
The person you really love can satisfy your inner desires, and Zheng Juan's beauty and strength hit Zhou Bingkun's heart at once, so he decided to save her from the depths of the water.
At first, he just helped her as much as he could. Give her 5 yuan more when she sends money, and give her brown sugar when she is confined. Later, after the two had a husband and wife, Zhou Bingkun was not satisfied with the help of Xiao En Xiaohui, but wanted her to be reborn and live a truly happy life.
In order to be able to make Zheng Juan look up and be a person, what Zhou Bingkun wants to do is to marry her, not only to give her a name, but also to help her whitewash, for Zheng Juan, he can be described as painstaking.
In order to wash Zheng Juan's white, he not only told everyone that Zheng Juan did not marry Tu Zhiqiang at all, but also took out the household registration certificate for everyone to see. When everyone almost believed it, he lied again and said that he had long been secretly married to Zheng Juanzhu and said that Zheng Juan's children were his own species.
When I saw this, I was really in tears, I have seen so many men, in addition to the Qiong Yao drama, in reality, there is no "Happy Daddy", and why is Zhou Bingkun so good to Zheng Juan! Why give her happiness step by step? That's because of Zheng Juan's existence, Zheng Juan's improvement is to make people feel that he is a big hero who stands tall in the sky!
And Qiao Chunyan? She is too good, too righteous, too strong, Bingkun and him do not feel any sense of value, sense of existence, because Chunyan does not need to be pampered, pampered, redeemed, then what about Bingkun's heroic dream?
Therefore, he will let Qiao Chunyan, who is the daughter of the Yellow Flower, not want to marry a widow. Because Zheng Juan needed his rescue too much, and Qiao Chunyan didn't need it at all.
Thinking of it this way, Zhou Bingkun's seemingly deviant choice actually stemmed from the most urgent cry of his soul.
03. Mei Niang said
Some people say that Zhou Bingkun is really stupid, he does not choose Qiao Chunyan with good conditions, but chooses a widow who is not born well, and some of the bitter days in the future are suffered by him. I don't quite agree with that.
Although Qiao Chunyan's conditions were good, Zhou Bingkun did not like her. If Zhou Bingkun reluctantly marries her, life may become relatively easy, but there will be regrets in his heart, and people still have to choose the people they really like to love, and they will be truly happy.
Of course, if you think that Zheng Juan has retained Zhou Bingkun with her body, you are still too young, and what really retains men is her characteristics, her beautiful and tragic characteristics, and realizing his heroic dream.
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