Regarding the real reason why Lin Xiaoniang secretly stole love behind Mrs. Sheng and Sheng Xuan's back 20 years ago, the original work reads:
Lin Xiaoniang abandons the head lady outside and does not do it, preferring to make people small, is to see the people, to people to cook. She is not the confused Second Sister You, she looked for Sheng Shao because she knew that he was a man with an independent personality and was not restrained by his wife, and she also knew that Sheng Xuan's early years as a shuzi's cold suffering, and took this as a starting point to completely pocket Sheng Shao's heart.
Lin Xiaoniang's marriage to Sheng Shao is obviously a precise calculation, but she can calculate this sinister plan and cry into true feelings. Whenever Lin Xiaoniang made a mistake, she would say with a delicate face: I don't do the right lady outside, but I admire The talent and character of The Lang.
As soon as these words came out, Sheng Xuan would gently put down the lin xiaoniang who was held high, not only would not pursue her fault, but would also have some pity for her.
Lin Xiaoniang lived more decently than the head lady in Shengfu, and for 20 years she flaunted her martial prowess in Shengfu, not so much from Shengxuan's protection as from her original accurate concept of mate selection.
At the beginning, Lin Xiaoniang wanted to gild her daughter Mo Lan with a layer of gold, and she deliberately wanted to send Mo Lan to the old lady to raise, so that Mo Lan would combine appearance, talent, and decency in one, and when she came to discuss relatives in the future, she would not be inferior because of her status as a "Shu out", and the probability of marrying into a rich family would be a little higher.
As for Mo Lan, the old lady already knew in her heart that "the upper beam is not right and the lower beam is crooked", the old lady can't look at Mo Lan, and Mo Lan is not willing to look at the old lady's bitter melon face.
Mo Lan thought that the old lady did not like herself because her own mother was a concubine and was not decent enough, for this matter, Mo Lan was once grumpy, and the original book wrote:
Mother, why do you have to be this concubine? Isn't it good to marry out there and be a full-headed lady? It's full of gossip, talking about you, talking about you... Self-indulgence...
At the beginning, although Sheng Shao's official position was not large, but the Sheng family ancestors were all in business, but also left a great family business, coupled with the fact that Sheng Shao was young, he was also a table of talents, so Lin Xiaoniang had other thoughts about Sheng Shao, at this time.
Second, Lin Xiaoniang and Mrs. Sheng's view of choosing a mate is different, Lin Xiaoniang has reached the age of the family, the husbands and wives selected by the old lady for her are some "farming and reading families", the old lady's view of marriage is "easy to ask for priceless treasures, it is rare to have a lover", while Lin Xiaoniang does not think so, she feels that the old lady is the concubine of the Yongyi Hou Mansion, from a young age, she has no idea about the suffering of the poor family outside, the so-called poor and unworthy couple Pepsi lamentation, this is the iron law.
Therefore, in the matter of marriage, Lin Xiaoniang certainly would not listen to the old lady's arrangement, so she made up her own mind and had an affair with Sheng Xuan.
In order to explain to Mo Lan which money and feelings are more important in marriage, Lin Xiaoniang also moved out the case of her own living and escaping, teaching on the spot, and wrote in the original work:
Is it true that poor children must be of good character? I have a cousin, married to a poor scholar, originally pointed out that in the future can have a day to emerge, but in the end, the poor student can not be the first, business can not be done, the family outside the family depends on your aunt Zhang Luo, at the end, the student also wants to take a concubine, your aunt refused, she was scolded every day, she could not stand it, and finally had to let the concubine room into the door. Hmm, when the poor scholar first came to the door to propose to him, he didn't say anything out of the sky, what qinser and ming, respect each other like guests, in the end it was empty talk.
In Lin Xiaoniang's eyes, friendship is unreliable, and changing one's mind really has nothing to do with rich and poor, but with people. But money will not change, it reaches your pocket, it is yours, it will not change its heart, let you dispose of it at will, money is often more secure than feelings.
And Sheng Shao can not only meet the demands of Lin Xiaoniang's brocade and jade food, but also give Lin Xiaoniang the warmth between husband and wife, it can be said that such a man is Lin Xiaoniang's top match.
Lin Xiaoniang said to her daughter Mo Lan: A woman's life is not dependent on a man. Men are a, and even stronger women can't stand up straight. At that time, I thought, no matter how big or small, the husband must be of outstanding character, serious and righteous, talented, able to shield the family from the wind and rain..... With your father, although he is a concubine, he does not have to be afraid, at least he can have a stable life to live, and his children have a dependence.
Lin Xiaoniang's view of mate selection reminds me of Anna's advice to her daughter in "Wang Gui and Anna": No pair of lovers in the world can escape the temper of life. No matter how great your love is, you have to settle down on eating, drinking, and having children, all of which cannot be solved by saying "I love you".
Since love can't withstand life after all, why do many people take a detour, directly choose a stable life, and choose a man who can shield you from the wind and rain?
There is such a line in "The World of Man": the ultimate destination between men and women is not love, but marriage.
Love is the determination of the moth to put out the fire, and marriage is a brisk choice. At this point, Lin Xiaoniang has always been very sober, and she has also maintained a sobriety about the marriage of her daughter Mo Lan.
When Qi Heng was studying at the private school in Shengfu, Lin Xiaoniang looked at Qi Heng's character and family, and Mo Lan was also bent on marrying into the high gate, so he rushed to Qi Heng to flatter him.
Lin Xiaoniang knew that the lord of Pingning County was arrogant and arrogant, and Mo Lan's hope of marrying into the Duke's Palace was estimated to be small, just at this time, halfway out of the way to bite jin - Liang Han, even Lin Xiaoniang was pleased.
At that time, Mo Lan was still relatively dead-eyed, thinking about Qi Heng wholeheartedly, unwilling to get close to Liang Han, just at this time, Lin Xiaoniang taught her daughter: Mo'er, there is not only one little grandfather in this world, it is also good to see people more, such as the Lingguo Gong family, the Jinxiang Waiting family...
At that time, Mo Lan did not listen to Lin Xiaoniang's words, but still thought about Qi Heng.
Lin Xiaoniang continued to advise: Mo'er, there is no such thing as certainty in this world, unless this little grandfather gave you a dowry today and fixed a matchmaker, otherwise you should still look at it more, and it is always good to see the world.
In Lin Xiaoniang's eyes, marriage is not a single choice question, does not have uniqueness, but a multiple choice question. When we fully understand and are willing to put it into practice, we have often spent several years in marriage, too late.
At the beginning, when living in love outside the marriage, we were all convinced, the greatness of love, the permanence of love, as if it is difficult to live without love, and even with the determination of love into marriage, those lovers who are not you do not marry, who do not marry her, who finally jumped over the magic barrier of life?
Writer Zhang Xiaoxian once said: Do you think love will not grow old? Do you think marriage will always be happy? If you think so, you are either too young or too naïve.
Now that feelings eventually dissipate, the initial choice becomes even more important. Many times, choices outweigh efforts, and marriage is no exception. When you know how to expand the scope of your choices, when you are soberly aware that marriage is a choice and not the only one, you also avoid the risk of "he must not be".
For Qi Heng, not only was he favored by Lin Xiaoniang, but he was also favored by the big lady, but in this matter, the big lady was clearer than Lin Xiaoniang.
In the original work, the idea of the big lady is written like this:
To put it bluntly, if it is Hua'er today, maybe I will still fight for it, but ru'er... It's not that I said my own frustrated words, on appearance, on talent, how can she be worthy of Qi Heng? My own girlfriend, I thought so, let alone the county lord? Forget it, it's not interesting to beg for yourself, we don't have anything else, these few prides are still there.
Lin Xiaoniang, on the other hand, put her eyes on the top of her head. Performing his own beauty plan on Sheng Xuan, he leaned over to Sheng Xuan's ear and said: Why doesn't the old man want to be long-term? Think of the Qi family, and then think of us Mo'er....... I look at the Qi family is really a table of talents, the family is good, often talking about poetry and literature with Mo'er, very similar, not as good as .......
It is true that people go up to a higher place, but they also have to go steadily up step by step. At that time, Sheng Shao was just a five-pin petty official, and Mo Lan was just a Shu out, but Qi Heng was the proud son of heaven, so Lin Xiaoniang's idea was to "ascend to the heavens one step at a time", and if he didn't get it right, if he couldn't climb up, he would be thrown to death.
Sheng Xuan reprimanded his heart and liver Lin Xiaoniang for the first time, and wrote in the original work:
Sheng Shao sneered: "You simply don't know what it is, when did the concubine of the family of the prince of the people hear that he would hire a concubine to be the grandmother of the main house?" You must also have a brain if you are delusional, and you must not laugh at people's bellies when you say it.
In lin Xiaoniang's eyes, in addition to being born badly, Mo Lan's appearance and talent are outstanding, she does not want her daughter to marry in the future because of her humble status, she dreams of wanting Mo Lan to go to a high place, it is best to reach the top of the mountain directly.
Marriage has always paid attention to the "door", the social status between husband and wife, low or higher than a class is acceptable, but if the class of both sides is too large, it is difficult to resonate with the same frequency, small to living habits, large to spiritual communication, the greater the difference, the more contradictions, so people go to a higher place, but also score the situation, but also have to grasp the degree.
When Lin Xiaoniang and Mo Lan were splashed with a basin of cold water by Sheng Shao, Mo Lan was somewhat dispelled by QiHeng, but Lin Xiaoniang's combat effectiveness was extremely strong, and she comforted Mo Lan and said: Child, don't listen to your father, he is a big man, who knows the twists and turns in this inner house. If you talk about your origin, you are no better than Rulan, but what kind of appearance is not ten times stronger than her? The same father, why do you have to submit to him in the future? If you don't fight for it yourself, which good round will get you!
Although it is a good thing to fight for yourself, before fighting, you must first weigh your own weight, and then fight and climb under the premise of self-knowledge, rather than blindly striving to be strong and competitive in order to be strong and competitive.
Many things have a way to go back, but it is difficult for marriage to go back, some people have half a life, some people have cramps and skins, and there is no chance to turn back on the road of marriage.
At the instigation of Lin Xiaoniang, Mo Lan finally jumped several steps, married into the high-gate prominent family, and fulfilled his lifelong wish, but in the end, did he live well?
Hua Lan was so talented and patient, he stayed in the Count's Palace for nearly 10 years before he survived a good life, and Mo Lan, whether he was born, honored and decent, was not as good as Hua Lan, but he insisted on marrying into the Earl's Palace, and in the end, it was a void.