Out of the mixture of artificial tricks, living in their own world;
Some people are cautious and afraid of being hurt by others every day;
And some people are kind and duty-oriented, and should be the most gentle kind of people, but because they are too honest and kind, they are always calculated by others.
Oniguzi has long told us that as long as there is a trick learned, you don't have to be bullied anymore, what is the high move?
This very useful trick, in simple terms, is actually four words, that is: play a small report!
However, the small report should also pay attention to a method, and Oniguzi once said: "The elephant is like its own." Compare, than the words also. ”
Although this sentence seems obscure, once it is explained clearly, there will be a feeling of sudden enlightenment.
The so-called "elephant ratio" sounds a bit tall, but in fact it is a human instinctive behavior.
The first is "elephant", which means that when a person tells you a story, your mind will automatically imitate the plot of the story for deduction.
That's why the storytelling and other speech programs are so famous, and the scene you simulate is what we call "elephants".
Then there is the so-called "ratio", as the name suggests, this ratio means comparison, when we have a general outline of the story just now in our minds;
The brain spontaneously searches for relevant images in your memories and experiences, and then corresponds to them;
When each of us hears others tell stories, in fact, there is already a phenomenon of "elephant ratio" in our minds.
The so-called "elephant ratio" proposed by Oniguzi is actually not only to expound a human instinct, but also to hope that everyone can use this instinct, that is, to use the phenomenon of elephant ratio in the hearts of others.
Then to control the other party, so that you can more easily control the other party's ideas, to put it bluntly, is to be able to target the small report.
Speaking of which, let's start with a story.
During the reign of King Xuan of Chu in the Warring States period, there was already a peaceful and prosperous world under his rule, known in history as Xuanwei Shengshi, it can be seen that this person was a person with some ability, and the protagonist of our story is actually not him, but his two subordinates, Jiang Yi and Zhao Xi.
These two men were both capable generals under King Xuan of Chu, but these two men were very different personalities.
As for Jiang Yi, it can be seen in the historical data that he was an out-and-out villain, and he was very cunning, and his favorite thing to do was to make a small report to Zhaoxi at the King of Chu Xuan.
In the "Warring States Policy", it was once recorded, "Jiang Yi wanted to be evil and sympathetic to the king of Chu, but his strength was not enough, so he asked for the title of Prince of Liangshan Yangjun in Chu." ”
At that time, Jiang Yi was jealous of Zhaoxi's power, so he said bad things about him in front of King Xuan of Chu, hoping that King Xuan of Chu would hate him.
However, because Zhao XiYi was really too good, Jiang Yi could not get any effective results, so he deliberately sought allies to slander Zhao Xi Qi with him.
But in this process, King Xuan of Chu knew in his heart that this Jiang Yi was secretly making bad, but his small report hit people who could not find traces, and even sometimes it could make King Xuan of Chu's psychology really beat the drum.
I have to say that his means are superb, and he did use the "elephant ratio" method that Oniguzi said.
For example, once because Jiang Yi had not made a small report for a long time, he entered the palace and said to King Xuan of Chu, "Dogs are evil, and they are devoured when the door is." The neighbor was afraid of it, so he was not allowed to speak. ”
The meaning of this sentence is that there is a person who sees the neighbor's puppy doing something bad, and then wants to be kind enough to remind his neighbor, but this meaning is detected by the dog and he stays at the door.
Whenever the man wanted to go in and make a small report with the neighbor, the vicious dog would block the door and bite him, which would make the bad thing the puppy do never be discovered.
It is obvious that the neighbor in this story is King Xuan of Chu, and that person is Jiang Yi, and the evil dog is naturally the loyal Zhao Xi, and Jiang Yi's metaphor not only makes this small report more vivid, but also the credibility has inadvertently been improved a lot, and King Chu Xuan has also had doubts about Zhao Xi Since then.
Later, on another occasion, King Xuan of Chu asked in the early dynasty whether the princes in the north were afraid of Zhaoxi.
However, the ministers did not hesitate, and they cooperated very well.
At this time, Jiang Yi spoke again, and moved the story of the fox fake tiger Wei up, and in this story, it was obvious that Zhao Xi was the fox, and King Xuan of Chu was the big tiger of the tiger and tiger.
Here, Jiang Yi used the Xiangbi technique to flatter King Xuan of Chu by changing the Fa, and then demeaned Zhao Xi.
Therefore, when you use the technique of "elephant ratio" very skillfully, whether it is in the workplace or in life, there may be unexpected gains!
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