Reunion is that no matter how far you go, there are people to worry about

"Thousands of households on the day of the pupil, always replace the new peach with the old charm." At the age of shaking their heads and learning Tang poems, many Chinese children have memorized Wang Anshi's "Yuan Ri". If you put it on the language test, most of you have to ask what kind of thoughts and feelings this poem expresses, and the correct answer is: this poem expresses the author's expectations for the new year and the yearning for new things.

Many of today's young people in their twenties and thirties are only children, and they are completely unfamiliar with the custom of "sticking peach charms". However, with the growth of age and the enrichment of experience, whenever this poem is read, people who are far away from their hometown and relatives will inevitably have a small feeling of pity.

Chinese's hope for reunion is always there. Nostalgia is like smoke, endless like wisps, and the desire for reunion constitutes our cultural background. "The little boy left home and returned to the old mane, the township voice did not change the sideburns", even if the old man was hanging down, the little friends who played together at that time "knew that the friendship was half scattered", or they still had to ride a donkey back to their hometown, touch the big willow tree planted by their mother's hand, and now it has been covered, and then knock on the side to find out whether she who was once secretly in love is now okay.

The reunion memories of our generation may still have to start from the tip of the tongue. When I was young, my grandmother and grandmother were still in good health, and when I went to visit the house to visit the New Year, the grandparents of the "next generation" would always take out the best food and stuff it to the grandchildren. If the parents find out, it will inevitably attract a wave of anger. A large family is lively and lively to eat a reunion dinner, even if there is a grudge on weekdays, it is also set aside between talk and laughter. For adults, this is the most relaxing time of the year; in childhood impressions, it is also one of the few times when you really become a "little emperor".

The reason why reunion occupies such a high proportion in our culture is that it is sincere and free of psychological baggage. The reunion of the same heart and the same heart is endlessly evocative, while the reunion that hinders the human condition brings exhaustion and hostility. To put it bluntly, the latter is not a reunion at all, but a kind of "punch-in meeting".

During the New Year, a short video on the Internet has captured the hearts of many young people: the personal exchanges between the New Year are always accompanied by complex "psychological dramas", the pushing and shoving of the gift-giving and gift-giving party, and finally turned into a fierce quarrel, and for the question of whether to eat together, the host and the guests also have their own careful thoughts. Older children look at the elders' rounds of "competition", their faces are embarrassed and helpless, and this is why they are a little afraid of the New Year.

With the diversification of lifestyles, some people insist on the convergence of family feelings, and some people enjoy a comfortable small family life and have different understandings of reunion. While many young people are increasingly "indifferent" to the reunion of the big family, there are also a new generation that inherits the family tradition and takes the initiative to provoke family responsibility. Different ways of life should be respected, and different values should be tolerated rather than imposed.

In my circle of friends, there is no shortage of young friends who have a strong sense of reunion culture. When they return to their hometown in the New Year, they will not only visit their parents and elders, enthusiastically participate in traditional activities such as ancestor worship, but also have a strong interest in the family's tangible cultural heritage such as genealogy and ancestral halls. In fact, they have long been out of the family circle when they are working outside, and they do not have the luxury of asking for the protection of the family, and what attracts them to participate enthusiastically in family activities is a sense of cultural mission and refuge.

The ancestor of the family tree, who was far away in time and space, once entered the DPRK as an official, but resigned from the government and retired in order to stick to the qingliu; the national entrepreneur who painstakingly managed the "domestic goods" for a lifetime, in the face of the tide of history, he scattered thousands of dollars without complaint or regret; there was also an elder who worked hard in ordinary public posts, perhaps doing nothing at most of the time in his life, but participated in the historical process at a critical moment... As ordinary people, when we see the dappled imprint of family history, we not only feel that our ancestors are connected to our own bloodline, but also feel inspired and inspired by this cultural reunion.

For young people who have lived in the city for a long time and are far away from their homeland, the reunion as a way of life is far from blood bonds. "Local New Year" with classmates and friends, young couples who form small families to travel hand in hand, is a more familiar and more intimate reunion of this generation. A "literary and artistic leader" in the circle organizes friends on the Internet every holiday to read a difficult "tome" literary masterpiece together, exchange feelings at any time, and answer each other's doubts arising from reading.

Reunions not only have generational differences, but also manifest themselves as individualized value choices. Some people "walk all over the world, can't walk out of the well of their hometown", some people "run away for half a life, and return to be a teenager", the appearance of reunion is very different, and the psychology of expecting to be recognized is always the same. We are obsessed with reunion, but also because we always believe that no matter how slowly we climb and how far we go, there is always a family that is worried about us.

Source: China Youth Daily client