Hello everyone, I am a small point, a little spiritual point.
Almost everyone has been confused: What do I really like to do?
Most people around me only know "what they don't like", but when they ask about "what do you like", they become confused. If that's the case for you, raise your hand and type a "1" in the comments section!
Today, I would like to recommend a book called "Stanford University Life Design Class", which is "How to find something you like" to find a creative and systematic way!
Here are the three most core parts of the book, let's take a look!
Measure your life
The Book of Soldiers says: Know thyself and know the other, and win every battle.
This sentence is well understood, but in life, we do not realize the importance of this step.
How well do you know yourself?
Make an assessment of your life now. The right assessment can often save our lives at a small cost.
I have a friend who has been studying hard for 3 years and was admitted to the Central Academy of Fine Arts, but now she never wants to pick up a paintbrush again.
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The reason is a detail, she found that every time she finished the line draft, she was always anxious, hastily drew a few strokes of paper, so the lines of her work were always not precise enough, and the progress was slow.
She felt that she just couldn't sit still, couldn't stand it, couldn't stand it, and wasn't suitable for painting.
But once, she saw that other students would stop to drink water or go out for a walk between paintings, while she drew from beginning to end in one breath. It dawned on her that she was not impatient, but would not rest.
The correct attribution of her friend found her passion for painting at the lowest cost.
Therefore, the correct assessment of the present moment is at the heart.
In particular, the book mentions that to recognize what is immutable, in the book it is a metaphor for this kind of problem: I feel difficult when I ride a bicycle uphill, that heaviness always follows me, I don't know how to remove it, can you help me?
To change to a real problem, it may be:
"I've been lying at home for 5 years, and I don't have an advantage in finding a job, what should I do?"
"This job is too mechanical, too boring, what to do?"
"Nasty work done for 5 years, the cost of sinking is too large, what to do?"
The above three are objective facts, not urgent problems to be solved, and learn to accept reality so that we will not be "nailed" to this problem.
For example, "Nasty work done for 5 years, the sunk cost is too large, what to do?" The idea of accepting reality is: "Yeah, and then what?" There are many answers, such as: "Although the sunk cost is very large, it also makes me realize that I can't always do nasty work."
It's important not to get stuck in a "gravity problem" and stagnate, and not to "get stuck" here because "the sunk cost is too high".
Create a guide to life and explore what you love
There is an interesting point mentioned in the book: "We can't always know the goal of moving forward, but we will know whether the direction is right".
In fact, we need a guide that doesn't deviate from our original intentions, and this compass is ours: "outlook on life" and "outlook on work."
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The outlook on life is to determine for you: "the most important thing in life", for example: what is the meaning or purpose of life? What does intimacy mean?
A view of work, that is, a holistic view of work, such as: What do we work for? What is the significance of work?
When this is clear, we can make clear the trade-offs.
If we think that intimacy is as important as work, we will make room for intimacy and will not choose those "996" jobs. If we think that the meaning of work is to create, we don't think about mechanically repetitive work.
Make sure you don't stray from the original intent, that's what the compass does.
The general direction is determined, now, it is time to get to the point, how to find something you like?
At the heart of this is "getting started":
If you want to be a writer, then start writing.
If you want to become a video blogger, start writing scripts, recording videos, and cutting films.
Stanford's Life Design Class gives 2 metrics to measure how much we like something:
Flow moment: Refers to a state of mind in which the whole body is devoted, and was proposed by psychologist Mikhari Chiksen Miharai.
People who enter a state of flow usually have the following characteristics:
Fully committed.
There will be feelings of extreme excitement or ecstasy.
Clarity of mind – knowing what to do and how to do it.
Shows surprising composure.
It feels like time is still, or it feels like time is fleeting.
Energy Levels: What makes you energized and exhausted in the same amount of time? There is a classic sentence in the book: "If your work does not stimulate your vitality most of the time, then it means that it is killing you little by little."
We use these two dimensions to measure how much we "like" things.
For example, when you are cooking, you are prone to "flow" and stay active, and you enjoy cooking.
When you analyze data, it is easy to enter the "flow" and stay active, and you like to analyze the data.
At the same time, in order to more precisely and granularly screen out what you like, the book also provides the "AEIOU Rule":
A: What are you doing, are you a leader or a participant?
E: What is your environment like?
I: Do you interact with people or machines?
O: Do you interact with objects, electronic devices, or sailboats?
U: Were there any other people at the event, and what role did they play?
After doing each thing, you can analyze it from five dimensions, and with the help of these "grippers", you will find the things you like more accurately.
Design thinking creates your life
Amazingly, you'll usually find more than one thing you like, and they can be difficult to decide, but Stanford Life Design Class gives a very unique view:
There is no such thing as the "best option" in life, and as long as there are enough solutions, we may choose a better one, which is the view of designers.
In the past, in our imagination: finding something we like is like finding a soulmate, in fact, the path of life is far less "narrow" than we think, and we can have many plans at the same time.
In fact, only if there are enough roads will there be no missed possibility because of information blind spots.
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So, how can you dig up enough life plans?
The solution presented here in the book is: Mind Map:
The process of making a mind map consists of three steps:
1． Choose a topic
2． Make mind maps
3． Make secondary connections and create concepts (connect concepts together to create concept mashup patterns)
After writing down your initial idea, you can associate it with 5 to 6 related concepts. Be sure to keep a strict and objective record of the words that come to mind first.
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Now, repeat the same process on the second level, drawing 3 to 4 lines around each word, and each word is free to associate some related new words. Repeat this process until you reach the third or fourth layer.
This process only takes 3 to 5 minutes. You can set yourself a time limit, get it done quickly, and don't think about whether your idea is reasonable.
Pick a few of the more interesting things (or something that appeals to you right away), scramble them together, form a few concepts, and you can pick words from the outermost layer of the mind map, because there are at least two or three words between the outermost words and your conscious mind.
Friend Little A took "Creation" as the theme and made a mind map according to the steps, and the final keyword was: "Subversion, Deep Thinking, Falling into the City", from which she thought of a makeup artist or a costume designer, which gave her great inspiration, she likes to think and draw, but she never thought of combining the two.
This way you can tap into the information blind spots in the brain.
Please follow this method, find out some ideal careers, and write out the three most wanted to work in the next 5 years.
After deciding on three life plans, what we need to do is "low-cost trial and error", that is, "prototyping".
A good prototyping asks a question about an aspect of a problem and then designs an experience for that.
For example: I want to be a costume designer, but I want to know if I really enjoy the process of working. At this time, you can find a job as a costume designer assistant to observe the real life of the designer.
The book also offers a low-cost prototyping – dialogue. For example, ask 10 fashion designers to talk about their work content, industry background, and employment status. You can make a preliminary understanding of the target industry in advance and make an interview outline to improve the efficiency of communication.
The above is the three parts of this book, so let's use it!
Write at the end
Before the age of 18, we were busy pandering, busy pursuing, busy becoming someone, but at some point in life, we realized that we were pursuing too many things, only to lose ourselves.
Looking for something you like is actually "looking for yourself."
And in this process, the most touching thing for me is:
When you do insensitive, nasty work, even if everything else is good, you will still feel that there is something wrong with it. And when you find something you like, it's like retrieving a puzzle that has been "missing" for a long time, and that happiness is indescribable.
Finally, hopefully, we can all retrieve the piece of the lost "puzzle."
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Author: Wang Tong
Image source: Pexel
Debut: Yidianling0
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