When it comes to family education, parents and xiao chat will always complain that the child gets older, how to always listen to some garbage, the teen group rock music and what swearing and grinning rap, which will not make the child become negative and depraved? And those online games of fighting and killing, movie videos, doesn't that make kids violent? And those comic books, dramas, watching this child all day can still grow up and face reality?
Why do kids have their own pop culture?
Now please ask parents to follow the small chat, put themselves into the role of children, and feel it again. Kids have their own pop culture for two reasons.
First, it is difficult for the intergenerational aesthetic to coincide with resonance
As Pan Weibai sang in the song: 70's retro me the highest, to the 80s to shout what B Boys B Girls, Lets Make Some Noise, 90 years We wait for the millennium party electronic music crazy play all night
Every generation is like this, the 7080 generation likes the little tiger team, the four kings, fresh sunshine positive energy; the 90s K-pop suddenly, like the Korean singing and dancing group, cool handsome; and then the next generation, like TFBOYS, left hand right hand a slow motion; and the new generation, like the domestic variety of draft fresh idol combinations. You will feel that you can't sing accurately, can't dance, and don't look good, what do you like?
Watching children indulge in pop culture that we don't understand is actually equivalent to the elders who listened to a big river with wide waves and don't understand why we should listen to the four kings? What would you do if you followed your elders to love this? Will be abandoned by peers. Most of their peers will exchange these pop cultures. The most important role of these things that children communicate is to integrate, and children have their own social circles and integrate into circles through common topics. Being isolated during adolescence is a terrible thing, and it can also cause serious consequences such as interpersonal barriers and even inability to adapt to school life.
Second, the frontal lobes of children's brains have not yet matured
The frontal lobes of the brain are responsible for motivation, impulsivity, and addiction.
To put it bluntly, children's brains like strong stimulation and like products with intense emotions. That is to say, the brain at this stage does not support children to enjoy the pleasure brought by deep reading and complex logic.
What should I do if my child is addicted to pop culture?
The cultural products that children usually like generally have a sense of pleasure and strength. Intense esports games, bloody comics, superhero movies, love-hate, fantasy, impulsive and desperate romance novels.
● If you can rest assured that the child is growing up normally, you can actually let him go.
Don't show contempt and denial, when checking out misguided content, such as indulging in pornographic violence, then you have to offer something better than simply stopping and repealing it. You can ask him to give up these unhealthy things, but be sure to give something more advanced.
● If you are not at ease and worry that children will see bad content and cause a lack of character, you need to participate.
Deeply engaged, lower your stature, in front of these new pop cultures, parents are beginners, children are experienced masters, you have to listen with them, watch together, feel the content together. Communicate together, laugh together, show respect and seriousness about their affection, and can offer different opinions, but discuss rather than command. Respect their ideas and opinions.
The above is a little chat about some of today's thoughts, if you think what I said is a little reasonable, please pay attention to me ~