The second brother-in-law gave me 5,000 years of money, how to give his 2 babies? The netizen's answer lit up
Come and go without being rude also
Whether it is in peacetime or in the Spring Festival, the most important thing for people to get along with is to come and go and pay each other
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After the Spring Festival, many parents began to take their children to relatives
At this time, the children are often very happy
Like myself when I was very young, what I look forward to most every year is to go to the New Year after the Spring Festival
Grandparents, grandparents, uncles and aunts, uncles and aunts
When families worship like this, my little wallet tends to become bulging
That was the richest time of my year!
However, time always passes in a flash
In the blink of an eye, I have become the father of my children
At this time, when I went to my relatives' houses to visit the New Year, the most I did was to give the children money
At this time, I realized the embarrassment and embarrassment of my parents when they went to their relatives to visit the New Year
On the surface, it seems that it is a very simple thing to press the old money
However, behind it, there are often hidden complex human feelings
My mom said it when I was very young
"You children are taking the old money, but what we adults send is your personal relationship with me."
Indeed, in life, "pressing the old money" is also "human debt"
Especially with the economic development in recent years, people's incomes have become higher and higher
Originally a simple and unpretentious traditional custom of giving red envelopes
Gradually, he was covered with a veil of different human feelings
If a person doesn't have a little bit of emotional intelligence and wisdom
Then it is easy to fall into the passive position of "dumb eating yellow and even having words of suffering"
Or unconsciously fall into embarrassment and offend others
02
In my impression, when I was a child, I encountered a very embarrassing situation of sending red envelopes
At that time, my family was not rich
But my parents were hospitable and friendly, so they were very popular with relatives
Every Spring Festival, they would call a large group of people from the family to my house for a party
My mother's cooking skills have also been recognized by many people
That year's Spring Festival, on the second day of the first year, my parents called my relatives to come to the party as usual
Everyone had a reunion dinner with joy
After that, the parents began to play mahjong in piles in several bedrooms, while the children played in my sister's room and I
After a while, my mother came in and distributed red envelopes to the children of relatives
And my aunt also followed suit and gave red envelopes to our two brothers and sisters
So a few of us kids were excited to get together to see how much money we had
As a result, my sister saw that my mother gave my aunt's sister a large red envelope of 200 yuan
But what my aunt gave me was a small red envelope of 100 yuan for each person
At this point, my sister stopped doing it
Crying and shouting
"Aunt, how do you give me and my brother 100, my mother gives my sister 200, you don't hurt me and my brother at all!" I don't like you anymore."
The sister's cries made the adults in the house embarrassed, especially the aunt
At this time, my mother hurried to play the round field and said
"You and your brother add up to 200, don't cry, your aunt hurts you and your brother the most."
But my sister and I still felt it from the bottom of our hearts
The aunt was too stingy, and even felt very uncomfortable at one time, why did her parents give her sister 200
But my aunt and uncle gave us 100!
But now when I grow up, I think about it
In fact, my family has two children, and my aunt's family has one
The law given by adults is very fair and reasonable
Only blame us at that time for being young, which made my aunt fall into embarrassment for a while
It's so ignorant!
03
In the past two years, with the vigorous implementation of the "two-child" and "three-child" policies by the state
Many families with only one child have responded to the call to "pursue life"
As a result, the number of children in many families is rising
For the other part of the family, the policy is the policy, and they still only want one child
So there is a situation where the number of children is not the same between families
At this time, when the New Year is visited, it is very testing people's feelings and emotional intelligence
I have to admit that how to give red envelopes to children is still a big science
The day before yesterday, one of my colleagues, A, complained in a group of a few of our men
He was "calculated" by his brother-in-law
It turned out that on the first day of the first year, A took his daughter to his brother-in-law's house for dinner
Before leaving, A and his wife discussed that they would give the two children of the brother-in-law a large red envelope of 500 yuan for each person
After the result arrived, I did not wait for A to send red envelopes to my brother-in-law's children
The eldest brother-in-law's wife gave daughter A a red envelope of 5,000 yuan
And very happy to bless his daughter said
"Happy Spring Festival, this is the big red envelope given to you by your uncle and aunt."
We wish you good health and better academic performance throughout the year."
Couple A looked at such a large red envelope and immediately stopped saying it
"The child is so small, don't give her such a big red envelope, she won't spend money"
At this time, A's brother-in-law said very strongly
"You two are angry that I'm angry when you postpone it again, is it too little or what?" This is what I gave to my niece, leave it alone."
Seeing that the eldest uncle was a little angry, the couple had to let their daughter put it away, thanking the uncle and aunt for the "pressure money"
Then the family began to eat
However, when they think of the 500 yuan red envelope they prepared, couple A is really a bit unpalatable
I was even more embarrassed to give it to my brother-in-law's children
A meal is eaten seven times and eight times
In the end, the two still decided to give the brother-in-law's children the next time the money was pressed, and this time they would not send it first
After that, they didn't sit for long and went home immediately
So A asked us
"Isn't this calculating me, how do I give his two children?"
Indeed, if you give your child a bag of 2500, it is also a bit unlucky
But if you pack 3000, you will lose 1000 at once
Everyone discussed for half a day, no one has a particularly good method, it is recommended that A post online to ask
Soon some netizens saw A's problem
Obviously, some people feel the same way as A, thinking that the brother-in-law is a pit man
"This brother-in-law is not kind, his own two babies, give 5000, this is obviously to let you pay 1000 more, this relative can not be punished"
But some netizens think
"Everyone is a relative, and watching the brother-in-law's behavior is also really loving his sister and niece."
Maybe people don't think so much at all, such a close sister and brother, don't think so much
Give 2000, give 3000, don't worry so much."
It has also been argued that:
"Give a 2500 is the most appropriate, no one suffers."
As for the meaning of the numbers, they are all illusory things, isn't 2500 fragrant? ”
Listening to the suggestions of netizens, several of us agreed that the netizens' statements were quite reasonable
As for how much A should give, or don't think too much, it is best to start from each other's feelings
04
In life, there are not a few examples like Colleague A
Even many times, if one does not pay attention, we will offend others when we send red envelopes on New Year's Day
Finally, "two losses of human feelings"
Parents must remember that when issuing money, they should consider each other's family situation more
and the number of children between the two families
On this basis, parents will easily figure it out
How many red envelopes should you send to the other child
Try not to lose money, and don't count others
Although it is sophisticated, it is still recommended that everyone have less routines, more sincerity, and exchange sincerity for sincerity
As for the occasional "you are more, I am less" situation, don't be too careful with each other!
Well, today's content is here, these two days to visit relatives have you not encountered any embarrassing things
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