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In the issue of fertility, the children are the expectations of many people, if one child is a daughter, many people will not hesitate to choose to have a second child, even if the second child is also a daughter, the feeling of having two small cotton jackets is also very good.
But if one child is a son, then many parents will lower their expectations and are unwilling to risk having a second child, after all, it is difficult for two sons to eat whether it is financial or energetic.
This is a very normal psychology, because the cost of raising children is increasing, from a practical point of view, the future cost of boy parents on their children is generally higher than that of girls, so only if one child is a daughter, many people will be assured of having a second treasure.
But not long ago, when talking to a post-90s colleague about related topics, he gave a different point of view.
The colleague and her husband are a 91-year-old couple with a daughter in kindergarten.
Since the daughter went to school, the two began to be given birth to a second child by the elders of the family, for which the colleague very simply refused.
Her reason for refusal was simple: because my husband and I loved our daughter so much, we were reluctant to let our second child share our love for her.
Later, colleagues also said that they and their husbands were already saving money to buy a house for their daughter.
They are ready to mortgage a house of about 80 square meters in the city, and when the daughter grows up, this house can be used as her dowry, and if necessary, it can also be sold as a start-up fund.
Finally, the colleague firmly said: If we choose to have a second child, it will definitely reduce the quality of life of our daughters, my husband and I are only children, we are very aware of the advantages of only children, so we do not want to give our daughter younger siblings, only one child if we ourselves are much easier.
There is a classic topic on the Internet: one child is a daughter, will you still have a second child?
I thought there would be a lot of positive answers, but in the comments section, many people gave unexpected answers.
If one child is a daughter, will you have a second child? The answer of the post-90s dad is thought-provoking
A 92-year-old mother left a message: My family is a daughter, if a child is a son, I will consider another daughter, but a child is already a girl, I am very satisfied, I want my daughter to be an only child, I want to give her the best.
Another post-90s bao dad also expressed the same meaning: if the first child is a daughter, he will not have a second child, because few parents can do a bowl of water, even if the parents can do it, it is difficult for the elderly in the family.
If the second child is a son, the family will hurt the daughter if they are slightly eccentric, and the reason why they do not want the second child is that they do not want the daughter to be wronged.
Another mother admitted that although society is advocating equality between men and women, women are the weaker party in both the workplace and the family.
If you want your daughter to live well in the future, parents must provide reliable backing for her, only if the mother's family is strong and economically powerful, girls can have a stable position in marriage.
In the eyes of these post-90s parents, it is good to have both children and daughters, but the combination of one son and one daughter also has disadvantages.
First of all, it is difficult for parents of two children to be even in a bowl of water, especially the second child is a son, and the family's preference for sons and daughters will cause harm to the girl, so parents prefer to give all their love to their daughters, so that she can experience the joy of being an only child.
Secondly, many parents now realize that girls need a strong backing in the future marriage, so as a working class, these parents are more willing to do their best to create a better family condition for their daughters and let their daughters live a confident life.
Finally, only one daughter is selected, which also satisfies the wishes of many mothers who "only want to be a mother-in-law, not a mother-in-law", after all, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is particularly prominent in today's society, and the mother-in-law's contribution is not flattering and the daughter-in-law's restraint and patience are very wronged.
Xuan Dad has something to say
In real life, the first and second children have their own advantages and disadvantages, and it is often the concept of fertility and economic conditions that determine the willingness of a couple to have children.
As parents, no matter how we choose, we should be responsible for our children, especially in the two-child family, parents must be a bowl of water, otherwise it will have a very adverse impact on the growth of children.
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