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Some people said: "In WeChat, there is an unspoken rule: the circle of friends you send, others can't see at all." ”
In fact, this sentence is not entirely true. The circle of friends you send, no one likes, leaves a message, does not mean that others have not seen, but there are many people passing by, and there are very few people who leave traces.
When the circle of friends is no longer as lively as it was at the beginning, there is a kind of person who has developed the habit of opening the circle of friends every day, but does not like, does not leave a message, and does not send a message.
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Opening the circle of friends is a habit and a nostalgia.
Huan Wen, a chancellor during the Eastern Jin Dynasty, served as a taishou and a general and traveled to many places.
When he was serving as the Inner History of Lang Evil, he planted a willow tree in Jincheng. During the Second Northern Expedition, he passed by Jincheng with his sergeants, saw that the willow tree had become a big tree, and said with emotion: "Life is like a tree, how can it withstand the ravages of time?" When he finished, he grabbed the wicker and covered his face and cried.
When he went to Shudi, he suddenly felt that loyalty and filial piety could not be both. The look of his parents haunted his mind.
There are two lyrics in "Nostalgia": "I am just nostalgic, there are no other distractions, you have a new vision, I am no longer short-sighted, how can I even have a time limit for memories this year." ”
People have memories, although time will make us forget a lot, but there are always some pictures that cannot be erased completely.
If this is not the case, why see a familiar person, the circle of friends set for three days to see - only a horizontal line is left, it is lost?
A few years ago, we were used to taking pictures with our hands, posting our lives to the circle of friends and basking in the sun. Carefully edit the picture of the nine palace grids, leaving a few intriguing words. After a while, many friends liked it.
Of course, in the circle of friends, everyone can help each other. No matter who has difficulties, as long as they are known by their friends, they can say a few words of comfort and can also make a move. Relatives and friends can also contact offline and bring warm pictures to life.
Now, I occasionally see familiar friends, "bubbling", although the stay is short, but it will arouse an inexplicable feeling.
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Leaving no trace is not wanting to please others and be true to yourself.
The writer Su Qian once said: "At this age, no one wants to please anymore, and whoever is comfortable with them is with whom, including friends, and when they are tired, they will hide away." ”
Having experienced too many things, seeing the ups and downs of the circle of friends, I suddenly feel that a cold life is what I want. Whether it is merit or pain, it is all passing clouds.
Zhuge Liang during the Three Kingdoms period was in the State of Wei with his father when he was a child, and when he grew up, he went to the State of Wu as an official. After the establishment of the Jin Dynasty, Sima Yan, the brother-in-law of the emperor, wanted to talk to him, preferring to hide in the toilet rather than meet.
Everyone has a different path to go, even if they are passers-by, they are only walking together, not together for a lifetime. If you think about it carefully, you will find that the companionship of husband and wife is the longest love, the love of parents is the most worthy of cherishing, and the love of children is the most sincere.
Therefore, in the circle of friends, there are always some people who will not leave any traces, even if friends send wonderful pictures, or encounter difficulties, they are indifferent. If there is a real need, talk to each other and understand each other's situation.
If you send a circle of friends, but never give others a thumbs up message, you will feel embarrassed. You will also consider that the fact that you have "seen the circle of friends" has been discovered, but if you do not interact with people, you will be mistaken for "too arrogant".
Especially some people in the unit, colleagues around them, like to give the boss a thumbs up and leave a message, but you do not go to the fun, it seems a little different. But if you insist on not leaving a mark in the circle of friends, everyone will "get used to it".
Reducing the intersection of emotions from the traces is that they are not pleasing to each other, and whether life is good or not, they must "be safe for each other".
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Leaving no trace is to reject emotional attrition and maintain a distance from friends.
Writer Haruki Murakami said, "No one likes to be alone, they just don't like disappointment." ”
In Zhihuli, someone asked: "Why did someone send a circle of friends and then delete it later?" ”
Enthusiastic netizen "Little Sleepy Beast" said: "Sometimes I send a circle of friends to get a response from others, but no one pays attention to him for half a day and thinks that he has deleted it." ”
Yes, no matter who sends the circle of friends, it is to get some attention, at least a few familiar people, a thumbs up. If you are half a day old and no one pays attention, you will feel disappointed, and then you will change your view of the circle of friends.
The ancients said: "Come and go, indecently also." ”
Interaction is the least polite, but you can't force someone to interact with you. Seeing the truth of the matter, you will live through it, and you will not be enthusiastic about "liking".
Too much effort to maintain a relationship is a self-consumption. You have done a lot of things, but the other party does not approve of it, but will feel that you are very contrived.
"Plain and indifferent is true", with distance social interaction, it will become very plain, but contradictions, suspicions, attacks, ridicule, etc., will disappear.
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Many times, we always think that we like someone and will always like it, but then we are separated. Separated for too long, and then reunited, suddenly found that the first sentence, do not know how to open, think of good lines, slipped a little on the lips, after all, did not say it.
It turns out that the best trace is "I put you in my heart", no matter where you put me.
People will like the new and tired of the old, looking at things will be aesthetic fatigue, and anything will be new.
Adult socialization, scattered, when turning to leave, will not even say hello.
Therefore, the correct way to open the circle of friends is: what you want to send, that is your freedom; whether there is anyone to like and leave a message, it is the freedom of others. Everyone is used to being themselves.
A lifetime is not long, the most important thing is that you live comfortably, and you do not hinder the comfort of others.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.