Previously, Feng Gong released a Douyin video, which quickly became a hot topic on the Internet.
The video content is that Feng Gong and friends are having dinner outside, and he is still popular.
After being recognized by the fans who ate at the same restaurant, people kept coming over to toast Feng Gong.
At first, a middle-aged man came over and said that the child wanted to take a picture with you.
Feng Gong did not hesitate in the slightest and immediately stood up for a group photo.
Feng Gong had just sat down, and before he could move his chopsticks, another man and woman came to toast.
Feng Gong immediately got up and smiled and touched their glasses.
Feng Gong sat down for less than a minute, and people kept coming, and some people even directly filled Feng Gong's cup with juice.
But no matter what kind of demands they put forward, Feng Gong tried to meet them one by one.
Feng Gong is 64 years old, just one meal, was interrupted several times, his face turned white, and his friends who had dinner together could not look at it.
He asked Feng Gong, sir, are you annoyed with your old photos?
Feng Gong replied: When others ignore you, it is really annoying you, don't bother, that is our God.
Before Feng Gong could finish speaking, the toaster came again. Although a little helpless, Feng Gong still stood up very politely and touched the cup.
After the video was released, there was an exclamation in the comments section.
Some people say that they should learn from Teacher Feng;
Some people say, let Teacher Feng eat something;
Some people say that Teacher Feng is the real artist.
Since he first appeared on the Spring Festival Gala in 1986, Feng Gong has been a regular guest on this stage, and the phrase "I want to die for you" is well-known.
It was not until 2019, because of his age and health, that he quit the Spring Festival Gala and had a complete Chinese New Year's Eve with his family.
However, even so, Feng Gong's popularity has not diminished so far.
Why did Feng Gong become popular to this day?
Not only because of his exquisite cross-talk skills, but also because Feng Gong has always been humble and low-key quality.
He knows how to respect the audience, he knows how to position himself, and he lets people know what a true virtue and art pair should be.
It was a small outing, and he also did it to make people like it.
People live to the extreme, not how much wealth and fame they have, but always understand:
Seeing people above people and seeing oneself as human beings below them.
If you want to become a big tree, don't argue with the grass.
The general has a sword and does not chop ants.
This is the most hidden unspoken rule in social, and it determines how far you can go.
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Seeing man above man as human
In other words, when you are doing well, you must not despise those who are not living as well as you.
Treat others equally and give them the respect they deserve.
Just like Feng Gong has long been famous, but for those ordinary people who come to toast, he is still extremely humble.
Although it is the norm in society to hold high and step low, it is not high to climb the elite, not to look down on ordinary people, but also to respect yourself.
A few months ago, in Shenyang, Liaoning Province, a vehicle scraping incident made the whole network angry.
A mother rode a battery car, carrying her son, rushing home, unexpectedly, with a white Mercedes-Benz SUV.
Although witnesses at the scene claimed that the cause of the accident was that the passengers on the Mercedes got out of the car and opened the door and did not pay attention to the battery car behind them.
But the Mercedes-Benz came down with two men who were five years old and three thick, and they slapped and kicked the mother again.
After the incident, enthusiastic citizens gathered around, blocked the Mercedes-Benz car from leaving, and called the police.
Afterwards, the two men in the Mercedes Benz were taken away by the police.
A small vehicle scraping accident, calmly to negotiate, there will be no conflict.
However, the two men in the Mercedes-Benz car, consciously "superior to others", hit the female owner of the battery car and sent themselves to the police station.
In this world, there are always people who feel that they can do whatever they want if they are rich and famous.
However, not treating others as human beings above people, being domineering, and only shortening oneself.
Da Vinci said: Humble people become noble.
A polite and humble person dressed in fresh clothes and angry horses can win the recognition and respect of others.
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See yourself as human under others
When you are proud, don't look at everything.
When you are down, or when you are at a low point in your life, don't be arrogant and self-effacing.
On the contrary, in daily social life, you still have to be humble. If life is really hard, you may as well work steaming.
When I was a master's student, I used to go with my supervisor to visit his hair xiao.
When we went to visit, he had no fixed job and only earned a few hundred yuan a month.
But in the village in the city, his rental house was cleaned up.
He raised several pots of flowers, got up early in the morning to sprinkle water, and raised a few goldfish.
In addition to this, he plans to teach himself English in preparation for his next job search.
He fell into the dust, did not complain about himself, but still worked hard and strong to live.
I was blown away.
In that particular era, Shen Congwen was sent to Xianning, Hubei Province.
He moved again and again, and his daily tasks were to guard the vegetable garden, make pigs, and have a variety of diseases such as heart disease and high blood pressure.
But he didn't care.
In the middle of summer, the lotus flowers bloom and the blossoms stand tall.
He wrote to his cousin Huang Yongyu: "Here are lotus flowers all around, very splendid, if you come to see the lotus flowers..."
In The Old Man and the Sea, it is said that man can be destroyed, but he cannot be defeated.
In our lifetime, we cannot have a smooth life.
There are falls, you will encounter the hard blows of life, but in any case, do not give up your dignity and efforts in the first place.
You can only see what is on the other side of the hill if you try your best to cross the hill.
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If you want to become a big tree, don't argue with the grass
What kind of people can cross over and become more free?
The most important thing in socializing is not to be entangled.
To become a tree, not to quarrel with the grass, to be a goshawk, not to sing with birds.
Don't be easily kidnapped by rotten people and bad things, don't be easily swayed by the opinions of others, and don't fall into a fruitless thing at will.
The writer "Good Master" has told a personal experience of his own.
He once went out with the leader to investigate.
In the morning, I came out of the hotel to catch the road, and casually found a roadside stall for breakfast.
They had just collected the dishes on the table, but they were stared at by a man with a cigarette in his ear.
The man said that before he had finished his breakfast, they had collected the cutlery.
Master Liang said to buy another breakfast for the other party, but was refused, and he asked Master Liang to compensate him for a hundred yuan.
When the two argued, the leader directly opened the briefcase and took 100 yuan to the man, and he immediately put an end to the flag.
Master Liang felt that the leader was too good to bully, saying that it was clearly a rotten person and deliberately blackmailing us.
Unexpectedly, the leader immediately interrupted him and asked him, knowing what is more important?
Yes, if you get entangled, this thing will be endless, which is both a waste of time and a reduction in its own pattern.
Spending 100 yuan may not seem cost-effective, but it will not affect the bigger things.
Bai Yansong said: Sometimes, we live very tired, not because life is too mean, but because we are too easily infected by the atmosphere of the outside world and swayed by the emotions of others.
Spend your time on people and things that are truly worth it. No obsession, do your best.
Learn to stop losses in time, not let emotions dominate you, and don't waste too much energy on things that will only consume you.
In this way, you can live independently and well.
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The general has a sword and does not chop ants
This is the most overlooked point in social, or interpersonal interactions.
How can we become a truly respected person in the social arena?
This requires that you not waste too much time on small things, but work hard to cultivate your own strength and have the "Sword of the General".
Many people are envious of Li Ziqi.
A girl with a low education and average appearance has become a top Internet celebrity, why?
They don't know.
This girl, born in 90 years, silently filmed short videos for several years before becoming famous.
During this time, she rejected almost all advertisements, and commercial offers.
She patiently polished it just to make a video footage that has a personal style and is liked by ordinary people.
A video, from shooting to editing, she takes several days.
For a few seconds of close-ups, she often had to shoot two to three hours of footage. To make a sauce, she photographed from spring to winter.
In the first 4 years, the bamboo was only 3 centimeters long, and from the fifth year onwards, it grew at a rate of 30 centimeters per day, growing to 15 meters in six weeks.
In a month, for the first 29 days, the lotus flowers can only bloom to half of the pond, but on the 30th day, they will be full overnight.
Nothing in this world has ever been born, nor has it suddenly been envied.
Until then, you can only talk less and do more, stay up hard, and then you can be amazing overnight.
With strength, there will be real socialization, and there will be the interpersonal communication you want.
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Schopenhauer said: "People are like hedgehogs in the cold winter, too close to each other will feel stinging each other, too far away will feel cold." ”
In the adult world, maintaining a relationship with others that makes each other comfortable is an emotional intelligence and an ability.
Some people say that social or interpersonal communication is nothing more than three kinds of relationships:
Look down, look up at the peace.
The looking downper is too arrogant and easy to burn others;
Those who look up, often demean themselves, are easy to hurt their inner dignity;
Only those who look at each other can not only not be despised by the other party, but also win enough true feelings and support for themselves.
People in the real big picture, in the high place is not proud, in the low place is not inferior, focused on the most important things, free and dashing work.
May you and I know the world like Feng Gong, but not the world.
Mature people don't ask about the past; smart people don't ask about the present; open-minded people don't ask about the future.
Living the present moment equally, modestly, and diligently is something that all of us should act quickly on.