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Tang Ruoxin learns original works, and those who violate them will be investigated
A person's strength is inseparable from the change of self-habits, the more you can master your own habits, the more you can find a better self.
Essentially, the energy of life also depends on our habits, and the more you see the beauty of life, the more grace you see in life, the easier it is for you to jump out of your own little world.
If we want to make our lives stronger, we need to constantly change our own habits and know how to treat life with good habits, and your life will get better and better.
First, do not complain about others, and learn to seek revenge on yourself
In life, you will find that people who are really strong in their hearts must not be complaining about others. If we resent others, we are lacking in our hearts for our lives.
A person with a rich heart rarely resents others, but truly understands others. They deeply understand that it is not someone else's fault that others are not satisfied with themselves, but our own fault.
The essence of learning to seek oneself is to find the subject of growth in oneself, rather than to completely push the responsibility to others. In fact, when you know how to find the reason in yourself, you will also understand that in fact, everyone can only be 100% responsible for their own life.
Others cannot be held accountable for our lives. Even in the face of disrespectful treatment of us by others, we don't need to be angry, because we can't decide how others treat us, but we can treat ourselves with the best cultivation.
Learning to respect our own lives is also the basis for us to become strong, when we face the injustice of others to us, we will not complain about others, but know how to get rid of the influence of others on us, and truly be strong inside.
It is very important for one to learn not to complain about others, and this importance comes from our respectful attitude towards life and the degree of self-abundance that we see.
The more we see the abundance of life, the less we are intimidated by superficial difficulties and setbacks, but with courage to move forward.
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Second, reduce excessive desires and understand enough
In the process of growing up in life, we also need to understand the fact that you need to go from dissatisfaction to contentment.
Dissatisfaction often makes us dissatisfied with life and with others. And learning to be content, from a certain point of view, is to know how to see the benefits of others, but also to know how to be grateful.
Feng Zikai once said, if you love, you can love everywhere in life, and if you hate, you can hate everywhere. Learning to be content and grateful is that no matter what the circumstances of life, gratitude allows us to see the infinite grace of life.
A good life is the process of constantly discovering one's own abundance. The more you find yourself, the more content you become. Contentment does not mean that our lives do not grow, contentment is to know how to reduce our excessive desires, but to spend life on greater growth.
True contentment is to reduce the unnecessary consumption and burden of life, but to think about investing more meaningful things in your life.
If our lives continue to satisfy our excessive desires, not only will we not be able to improve the quality of our lives, but we will also lose ourselves because too many desires obscure our inner knowledge.
Therefore, being good at reducing the excessive desire of the self is the wisdom of returning to the true nature of life, and it is also the wisdom that makes us know how to cherish life.
For example, if we think every day about what we want to eat and wear, we will be trapped by what we see. For example, if we eat well every day, we are easily controlled by food, and if we stay in good clothes every day, we are easily controlled by appearance.
And the true mind will be obscured, and naturally your life will forget what the most important purpose and goal is.
The essence of contentment and happiness is to see what you have, to understand the essence of life is the process of continuous evolution of consciousness, and to keep your consciousness at a higher energy is the most important thing in life.
Third, improve the habit of over-taking, and be blessed to be given
In life, the vast majority of us are used to taking, and moderate demand is the need of interpersonal relationships. But excessive taking robs us of the blessings of life.
Excessive taking prevents us from seeing the grace of life, and more importantly, excessive taking is also a manifestation of inner scarcity.
Excessive taking is also an insatiable manifestation of insatiable greed from a certain point of view, and it is also the root of the inability to develop the self. We habitually rely on someone and forget the ability to develop ourselves.
And when you know how to improve over-taking, but know how to reciprocate and learn to give, your life will continue to grow.
In essence, people are constantly practicing their lives in dedication and struggle, life is a fusion of the environment, and it is also a process of knowing how to use the environment.
The book "Robinson Crusoe" tells the story of Robinson when he drifted to a desert island, from the past to the carefree boy to later learn all the survival skills, and finally made a boat to successfully achieve self-escape.
So from a certain point of view, learning to give is a manifestation of self-abundance. When you are rich in your heart, you will know how to give and give.
Not taking too much is, in a way, a process of maintaining a kind of self-energy, and when you are giving and giving, your personal growth experience and wisdom are also gradually growing.
Always believe that true strength comes from our inner habits and our attitude towards life, and the more you know how to improve your attitudes and habits of life, naturally your heart will become stronger and stronger.
Today's topic: Do you think that inner strength is related to our personal habits, welcome to discuss and communicate.