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Every ordinary person deserves to be treated with tenderness, and they have existed, even if they are very small.
Life is not meant to be great, but to pile up many insignificant reasons.
Nervous mood, open the unknown world behind the door, although it is chaotic, but full of life.
On the walls, on the ground, there are also many college exam materials.
There were also many blood-stained tissues, medicine bags. And those notes, post-it notes.
The owner of the room, has passed away.
These scattered things are silent, but if you look closely, you can infer the life story of an ordinary person:
Young people from poor backgrounds who have to give up their college dreams, in order to subsidize their families' livelihoods, intern in the black heart factory.
Although he overworked, he still cherished ideals, worked hard, studied hard, and was exploited in a down-to-earth and serious manner.
After being injured at work, I still remember my mother telling him to be grateful for this job, to work hard, and to lose his life in the middle of the night when he endured the pain alone.
And the black heart factory, in order to compensate less, half coaxing and half threatening, continues to oppress, bullying the deaf and dumb parents of interns, hoping that they will accept the meager private fees, which is a personal operation mistake, not a work injury.
And all this is silently watched, gently relaying the last message to the parents of the deceased.
They are relic sorters who specialize in the collection of relics for those who have died.
housekeeping? Garbage collection?
This is probably worse than the forensic and funeral industries, which are even more unpopular and misunderstood.
I believe that the vast majority of people, ignorant of this industry.
So when I opened this Netflix exclusive original Korean drama "Move to Heaven: I Am a Relic Finisher" in 2021, even if I was best prepared to be emotionally hypnotic, I still cried until dawn and stayed up all night to watch it.
Reluctant to wait until the next day, look at the stop in the middle, wipe the tears, watch the little sweet drama, slow down and come again, and then cry.
Netflix tear-jerking drama, brave to face the bone feeling: be a good person, live a good life, do not do evil
Behind each death, an untold story is elicited.
This drama seems to be a gentle knife:
Welcome to the real world, to face the unavoidable, incomprehensible, powerless, helpless.
When I saw this book, I thought it would be a continuation of the similar plot and supplementary of the TV series,
But I didn't expect it, and added a little different mood -
"Relic Sorter"
The author, Kim Wan, was born in Seoul, South Korea, and in order to become a professional writer, he began to live in the countryside in his thirties. In the years since, I have been interviewing and writing in Japan, just as we first heard about the concept, which was the Japanese movie "The Mortician".
He became interested in cleaning up the mess for the dead. After returning from Japan, he founded Hardworks, a special cleaning service company, to work while documenting his true feelings about the lives and emotions of the deceased as he faced the scene of death.
As soon as this book was published, it became a phenomenal bestseller of the year.
01 What do we leave behind in the end?
Each essay in the book, unlike the work diary we think, is a record of an impressive collation experience, and describes it without presupposition or prejudice.
With great empathy, he looks at each client and thinks about what each death leaves behind.
The girl who was born ordinary but was unusually kind, when deciding to end her life, can be concerned, as much as possible to reduce the burden of the people who tidy up the room for her, do a good job of garbage classification in advance, when you see the rare orderly, you can imagine the impact of the author:
Why didn't she keep this kindness to herself?
Or is it this kindness that becomes unbearable in her short life?
Hu Lan's passage about the "midlife crisis" experience of the haunted house in "Talk Show Conference" laughed out loud happily every time he saw it:
Those banks and institutions that collect fees, credit card bills, and loans may hope that the parties can be healthy and live a long life than their relatives and friends:
Live to be old, and be old.
Relic sorters also often have to face such scenes:
When there is no contact with each other, or distant relatives suddenly hear the news of the deceased's death, few people will stand up in pain and say, "Well, I will bear all the costs of hosting his funeral and cleaning the room." ”
Instead, it will consider whether it will be saddled with debt and quickly sign a letter of guarantee to renounce the deceased's estate.
There are still many lives that have been messed up, and in their dark rooms, they can also feel pain, messiness and despair.
It seems that most poor people will die alone.
Poor, lonely, like two good friends, walking alone in the world side by side.
Born from the heart, things can also show the owner's past, and various relics are arranged on the scene, reflecting all kinds of ordinary people.
It doesn't matter if it's right or wrong.
The background of life is loneliness and desolation.
At the end of the day, life is all about going it alone.
Every kind of survival is not easy.
Human tragedies and joys are never connected.
No one can really do it and empathize with others.
But I can also read the positive thinking of symbiosis in the negativity:
We use a lot of things every day, we reach out to a lot of people, we do a lot of things, we produce a lot of cause and effect, we live so hard, what will we really leave behind in the end?
If one day, the traces of our existence in the world are to be shown to strangers, with this mentality, will our way of life be different?
If we take the above questions with us, re-examine our lives, change ourselves, and in order to create different answers, will we rewrite the outcome of our lives?
I don't think everyone's answer should be the same.
The same is that if you have thought about it, come up with your own answer, and then run your own life, there will not necessarily be a huge change, but you will not easily regret it.
02 See all beings, see yourself
After carefully reading the book, the daily life of the relics arranger actually became clear and perceptible.
In the author's eloquent records, we can experience the hardships, specialness, and lack of understanding of this profession.
As the author said, it was not until 2018 that the profession had its own independent name, relic sorter.
However, in the list classification, it is still not a separate industry classification, and it is also classified as cleaning housekeeping, epidemic prevention personnel and plumbers.
Because the author maintains an omniscient mindset, an attitude of respect and understanding, coupled with sensitive observation and excellent continuous writing, we can understand:
In addition to being delicate and industrious, this job especially requires a strong physique and a strong heart:
The degree of visual impact of various types of scenes, unimaginable physical exhaustion and skill blessings, and indescribable mental shocks and emotional fluctuations after each completion of work.
Even if the author's writing has been very vivid and relaxed, but under careful consideration, it is sincerely admired.
Would you go for a career like this?
I believe that most people's answer is no.
This seems to be the inevitable negative side of this professional experience.
He will also begin to doubt his choices and persistence because people doubt the work scene of life:
Who am I to clean up the garbage dump created by this incomprehensible person?
Why?
What's the point?
At least he found a way to be self-consistent:
With gentle and strong empathy, the author provides the last service for these stopped lives,
Not only cleaning up relics, garbage, traces, he was also cleaning up his own heart.
Probably why a writer transformed into this job, collecting material, exploring himself, both.
For example, in those unsatisfactory garbage mountain scenes, people's habits before they were born can actually see how satisfied they are with their living conditions.
If they can use the garbage mountain as a comfort nest and throw money in the garbage heap, doesn't that mean that his life can be treated so casually?
He is also full of tenderness, not stereotypical doubts about these people:
Maybe they are also cynics in life, not trapped by money, and live happily like dogs.
All existence is noble, all life is worthy of gentleness, and everyone's survival is not easy.
There will even be a deeper sense of life:
No matter what kind of life choices, the right to choose freely is more important.
After repeated experiences, he summed up the characteristics of commonality:
Who you are, your underlying thinking, will determine what you can see, what kind of self you see.
If we see extreme loneliness, it means that we can easily immerse ourselves in loneliness again;
If you see fear and uneasiness, despair and pain, it means that some unknown corner of your heart still has these emotions and memories.
Similarly, seeing that people at the bottom are still trying to make efforts to live their lives in difficult situations will also make him feel encouraged:
When people are crying and laughing, it is better to choose to laugh.
Maybe I'm willing to have a good day just for a good meal tomorrow.
Next year, in order to see a cherry blossom, this year is a good one.
Why not give yourself a regular mental stress test?
Only those who can really digest these negative emotions well and overcome their mentality can be competent for the daily life of this job.
Through books, we feel the experience that we will not have, and it is also a process of seeing sentient beings, seeing heaven and earth, and finally seeing ourselves.
03 How to face the "old disease and death" calmly?
This is actually a no-no proposition.
The most ironic point of human life is that they always have to live with death on their backs.
It seems that we have been trying to live, delay aging, and avoid illness, but we are always afraid of death, unwilling to mention, and unwilling to face.
The common sense of the person who can never be calm.
Author, touch death at any time, think about death at any time.
It has surpassed ordinary people, and has a more objective and calm attitude towards death, but it is still impossible to avoid the contradictions in the heart:
In the face of other people's praise and evaluation of him every day, he is a great person, and he will also have this sense of satisfaction;
Come back and face the real and clear death again and again, bear the pressure of the heart, and smash the somewhat ethereal beauty into pieces.
The more he accomplishes in his work, the more people die.
Only truly kind people will feel sad about this and reflect deeply.
To live to the dead, to put the place of death and to be reborn, is actually the same open-mindedness.
As Haruki Murakami said, death is not the opposite of life, but eternal existence as a part of life.
In the face of death and illness, the laws of nature that cannot be changed, we may be powerless against the world, we can only change ourselves.
In a limited life, I will always miss, always have regrets, but seize the time, take action, love and experience.
Read favorite books, do what you want to do, meet people you want to meet, change yourself who you want to change, and love things that are fleeting without reservation.
Make a long wish list, big or small or naïve, it doesn't matter, and then start to realize them from now on.
Cherish the time spent together and improve the quality of companionship.
Balance your desire ambitions with contentment and calmness, maintain a moderate sense of crisis anxiety pressure and mental and emotional stability.
Can't live a perfect life, try not to regret it.
After experiencing the magical 2020, facing natural disasters and man-made disasters, the impermanence of the world, in addition to the pain, there is also the cherishing of their own calm days.
Think of the volcano erupting in Tonga, the hard-working ordinary people in the flow, I can suppress the fire of the bald opponent at work.
I'm already happy and lucky.
Cultivating a more open-minded outlook on life to see the world is probably the biggest gain from reading books on these subjects.
Those who survive life, old age, illness and death will certainly be able to continue to carry on well.
Author: Xiao Mao, the reading account "Yun Tan Feng Loves To Read", the film and television drama review account "Yun Tan Feng Qian".
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