When you're old, you can't walk
Snooze by the fire and reminisce about youth
How many people have loved your youthful and cheerful hours
Admire your beauty with false or genuine intentions
Only one person still loves your pious soul
- Yeats, "When You're Old"
Throughout the ages, people have longed for love and longed to have it for a long time. Marriage is also considered to be the ultimate destination of love, and it is the best ending.
But what kind of love can make us enter the palace of marriage? What kind of love makes us hand in hand for a lifetime?
Psychologist Robert Sternberg believes that love is a triangle, and the three corners of this triangle are passion, intimacy and commitment.
Intimacy is a kind of experience that feels close and warm between two people. Simply put, it is to be able to bring people a warm feeling experience.
Passion is a state of "intense desire to be united with the other person." In layman's terms, it is to see each other, there will be a feeling of excitement, and with each other, there will be an exciting experience.
Commitment is a guarantee of maintaining a love relationship, divided into short-term and long-term.
The combination of elements produces different types of love: liking love, obsessive love, hollow love, romantic love, partner love, stupid love, perfect love and so on.
Among these types, the love that finally enters marriage and spends a lifetime together is mostly companion love.
Passions cool down over time, and people often feel disillusioned, especially for those who see passion as the basis for a union and a long-lasting marriage.
But passion is never the key to maintaining love. The initial romance will gradually change into a more stable and affectionate companionship of love, accompanied by each other, committed to each other.
When your face grows old, when the style is no longer, when the passion fades, there will still be such a person around you.
You may quarrel, you may make trouble, but after all the fuss, you still hold each other's hands.
Statement | Yinggoshin
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