Winter break begins! Jing An, the psychology teacher, has time to plan the "artifact": 1 A4 piece of paper and 2 pieces

Shencheng primary and secondary school students officially ushered in the winter vacation today. Faced with a blank calendar of about 1 month, have you already started to chant, "Hurry up and make your schedule!" "After a busy semester, children will inevitably relax and laziness, and over time, it will definitely cause you new anxiety."

How to guide children to effectively plan their time and spend a fulfilling holiday? On the eve of the holiday, Jin Xiaoyan, a 12355 Shanghai Youth Online Psychological Counselor and a psychology teacher at Qiyi Middle School Affiliated to Tongji University, gave a video lecture to all the students of the school and showed her time planning "artifact": 1 A4 paper and 2 "blind boxes".

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Take stock of the gains and losses of the year

In Teacher Jin's view, during the winter vacation, the "psychological impact" that children have to experience comes from the Spring Festival, which Chinese attaches the most importance to. When relatives and friends get together, they will inevitably chat about the latest situation, and by the way, they will boast about "other people's children". This is a difficult process for many teenagers - they do not want to be talked about in public, not only by their parents to openly point out shortcomings are embarrassing, even if they are praised, it is easy for some children to feel that they have become the "tool people" of their parents to show off their lives.

"Children don't want to hear their parents' evaluation of themselves in front of everyone for the first time, on the contrary, these words can be talked to him at home." Jin Xiaoyan suggested that at the beginning of the holiday, you may wish to review the past year with your child first, and analyze your "highlight moment" and "darkest moment", which can not only help children increase their perception of life, but also let children know themselves more clearly and have more motivation to plan for the future.

Jin Xiaoyan suggested that you can use the long side of the A4 paper to fold 2 times, the wide side fold 3 times, divided into 12 grids, some of the moments experienced in 2021, filled in the grid, can include some people, some things, an instant, etc. that make you unforgettable, written in the area where you are located. It can include the following, such as a moment, a smile, a hug, a back, a touch of color, a song that has been looped, a message that warms you, a taste of home, some names that give you courage, a thing that you have done with all your might, something that leaves regrets but does not regret, and so on.

Visually count unknown tasks

The holiday challenges everyone's self-management ability, Jin Xiaoyan suggested that if you feel that the "to-do list" is not effective, you may wish to try "visual inventory", more ceremonial and more intuitive. On the one hand, you can use the file box to divide the homework into two parts, "completed" and "unfinished", on the other hand, you can make two "blind boxes" as a reward or punishment for completing the task or not.

"Parents can discuss with their children some things they want to do during the winter vacation, some careful wishes that they want to achieve, write them on small cards, and let the children get the surprises and happiness they make for themselves after completing the tasks on time." At the same time, Jin Xiaoyan said, another blind box can "punish" themselves for completing some things that they don't want to do but are beneficial, such as eating a bite of food that they don't like but are good for the body, cleaning the bathroom, and so on. In Jin Xiaoyan's view, such two blind boxes can not only increase the fun of life, but also help children expand the boundaries of life outside of textbooks and homework.