Prologue [Breeze] Words
Broken mirrors cannot be recirculated because there will be scars. Many divorced couples are like enemies who are old and dead and do not interact with each other.
But everything is not absolute, as long as the pain is released and the love is sublimated into affection, there are still couples who can reunite.
In 2005, 31-year-old Zhao Jinlong plucked up enough courage to express his love to Zhou Yuying, who was a few years older than himself.
But Zhou Yuying had a condition that was difficult for him to accept: "I must take my paralyzed ex-husband."
Isn't this "one maid and two husbands"? Can such a marriage and such a family be happy for a long time?
However, such an alternative "family of three" has actually lived together for 16 years, how big is this experience...
What is even more incredible is that Zhou Yuying's two husbands have also become good brothers, is it family affection or love between these three people?
First, encounter is the fate of the underworld
More than 20 years ago, in Shang'an Village, Xinxing Town, Songyang County, Lishui City, Zhejiang Province, two young men and women who were related to each other were destined to come together.
The name of the young man is Liu Haojin, and the name of the young lady is Zhou Yuying.
At that time, many children from rural areas would choose to work in big cities when they grew up, and so did both of them.
Coincidentally, two people who did not know each other before actually came to Hangzhou City, which has the reputation of "heaven on the top and Suzhou and Hangzhou on the bottom".
In 1994, under the introduction of friends from their hometown, Liu Haojin and Zhou Yuying saw each other's style.
When they first met, the two were shy, but they also had feelings for each other.
At that time, Liu Haojin was very young and looked honest, and Zhou Yuying was also very gentle, exuding the simplicity of a rural girl.
Back and forth, the two gradually became acquainted, becoming the epitome of the foreigners of that era taking care of each other.
In 1994, Liu Haojin, who loved each other deeply, married Zhou Yuying in his hometown, and the two married happily and became a legal couple.
That year, Zhou Yuying was 22 years old.
The sweet married life, accompanied by the birth of the daughter, seems more warm and happy.
After having a daughter, Liu Haojin worked harder and harder, doing carpentry at home to make money when the farmer was idle, weeding and planting seedlings when the farmer was busy, and the beads of sweat hung on his simple face, which looked crystal clear.
And her wife Zhou Yuying is also a qualified good wife and mother, she takes care of her children, washes and cooks at the same time, and she takes care of everything in the house in an orderly manner.
"You plough the field to weave cloth for me, I carry water to water your garden", Zhou Yuying and her husband, a loving couple like a "cowherd weaver girl", made many friends around them very envious.
Second, the reeds are like silk, and the rock has no transfer
Every couple longs to grow old with a white head, but the moon has clouds and sunshine, and many things are "difficult to complete in this matter", even Liu Haojin and Zhou Yuying can not escape their fate.
In 2000, the sixth year after Zhou Yuying and Liu Haojin married, an accident occurred.
On that day, Liu Haojin was doing carpentry on the roof, and as a result, the plank suddenly broke, and he fell straight down from the third floor, and the whole person lost consciousness in an instant.
On this day, Liu Haojin nailed wooden planks at a construction site in the town, and the wooden planks suddenly broke, and Liu Haojin was defenseless and rolled down directly from the third floor.
At that moment, Liu Haojin personally collapsed directly on the cement floor, and the workers immediately sent him to the hospital.
Looking at her dying husband, Zhou Yuying begged the doctor to save his life.
Although he was saved by the hospital, he lost consciousness in his lower body and was identified as a first-degree disability: paralysis of the lower body.
In the future, he can only sit in a wheelchair, unable to walk upright, incontinent.
At the same time, in order to treat her husband's illness, Zhou Yuying took out all the savings in the family, and even the tuition fee prepared for her daughter was not left at all.
Of course, with a series of rehabilitation treatments after paralysis, Zhou Yuying also owed a lot of debts to relatives, which made the already poor family even worse.
The top beams and pillars of the family have fallen, and there is a daughter who is waiting to be fed, and Zhou Yuying does not know how to face the future life.
It is said that "husband and wife are originally flying with forest birds and big difficulties", and such family changes are the touchstones that test the feelings of husband and wife.
The husband is paralyzed and the children are young, which should see no hope for a rural woman who does not have any skills.
She can choose to go away and take her daughter to live alone... But Zhou Yuying, who was kind in his bones, did not escape.
She did not complain about her husband, let alone dislike him as a waste, but took the initiative to shoulder the burden of life, no matter how bitter and tired, she will not give up.
One day, two days, the days of suffering are slowly lived, people often say "no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time", but Zhou Yuying's persistence is 5 years!
In the past few years, Zhou Yuying has never had a word of complaint, and she is waiting for the paralyzed Liu Haojin with a and a urine, and the whole person is much older.
Especially the mother's family, they all felt worthless for Zhou Yuying. They feel that such a day is not a long-term solution, if not, divorce and remarry, after all, there are still children.
Of course, her husband Liu Haojin was also ashamed, he felt that he was very sorry for Zhou Yuying, and he couldn't bear to watch her suffer with himself.
In order to do this, Liu Haojin often enlightened his wife Zhou Yuying and said: "Yuying, or we will divorce each other, I don't blame you, you find someone to marry again, only our daughter can be taken care of."
Every time she heard her husband say this, Zhou Yuying would cry into tears, she had never thought about divorce, and she would never abandon her paralyzed husband.
"A king is a rock, and a concubine is a reed." The reeds are sewn like silk, and the rocks are not transferred", such a good woman whose love is stronger than gold is really rare under the heavens.
Third, there is a kind of love called letting go
One day in 2005, after Zhou Yuying settled down with her paralyzed husband, she took her daughter to a nearby tea garden to pick tea to make money.
She bent down to pick the tea hard, and before she knew it, the sweat had wet her clothes, and the daughter next to her said to her painfully: "Mom, you drink water and rest"!
At this time, a young man who was also working in the tea garden came over and said to Zhou Yuying: "Big sister, rest meeting, it is not easy for me to watch you take the girl, I will do it for you for a while."
The two looked at each other and smiled. During the conversation, the young man told Zhou Yuying that his name was Zhao Jinlong, his hometown was from rural Anhui, and he was 31 years old this year.
Afterwards, Zhou Yuying learned from the villagers that Zhao Jinlong, a young man, was very down-to-earth and very able to bear hardships, especially the craftsmanship of making tea was very good.
Slowly, after the two became acquainted, Zhao Jinlong learned about Zhou Yuying's unfortunate family encounter, her husband was paralyzed, her daughter was young, her in-laws were old and sick, and all the burdens of life were on Zhou Yuying alone.
He admired the woman, who was a few years older than himself, and sympathized with her misfortune.
After that, Zhao Jinlong would often help Zhou Yuying to work, and he was willing to share some of the pressure of life for this woman who was serious about love and righteousness.
Zhao Jinlong saw kindness and strength in Zhou Yuying's body, which aroused his desire to protect and even moved his heart for Zhou Yuying.
A single lad circled around a married woman all day, which had to make outsiders gossip. Soon, this matter was discovered by Liu Haojin.
Of course, Liu Haojin did not blame Zhou Yuying, but asked everywhere about Zhao Jinlong's character, and he wanted to find another good man for Zhou Yuying.
After a period of observation, Liu Haojin felt that Zhao Jinlong, a rural boy from other places, was really good, and he wanted to entrust his wife Zhou Yuying to him.
At this time, Zhao Jinlong did have ideas about Zhou Yuying, but because the other party was married, he did not have the good sense to open his mouth.
Seeing that Zhao Jinlong and Zhou Yuying were in agreement, Liu Haojin had both blessings and some loss in his heart.
However, he did not want to see Zhou Yuying suffer for a lifetime with himself like this, which was too selfish, so he filed for divorce and let Zhou Yuying remarry.
Subsequently, Liu Haojin said to Zhao Jinlong: "As long as you are willing, I will fulfill you and Zhou Yuying, but if you dare to be bad to her in the future, I will not let you go even in a wheelchair."
Zhao Jinlong assured Liu Haojin that he really wanted to take care of Zhou Yuying and was willing to be good to her for a lifetime. In this way, Zhao Jinlong made his thoughts clear to Zhou Yuying.
At first, Zhou Yuying refused to remarry. But Liu Haojin's heart has been decided, he must divorce, in fact, Zhou Yuying also understands her husband's hard heart.
But the only requirement she promised to remarry Zhao Jinlong was that she must take the paralyzed Liu Haojin with her, otherwise she would not divorce her when she died.
Even if you have a child, you also have to take a paralyzed ex-husband, such a marriage is really unheard of for Zhao Jinlong.
For a long time, Zhao Jinlong could not sleep at night, but he could not deceive his heart, and finally agreed to Zhou Yuying's request.
In May 2005, Zhou Yuying and Liu Haojin officially divorced. A month later, Zhou Yuying and Zhao Jinlong received wedding photos.
At that moment, Liu Haojin cried bitterly, but he knew in his heart that "there is a kind of love called letting go, as long as the other party can live well, everything is worth it."
Fourth, a hundred years of repair must be crossed by the same boat
After getting married, Zhao Jinlong followed Zhou Yuying's wishes and lived in Liu Haojin's home, and the three successfully formed an alternative family of three of "one woman and two men".
At the beginning, Liu Haojin's daughter was very resistant, and she did not recognize this stepfather at all.
At the same time, the neighbors in the village also felt that Zhao Jinlong had a brain problem, and a good young man who was married to the head let him live in someone else's house with a thick face.
In the face of the rumors of the outside world, Zhao Jinlong did not flinch, and he fulfilled his promise to Zhou Yuying.
In ordinary days, he not only loved Zhou Yuying, but also regarded Liu Haojin's daughter as his own.
Of course, for the paralyzed Liu Haojin, Zhao Jinlong did not feel diaphragm, but regarded him as his own brother.
In order to allow his wife Zhou Yuying to have time to rest, Zhao Jinlong took the initiative to shoulder the burden of taking care of Liu Haojin.
Every day, he would help Liu Haojin wash his face, change his clothes, and clean up his bowels and defecations.
Of course, people's hearts are all flesh, and Liu Haojin is also very grateful to Zhao Jinlong, who regards the other party as his younger brother, and even more regards Zhou Yuying as his sister.
The life of suffering can never crush a strong heart, and between the three of them, they tolerate each other and take care of each other, although the days are hard, they are also harmonious and warm.
What is even more gratifying is that after marriage, Zhao Jinlong also worked very hard, with the good craftsmanship of making tea with one hand, he and Zhou Yuying worked for others and slowly started their own tea business.
In just a few years, they paid off the debts they had previously owed for Liu Haojin's medical treatment, and later they built a new house, and the family's life slowly improved.
In this way, the three of them have gone through more than 10 years of ups and downs under the same roof, and even though they are not related by blood, they are always close as a family.
Some things can only be felt if you have experienced them firsthand. If, at the beginning, Zhou Yuying took the initiative to divorce Liu Haojin, I think there is nothing wrong with it, after all, women are not easy to be born.
But her kindness and great love do not allow her to abandon her paralyzed husband, and this great love has been sublimated more into affection.
For Zhao Jinlong, he could have resolutely given up looking for another person when he learned of Zhou Yuying, but he made a decision that thousands of men did not dare to make, carrying the heavy pressure that he did not have to bear.
Later, Zhou Yuying's family was rated as "the most beautiful disabled family of the most beautiful Zhejiang people", perhaps this is what people often say, "a hundred years of repair to the same boat, a thousand years to repair to sleep together".
Knot [breeze] language
Once upon a time, the carriage and horses were very slow, the letters were far away, and there was only enough to love one person in a lifetime.
But what I want to say is that in this life, who to be married to is predestined.
Encounter is the fate of the underworld, two people love each other and enter into marriage together, it is a kind of fate, good fate and bad fate, no reason to gather, no reason not to come.
For the special families of Zhou Yuying, Liu Haojin and Zhao Jinlong, this kind of fate is even more encounterable and unattainable.
They are practical actions to interpret the "suffering to see the truth", this "unparalleled in the world" love touched everyone's soul!